not sure if I will be around much

[Kellie]

sorry Ellie if I am not here much, although I use it as an escape, I just cant take things at home with my husband anymore, I dont want to be treated like this, I want to be treated like a princess not a peice of dirt. where is my prince charming to save me? anyway, I am not sure whether I am coming or going, he wont leave and I have nowhere to go. sorry to go on, just want to escape and vanish.

[Michele]

Oh Kellie is it that bad? So sorry to hear this.

[Kellie]

it is.

[Michele]

I always say you only live once and life isnt a dress rehearsal. I always tell mysle fthis everytime things get bad and usual I find the answer. Good luck and i'm you want ot chat and dont want ot chat on here send me an email. Good luck.

[Kellie]

Thank you, I would love to have a life , as I said, I need a prince to come rescue me, LOL, may be 60 when it happens LOL

[Wheekster]

Have you been in touch with Citizens Advice? If you look in your local phone directory your nearest one will be listed. Just a thought as they may be able to help you. Some times that Prince can be a long time coming and we have to make the first step ourselves :) If you need to talk we are all here for you. ((((((((((((( HUGS )))))))))))))))

[Kellie]

Thank you, its just taking that sstep, its so damn hard, no money, no family and 2 small kids and pets in tow just dont help, the council housing here is atrocious and I love my home that I own. I'll figure something out, I just needed to let of some steam.

[lukey]

thats really awful how anyone can treat you like that... i feel ashamed to be a man... you are obviously so kind and loving, even I can tell that and iv only seen you post around the forum let alone live with you... at times like this you really need to be with your family, surely than can help and support you no matter how far away they are

[Kellie]

Thank you Lukey, shame a lot of men are not very caring. I just couldnt admit to my family how he treats me, they think he is mr perfect and constantly remind me. I go back to work next week too, I am dreading it.

[squeakypigs]

I am so sorry to hear how bad this has got to. I was hoping when you spoke to me earlier that the talk tonight would help... not make things worse. Perhaps go and spend time with your family for a week. You don't need to explain why but perhaps the space for now will do you good. You can figure things out while you are away and when you go back you will have a better idea of what to do next. I am sure your family wouldn't suspect anything but be pleased to see you and your children. If you did decide to do something like that and need someone to look after the piggies or anything just let me know and I would be happy to help.

I just hope that you can find a way which will make yours and your children's lives better. You deserve better... don't let this break you!!

[Kellie]

Thank you so much Ellie, I hoped that the talk would help too but he basically couldnt care less. I think I may take all of your advice and go to my parents for a few days, if I manage to get there, I have terrible sense of direction LOL.

[cutecavy]

Aww Kelz, I do hope everything will get better. That husband of yours better start treating you like a princess or I will set my piggies on him >:( If you need any advice or help with anything at all, please just ask me via email, msn, pm or whatever.

Livie

x

[Kellie]

Thanks Livie, hes gone to bed anyway. we havent spoken all night.

[cutecavy]

I don't know what happened or anything but whatever did, I'm very sorry!

Livie x

[lukey]

has it just suddenly got really bad or has it gradually got worse? I mean surely he was great to start with... men are strange, I know people say women are hard to understand but I dont even understand myself let alone women, and were all the same unfortunatly, some more than others... there must have been something which triggered him off down this road of disrespect and carelessness, you should never think that its anything to do with anything you have done or anything about you, the problem lies with him...

really hope you can sort this out... im sure there are plenty of people willing to look after your piggies while your gone and il add my name to the list... thats one less thing to worry about if your going away for a few days

[squeakypigs]

Have just sent you a message via pm...

[Hersheys mom]

Kellie, I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at home. Use us as an escape, that is what we are here for. Dont underestimate how good your piggies can make you feel. I am alone a lot and I sometimes get depressed. At the times that I feel the worst, Hershey cheers me up. Just the funny things he does always brings a smile to my face. If you need to talk we're here.

[cutecavy]

Has he ever hurt you in a physical way? Like slapped you? You don't need to answer those questions but if so then I really think you should take your piggies and Children and move out until you decided what to do. Maybe live with your parents?

Livie

x

[Kellie]

He has come close but I told him if he did I would call the police, and he hasnt raised a hand to me since. He has thrown things to ust miss me though. Why oh why does he have to be such a good dad though!!!

