Family Gatherings and having to bite your tongue...

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..... one of the reasons why I want to hide at Christmas - however my some what anti-social behaviour is not the point of this post!

My uncle, his girlfriend and kids came over for tea today. Uncle's girlfriend asked if she could see my piggys. Never one to say no, I took her our to the piggy shed to introduce her. She couldn't get over how tame they were - all came out to say hello and Tia & Tilly sit very patiently and have nose rubs and a stroke under the chin. Trixie will sometimes let you stoke her, sometimes not. Today was a not but I think it was too many people for her!

Anyway, Uncle's girlfriend then proceeds to tell me that her mother had bought 2 'female' guniea pigs from PAH so the children would have something to do when they visit at weekends! I was gobsmacked but then she told me that one was pregnant with her 3rd litter as they had obviously been mis-sexed! I asked whether the male had been removed and she said yes, after litter one but she obviously sexed and separated to late and one of the sons got the mother pregnant again!

I managed to bite my tongue. Not just because of what had happened - at the end of the day it does happen to inexperienced people - it was more they thought it was funny! Pregnant mum still has one from a previous litter in with her which they 'think' is a girl. All other babies have been rehomed - I didn't dare ask how or who too. Just couldn't face going there.

I told her that I think they need to do something quickly and lent her book which details how to sex and states about age boars being away from mum etc. I also said I would pop in on Saturday and check the sex of the one remaining baby for them. I said I would also go down when the next litter are born and sex them once they are old enough. I don't claim to be an expert but any I am not 100% sure of I will take to a vet for sexing - as she obviously won't do it! I also offered to help with rehoming them as I don't want them to just be given away to any old person - not sure if she will take me up on it. I also offered to take her boar and get him neutered for her but she was happy with him being separated. I do worry about it happening again because she lets the kids play with them and they don't realise that it only takes a minute of play time before the sow could be pregnant again.

Had to get that off my chest. I hate family gatherings. You are forced into rooms with people you spend most of the year avoiding and then have to bite your tongue when they start saying stuff like this!

ARRRGGGHHH!

If anyone can suggest anything else I can do then please say!
 
I think you said the right things, other than being very blunt to her and maybe upsetting everyone

I wouldn't have been able to be so polite i don't think.

I do hope for the sows sake the last little baby is a sow too.

let us know

karen
 
Speak your mind and to hell with the consequenses? That's the Taurean in me talking :)
 
bev said:
Speak your mind and to hell with the consequenses? That's the Taurean in me talking :)

Problem is I am a libra - always trying to find balance and harmony :D

Tempted to just piggy nap them all on saturday but I don't really have the space either for another 3 piggys plus babies on the way. Especially because I wouldn't want them near mine until they had a quarantine period. Guess I will just try and help as much as I can....
 
Think what you are doing and going to do are great! Can't you just take a large bag and nap them all?! LOL 2funny
 
bev said:
Speak your mind and to hell with the consequenses? That's the Taurean in me talking :)

I'm Taurean too, I do the same :)

but I also hate conflicked life is too short

karen
 
bev said:
Speak your mind and to hell with the consequenses? That's the Taurean in me talking :)
Here here! got me into loads of trouble - thats why my dad & I didn't see each other or even speak on xmas day on the phone - he's a typical Aries male. He didn;t like it becasue 2 weeks b4 xmas he was REALLY rude to me, after asking him several times to apologise & he wouldn't I let rip. 28 years of gripes came out ooops! he didn't know what hit him. ...it feels like a load has been lifted from my shoulders!

Its usually him that has the big xmas wobble & us biting our toungues but I out wobbled him this year. On the flip side I won't be moving to the family property with 10 acres & a mile of river next year. Oh well rather be here relaxed than there being constantly worried about upsetting him. Also I don't want my daughter to be exposed to his temper. Feels good :D
 
haha go Hillary!

( can i borrow you to let rip at my dads mum and dad sometime?)
 
I to let rip at my dad after putting up with his for years I finally told him to F off, in front of mum and hubby a while ago but he just shrugged and said now now calm down, will I F, I said , he now is very careful what he says to me, its mum I feel sorry for as shes in between, and I am normally a calm pisces married to a taurus maybe hes bullyness has rubbed off on me, thing is he is the calm one lol,
but i had to stand up against my mother in law and that caused major probs but i was never sorry I did it as she bullied me for 16 years ,
you need to stand up for right and not let them being family be a reason to take just anything thrown at you,
 
michellemuffin said:
but i had to stand up against my mother in law and that caused major probs but i was never sorry I did it. you need to stand up for right and not let them being family be a reason to take just anything thrown at you,

Same here, M-I-L is an old cow. Glad to be rid of her. Don't bite your tounge, it'l hurt!
 
bev said:
Speak your mind and to hell with the consequenses? That's the Taurean in me talking :)

Totally agree. That's the "I can't be bothered beating around the bush" in me ;D . Just one of the many reasons me and my hubby spend xmas day on our own :D
 
Beaney - I think you said all the right things. People just don't think. You could tell them that someone you know (me!) has been desperately seeking a pregnant guinea for months now but doesn't want to breed because there's enough needing homes already. (Then if one is pregnant I could have it!). I'm in Wiltshire too!

Sorry - any chance ... can you sense the desperation kicking in! People keep saying, why don't you just get a male and breed from your girls. They just don't get it!
 
That is a good point...... ! I had planned to offer to take them from her anyway - though admittedly it was going to be a bit of a challenge for me to fit them all in as I want them away from mine, but you taking the sow would be excellent!

I obviously can't make any promises but I will ask and see what she says... :)
 
Beaney said:
That is a good point...... ! I had planned to offer to take them from her anyway - though admittedly it was going to be a bit of a challenge for me to fit them all in as I want them away from mine, but you taking the sow would be excellent!

I obviously can't make any promises but I will ask and see what she says... :)
Thank you! Let me know if there's any chance.
 
karenrgpr said:
:) Good luck Jilly, everything comes to those who wait. :)
Thank you. I know it's good that there's not lots of pregnant ones needing homes, but I know there are some, and it's just trying to find them.
 
I am really sorry but at the moment she is reluctant to let her go - don't ask me why. I think it is one of those situations where she refuses to admit she could do with some help - however, I have told her if she changes her mind at all then to let me know. I am not ready to give up yet so will just have to see how it goes. I have also asked her to let me know when the babies are born.....

I sexed the remaining baby - defo a sow which is a good thing :)
 
That's OK, thank you for trying. I hope everything turns out OK for the guineas.
 
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