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I have to say that I'm shocked! I knew it could happen and it did happen but in my case...I'm getting bullied by the store manager.
I can't believe it! What a pathetic man.

It started off slowly...
He talked behind my back...Thinking I'd never hear of it yet I over-heard him myself and he talked bad about me to the wrong people, aswell! Apparently all of which stood up for me! Which most likely made the whole situation worse.
He seems to have realized that bad-mouthing me isn't the way to go...
So he then tried telling me that if I didn't stay away from my friend, he would sack him...I was absolutely gob-smacked...There was no one to witness what he had just said...So he planned that move well.
And then a few days later...I loaded up my lift with stock to take downstairs to the 1st floor, I close the lift and walk all the way down to find my store manager coming out of the lift that I just loaded! And the lift was empty!
He acted dumb but then made ME go back up and get the stock...He only touched me briefly but he more like forced me into the lift by cornering me in a way and then just closed the door on me!
I hate lifts but at the time I felt I had to use it...As I didn't want to come out of it.

I told my department manager about it and asked "Why is he bullying me?" she was stunned, she knew there had been problems but didn't know I felt that way so she complained to the manager just above her...And nothing happened.
The next day, my department manager comes rushing over to me, pulls me into a quiet room and she says that I'm right and I am being bullied.
I've been there for 5 years and no one has ever had a problem with me, when I wanted extra hours, one of my superiors gave them to me the very next day and even started training me up so I could help with other things around the store. I've always been praised for my work...It's nothing fancy, I simply get a delivery of baby stock every day and I put it to shelf, tidy my area and then put remaining stock in the stock room. It's nice but sometimes challenging so it keeps me happy, I work hard...I take pride in my job.
But that day, the store manager told my department manager that I was s*it at my job and he wanted to cut my hours!

It's been a good week or so since then...And tonight...Well he crossed the line and I don't know if he realizes that he's doing the dance of death with the wrong girl!
He stood OVER me. Towering over me as I was tidying my area of the stockroom...And he just stood there for a good 5 minutes...Watching me.
I ignored him and carried on jibbering on to myself, as I do rolleyes
Which seems to have angered him more...Too bad for him that there are two witnesses to this and both said to me afterwards "Wow, that's what I call intimidation."
And that is exactly what he was doing...He was trying to intimidate me.
It'll take more than one man to do that. I grew up with my 3 brothers and my dad...Some, lanky, scraggly, pathetic excuse for man will not strike fear into my heart.
So I have now made another complaint and the area manager for the south-west will now be informed.

Things could get rough but I'm not about to let a coward play the big man.
 
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What a horrid experience, but well done on not being scared of him. Let us know what happens, it sounds like everyone else is supporting you.
 
Sounds as if you are a strong woman! I hope you get the situation sorted out.
 
He sounds pathetic! I hope you're documenting where and when things are happening and are recording all the dates/times. Hmmmm. Hopefully you can get him sorted and then karma will come and bite him on the bum too!:))

Well, I only just started that yesterday, I really thought he'd just get the message, realize I'm not afraid of him and stop...But it seems he's a bit thick and he doesn't seem to understand that.
But I'll be taking my pad with me to work and every single thing he does and says will be recorded and I'm not afraid for him to know that, either.

It's sad because 12 months ago...I'd have let him walk all over me. I really would have. I've met so many people over the past year, so many amazing, strong willed people and I've made so many wonderful friends...I've changed so much and I am stronger than I ever thought I could be.
I was quiet and withdrawn but now I've come out of my shell and I'm afraid my doormat days are waaaaaay behind me.
 
I am sorry you are in such a horrible situation. Definitely write everything down which is what I am doing with muy bullying colleague too. This sounds horrendous though, definitely intimidation and he can't get away with it.
 
I am sorry you are in such a horrible situation. Definitely write everything down which is what I am doing with muy bullying colleague too. This sounds horrendous though, definitely intimidation and he can't get away with it.

Oh, no, you're getting bullied at work, too?

It's so pathetic, isn't it, I thought all that stuff got left behind in school. Adults should really know better.

It really makes me mad. grrrr
 
I know you would think we would have left it all behind at school. Mine isn't as bad as yours just niggling things and nasty comments (see my winge thread from last night) but it all adds up and affects my wellbeing and then I get in trouble for being off sick too much.
 
I've been going through an experience very similar to this. Unfortunately the majority of things happened to me when no-one else was around so it was always my word against theirs and at the time I was so upset the last thing I wanted to do was acknowledge it was happening let alone write it down. As soon as I started to get HR involved the women who were involved backed down but it's started again recently. HR suggested I wrote everything down. Even if it's little things that you think are a bit trivial, and dates and times too.

Although mine is with two older women (who really should know better), and I can't imagine how it would be if a man was doing it, I do know how upsetting is is.
 
Gosh, what an awful man. Well done you for stepping up ti this pathetic excuse for a Manager.