[StromasDragon]

Am so sorry about what going on wish i could help I dunno what else to say you have my hugs sent your way

[cutecavy]

Aww, what a hard time this must be for you! Just don't let him get you down, I know it's easier said then done but be strong for your children and piggie and for you! Think things through from the beggining to end and make a plan. Maybe go for a nice walk where you can think without being bothered?

Livie

x

[Kellie]

I think everything has been said LOL. it was nice nice to be heard for a change and for people to realise my life aint perfect like I pretend to make out ;D

[cutecavy]

Aww, it must be so hard for you :( I can't imagine - my family (My parent, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins etc) are so close together. We nearly all live no longer then 10 mins away from each other and always get together, and I love them all to death! I can't imagine how it must be for you :'(

Good luck!

Livie

x

[StromasDragon]

No matter how your husband treats you, Your Piggy will always think you a Queen

[Kellie]

Right thanks to all your encouraging words I have now decided to do the hardest thing I will ever have to do, I am going to either make him leave or I will find a new home, even if it is with council I dont care, myself being happy for my shildren is now all that matters!!

[cutecavy]

I think that would be for the best, see .. your such a good mother Kellie!

Good luck and let us know how it goes! Your family is in my prayers!

Livie

x

[Kellie]

They sure do Stroma!!

[Kellie]

LOL, hard to see with blurry eyes

[claire]

Awwww Kellie so sorry to hear this.

Im only accross the bridge in Lincoln but i am from Hull and all my family still live in Hull.

I go over to Hull quite a bit and if you ever want to meet up for a cuppa and a chat then im here. Just email me.

Hope things get better for you soon

Love

Claire
x

[Kellie]

Thats a lovely offer Claire thank you so much.

[starshine]

Well done you for being so brave!

We are all here for you if you need a friendly ear!

Kate

[Kellie]

Thank you!
I am now waiting for a council house as i put my name down on the list today, dave going to stay at his mams in the meantime!

[michellemuffin]

Kellie love, have just read the postings and all about your hard times, I've been lucky in being married for 27 years this July but I cannot say its all be plain sailing, but your hubby sounds very disrespectful and a bully, at least he has given you some space by going to his mums, be strong and think you have adorable kids and wonderful animals to pull you through the coming tough months, I'm always here as your adopted mum if you cannot talk to your mum, my sons also 24 so am probably same age as your mum, I've had a lot of practiceas well, my 20 year old son is married and has a 2 year old daughter and I'm always sorting the pair of them out lol, joking aside if you want to chat please email me anytime I've got age and experience be strong sweetheart,

[StromasDragon]

Well done you, You have gotten the ball rolling, Am always here if you need a chat

[bevs]

And maybe this bit of breathing space for you both might be just what's needed for you to sort things out. (Trying to look on the bright side)
Love and hugs,
Bev x x

[Kellie]

Thank you Michelle! my parents have been married for about 26 years! I put them to shame LOL, I was reading some of my online diaries and things have been like this since 2004. I am starting to look on the brightside, either way, things will work out, I am not going to be unhappy for the rest of my life!
Thank you Bev, would be good if we could live happy ever ater, dont know if that would happen though :)

[Wheekster]

Awwwwwwwwww, Kellie, you are being so brave.... good on you for sorting things out! ((((((((((((( HUGE HUGS )))))))))))) to you :)

[Hersheys mom]

Kellie, I'm glad about your decision. It will be the best for you. Sometimes you don't know a man untill youv'e lived with him for a while. I found that out the hard way. If you ever need to chat, I'm here. Keep us posted like you have already!Best of luck! Keep your head up!

[Kellie]

Thank you honey, I am doing so much better already !!

[Wheekster]

I am so glad to hear that ;D Did the council give you any idea of roughly how long you may have to wait, or do they have to do their paperwork first? Hopefully they will be able to give you an idea soon :)

[Kellie]

Paper work forst but thats only a back up, I am still on the family home right now as Dave said its for the childrens best interest. thankk goodness :)

[Wheekster]

At least he has the childrens best interests at heart. How are the children? and you too?

[Kellie]

the children are great, Ella is very happy, she said that we are all happy and that makes her happy, she sees him every day as normal , from when he comes in from work to when she goes to bed. I cant argue with the fact he's a good dad. He is also starting to try and work on things to with us . will take a long time but fingers crossed.