Thank you, this is a helpful analogy. Tonight she is eating again so we’ll take this small win and hope it lasts, but we know the bigger battle is a different matter. I do find it all very anxiety provoking having piggies. Since our first sudden death (Betty, who came through a risky op with flying colours only to have a stroke 10 days later) I am almost afraid every morning to look in the cage because I half expect to find a trauma or death (even when there’s nothing wrong) and we’ve had our fair share of sudden declines and sudden deaths. It really knocks your confidence and each bad experience makes me more stressed out. But taking the little wins is a good way of doing it. Yesterday Dottie was laying still, refusing nearly all food; now she is begging at the bars an her breathing look better too. It may not last, but we must take these moments when we can and be so happy she is having good times again, for now.
I’ll have a read of that guide, thanks.
Instead of dreading every morning finding her gone, try to cherish every morning Dottie is still there as the precious gift it is. You have no control over when and in what form the end comes but you have full control over how you can fill Dottie's remaining days with little joys and litte fun time. All you can do is follow your little bumpy country road to wherever it leads you to.
Set as your aim that you want fill Dottie's life with a little joy every day she still has to live because that is what guinea pigs measure a good life by - happy todays. Even if it is just a few blades of fresh grass...
Enrichment Ideas for Guinea Pigs
Having just passed my first anniversary on palliative cancer treatment, I can assure you that I have lived this extra year much more consciously and have got so much more out of it than I would have ever expected despite all the restrictions because I have become a lot more open to all the little things and joys that come my way. It really makes a huge difference mentally as well as in my still ongoing recovery. This doesn't just work when it is only your life that is running out but with somebody you love deeply; it is lesson I have learned from the time when my dad fought his own terminal cancer battle at a similar age to me.
I am essentially switching my human mindset to that of guinea pigs and am getting a lot more life out of it instead of sitting there moaning or rushing around to get a bucket list of things ticked off - what I am gaining is simple contentness and happiness; which you cannot buy and which will only come to you if you look for it. It is everywhere but you have to look. You have to look for the little things, smile at others and they will eventually smile back and have a little chat with you, give kindness and you will receive it.
Just stop and enjoy the sunshine, the freshness of a cold breeze, the soft kiss of drizzly air, the first spring flowers etc. whatever there is to feel and savour on the day... It is simple Mindfulness but it does work as much as a piggy cuddle.
Just being happy when my piggies are still all there in the morning and giving them their good night treat in the evening, feeling blessed for another day with them, which I would not have had without my medications and treatment...
It is not easy to change your mindset when you suffer from mental health issues and you have to work on firstly catching yourself whenever you are caught in a bad rut and then consciously looking for at least one good aspect instead. It has taken me quite a few years to get where I am today working my way slowly out of a rather deep black well but these days I am doing it automatically as my own instinctive survival strategy.
I am still grieving underneath it all as I need to; but I am not letting my sorrow and my fears take over while there is still more life to be had.
Try to consciously cherish the time you have left with Dotty and living those moments consciously because they are the ones that will stay with you and that are making her time with you count in the long run.
I have had oldie adopties for just a few weeks or months, yet their happiness and joy of life has made their time with me seem so much longer and I still remember them with an automatic smile on my face. Like love, joy and happiness can transcend time.
Please try to allow Dottie to become your 'smily piggy' by treasuring the evening hours with her in the last of the sun - it is the golden last rays of sunshine that will stay with you more than the dark night if you allow it to.
Sorry for the long post but I hope that it is going to make sense to you and that you can find your nuggets of happiness despite your fears.
I am keeping my fingers crossed that you have some more happy days with Dottie.








