Dont know why this has annoyed me so much?

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Ive took in a few piggies lately from owners who have either badly mistreated them or are bored of them. I'm collecting two more tomorrow. Well my oh's mom likes to interfer and i talk alot about my piggies and now shes going around telling all the kids in her family to get some. Ive explained that you cant just get them for kids, they need to understand how to look after them etc and the parents need to know they need to take over if the kids get bored. Well its been bugging me for a while now.
my ohs mom rang yesturday and my ohs auntie has brought her boy two piggies. I went abit mad. Asked what research theyve done and she said "they read a book" i asked which one and they didnt know. Everyone thinks its great but I'm so angry. Whats the point of me helping piggies and getting them nice new homes when owners are bored when my oh's family are telling every idiot to get one.

I'm probably just overreacting but its really got me down. Just fed up of seeing guinea pigs so badly treated and now i feel if something happens to these two its my fault.:(
 
See this as an opportunity to educate people about their pigs. Tell the parents exactly what is needed but you can't blame yourself for anything that goes wrong with these piggies it's not your fault if it does. Have you sat down with your oh's mum and told her your concerns, maybe offer to take her out to lunch to keep her happy. Some people just don't understand and need it to be explained to them.
 
Yeah i explained it to her and she told my oh i was being nasty to her ( we dont get on ) . it just feels shes using the piggies against me in a way. I have told her everything they need to do for the piggies and shes just says "they know what to do". I have never met his auntie so i cant give her the advice. fingers crossed all goes well i suppose x
 
do you not look at it as a good thing that, upon seeing your treatment of them, this lady wants to get some for her children, maybe to encourage them to treat them as you have? why do you see it as a negative thing?
i don't know about anyone else but i got my first pig as a child and i was certainly no expert. my knowledge came with time, it takes years of experience with any animal to be considered a capable owner, and the best time to start learning is as a child.
maybe instead of getting angry, you could be proud that your efforts have encouraged people to try and give pigs a good home, and instead of judging them by what they have or haven't read maybe give them some pointers on where they could go next to start extending their basic knowledge.
be there for them when they need your help. but i think you should be seeing this as a great opportunity rather than something bad.
 
I dont see the Gracie. I have never met them before. The fact they have decided on getting them piggys after my ohs mom mentioning it doesnt sound positive to me. As i dont see them i cant help them. Things may turn out fine but as it was on a quick decison i cant see them being the most pampered piggies. i had piggies when i was child and i wish my parent hadnt got them me. I wanted to go out with my mates and hated going out in the cold to clean them out. my piggies deserved alot better than me. I am old enough now and thats why i have them. If they had researched properly first i might feel better about it
 
i think this is just something you might have to be open minded about to avoid causing yourself stress. i loved my pigs as a child and i'm so glad i had them- who's to say these children will get bored of them?
what about email or phone? if people can get advice for their pigs on forums like this one then why do you have to see the pigs to help this lady?
this happens the world over and most people wouldn't have someone like you (you are at least there for them, if not in person) to help. Yes, lots of people get bored of them, but lots of them (like me) end up owning many of them for years and years, and I'd like to think I give my pigs the best possible life. It's just the way it is, and it's not up to us to judge.
 
^ that's what i'm saying. you might not be the only help she has but maybe she isn't aware of forums. think about how long it took me to come on here, i got my first pig at 8 and i joined here when i was 20!
email her good websites to look through, recommend some books. seriously, if i were you i'd see this as an opportunity not something to be bitter about. being negative and resentful isn't going to help them or you.
 
i think you have every right to be unhappy about it;),i never will rehome any of my rescue dogs to be a childs pet and its the same with piggies,thats not to say they can't go to a family with kids it just means the adults are going to be responsible no matter what,
i can imagine how you would feel that by them going out and getting piggies from god knows where probably petshops it is defeating the purpose of you rescuing as they are just making more room for petshops to fill with more piggies,
i do not think somebody should go out and get a pet after reading a book they can't even remember the title of,guinea pigs require quite a good amount of knowledge to care for them correctly and from what you have said i don't believe these people know what they are doing,
i hope for the piggies sake they are good owners,and don't regret posting this most of us agree with you xxxxxx
 
KingBoris&HisFollowers said:
don't regret posting this most of us agree with you
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this was pretty unnecessary. i tried to offer her some advice from a non-biased point of view.
maybe i should just post whatever people seem to want to hear instead of trying to be constructive and trying to turn it into something more positive.
 
gracie said:
this was pretty unnecessary. i tried to offer her some advice from a non-biased point of view.
maybe i should just post whatever people seem to want to hear instead of trying to be constructive and trying to turn it into something more positive.
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it was not intended to offend but she was airing her feelings about a very real problem that is a huge part of why piggies end up in rescue and it sounded like just because you were a good owner that another other child would be too,well i know most aren't almost all of the animals of all species i have had are the result of a child getting bored including my latest rats i got today
 
As long as they arm themselves with information and act when the animal is ill then I don't see a huge problem.

I do find it sad on the other side of the coin that families are turned down because they have young children, I can understand if an animal is agressive but the RSPCA almost turned us down for Harvey because Caitlin was 3 and not 4. However, they saw how loving she was to the animals and how we cared for them. So on the plus side at least they gave us the benefit of the doubt.
 
SunshineAndTwinkle said:
As long as they arm themselves with information and act when the animal is ill then I don't see a huge problem.

I do find it sad on the other side of the coin that families are turned down because they have young children, I can understand if an animal is agressive but the RSPCA almost turned us down for Harvey because Caitlin was 3 and not 4. However, they saw how loving she was to the animals and how we cared for them. So on the plus side at least they gave us the benefit of the doubt.
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i do agree,i just hope they research enough and are willing to pay vet bills,
that is pretty unfair,if its a good loving home tha has resposible parents then there isnt a problem its just most people i have met don't even check in on how the small animals are cared for they just think there kids will be fine with it x
 
KingBoris&HisFollowers said:
i think you have every right to be unhappy about it;),i never will rehome any of my rescue dogs to be a childs pet and its the same with piggies,thats not to say they can't go to a family with kids it just means the adults are going to be responsible no matter what,
i can imagine how you would feel that by them going out and getting piggies from god knows where probably petshops it is defeating the purpose of you rescuing as they are just making more room for petshops to fill with more piggies,
i do not think somebody should go out and get a pet after reading a book they can't even remember the title of,guinea pigs require quite a good amount of knowledge to care for them correctly and from what you have said i don't believe these people know what they are doing,
i hope for the piggies sake they are good owners,and don't regret posting this most of us agree with you xxxxxx
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Thanks very much for your post. That explains everything I mean and feel. They did get them from a pet shop so again no research done. It's just a shame. Fingers crossed it will end up ok x
 
thats ok,i can understand as its so hard to watch all you can do is hope the right thing is done,crossing my fingers that they will love and care for there piggies xxxxx
 
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