If I were you, I would keep a diary of events of what he does to you. That way, you will have evidence if things go further xx
 
Well, I only just started that yesterday, I really thought he'd just get the message, realize I'm not afraid of him and stop...But it seems he's a bit thick and he doesn't seem to understand that.
But I'll be taking my pad with me to work and every single thing he does and says will be recorded and I'm not afraid for him to know that, either.

It's sad because 12 months ago...I'd have let him walk all over me. I really would have. I've met so many people over the past year, so many amazing, strong willed people and I've made so many wonderful friends...I've changed so much and I am stronger than I ever thought I could be.
I was quiet and withdrawn but now I've come out of my shell and I'm afraid my doormat days are waaaaaay behind me.

Glad to hear tha you won't put up with any nonsense, once apon a time I used to just let people walk all over me but not anymore! so good on you-c


What he is doing is called harrassement and he can be done for it in the workplace
http://www.yourrights.org.uk/yourri...-treatment/age-discrimination/harassment.html

also because you won't stand for it you could also be a target of victimisation
http://www.yourrights.org.uk/yourri...eatment/age-discrimination/victimisation.html

no one should be bullied in the workplace, I used to get deliberately ignored by one person and it makes your self esteem very low:(
 
He just totally ignored me today and I mean in that excluding way. I was stood by the back doors waiting for the delivery, two other people were there and he said hello to both of them and just looked at me and then looked away and carried on.

Not a problem for me, I prefer him not speaking to me but when he does say hello and get my name right, I always reply with a smile and a "hello" of my own. He's still my manager and I'm not one to be rude to people but still, he excluded me, that's very rude and after what's happened, that also goes against him.

Needless to say, I wrote that down, too.
Thank you for the links, it's nice to actually KNOW my rights.
 
He just totally ignored me today and I mean in that excluding way. I was stood by the back doors waiting for the delivery, two other people were there and he said hello to both of them and just looked at me and then looked away and carried on.

Not a problem for me, I prefer him not speaking to me but when he does say hello and get my name right, I always reply with a smile and a "hello" of my own. He's still my manager and I'm not one to be rude to people but still, he excluded me, that's very rude and after what's happened, that also goes against him.

Needless to say, I wrote that down, too.
Thank you for the links, it's nice to actually KNOW my rights.

I feel for you as I know how degrading it feels to be ignored by a collegue especially for petty reasons.

There must be a reason n his mind as silly as it is why he is treating you this way? maybe he feels you may get his job? he sounds very childish whatever:{
 
you're doing the right thing and by standing up for yourself without being confrontational, it'll only frustrate and irritate him, without giving him anything to 'report'. Maybe he'll realise and back off, or better, he'll dug himself into a big big hole. Keep it up, have fun with your other colleagues so he knows it's not affecting you! even if it does but he won't know any better.
 
what is wrong with these people? i really feel for you all, its just totally unacceptable

There is enough stress in this life without bullies adding to it
 
There must be a reason n his mind as silly as it is why he is treating you this way? maybe he feels you may get his job? he sounds very childish whatever:{

I've been trying to work it out...But it truly baffles me.
I've been nothing but nice to him, I always do my job...But it's like he wants to oppress people or something. He takes pride in putting you in your place...The only problem is, I know that my contract says nothing about these places he's trying to put me in.
He wants everyone to be silent at all times, we're not allowed to stop at all and although he said we can talk to other staff when it's relevant to our job...He's still had problems with me doing that. Both times he's complained about me, it's been because I've been talking to other staff...Both times I was helping those staff with a job they've never done before.

When he made the "No talking" rule, I laughed. Which probably didn't help but I thought he was kidding! What kind of psycho makes a no talking rule...When you work in retail and you're out on the shop floor...Serving customers?!
If we don't talk to each other, we can't even build basic team work skills...But then, I was one of few who basically didn't care. It hasn't changed me, I still do what I've always done. Maybe that's what it is, he probably realizes that he can't keep me down and that scares him, no matter what he's thrown in our direction, I've always kept on smiling.
Everyone else seems to give in and they walk around with their heads low when he's around and they don't even look at each other...Where as I wave to staff I see, always say hi and ask how they are.

When I finish my job, I always go and help someone who's still going and needs an extra hand and he also really hates that.
No other manager has ever had an issue with who I am and what I do, so I know deep down that I'm doing my job properly.
Maybe I am wrong, maybe we're supposed to stand with straight faces, never smile and never speak to our colleagues...Maybe I have it wrong but I'm not willing to believe that. But I know that if I need a hand, I can ask almost anyone in store and they will help. Why? Because I make the effort to speak to everyone...Which is alot more than this guy does.
 
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What a bully - I hate people like that! Well done to you for showing him your not afraid or bothered
 
Hope you have a better week this week, but make sure you dont talk to anyone and dont even think about laughing or having fun, it isnt christmas you know xxxxxx
 
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