Lonely Boar Dilemma

Louisep1973

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Hi there, I'd be really grateful for any advice/ideas.

4 years ago we adopted 3 rescue piggies (Rapunzel, Cinderella and Ariel)of various ages, a couple of whom had been bred from excessively. Rapunzel was the oldest and she died a year or so later. After another year, Ariel died suddenly and of course, not wanting to leave Cinderella alone, I contacted a rescue, and adopted a lovely 12 month old neutered boar, Wilson, and he and Cinderella have had a lovely 2 years together. Sadly Cinderella died this weekend, and once again we have a sad single piggy. My daughter who is now 4 years older than when we started our piggy journey is less interested than she was, and although she looks after them faithfully, sometimes it is a struggle. I know this is sacrilege to piggy lovers, but how does one cease to be a piggy owner, when the issues are:
A)I dont want to keep Wilson on his own and subject him to possibly 3 years of loneliness B) I would feel dreadful having him adopted, when we got him to keep Cinderella company, so it would feel terribly disloyal, like we had just used him. Also he has a fab set up with us (see photo) and I would worry about him having less space C)if we adopt another, the cycle just continues and they potentially get less and less attention from my daughter. I know that when you get pets its important to commit to looking after them their entire lives, but when that involves making sure they have company, that could be forever. I have a friend with 2 sows who may be willing to adopt him, but shes away for a couple of weeks so we cant start the introduction process yet. I'm so sad for him. Please help!

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Hi there, I'd be really grateful for any advice/ideas.

4 years ago we adopted 3 rescue piggies (Rapunzel, Cinderella and Ariel)of various ages, a couple of whom had been bred from excessively. Rapunzel was the oldest and she died a year or so later. After another year, Ariel died suddenly and of course, not wanting to leave Cinderella alone, I contacted a rescue, and adopted a lovely 12 month old neutered boar, Wilson, and he and Cinderella have had a lovely 2 years together. Sadly Cinderella died this weekend, and once again we have a sad single piggy. My daughter who is now 4 years older than when we started our piggy journey is less interested than she was, and although she looks after them faithfully, sometimes it is a struggle. I know this is sacrilege to piggy lovers, but how does one cease to be a piggy owner, when the issues are:
A)I dont want to keep Wilson on his own and subject him to possibly 3 years of loneliness B) I would feel dreadful having him adopted, when we got him to keep Cinderella company, so it would feel terribly disloyal, like we had just used him. Also he has a fab set up with us (see photo) and I would worry about him having less space C)if we adopt another, the cycle just continues and they potentially get less and less attention from my daughter. I know that when you get pets its important to commit to looking after them their entire lives, but when that involves making sure they have company, that could be forever. I have a friend with 2 sows who may be willing to adopt him, but shes away for a couple of weeks so we cant start the introduction process yet. I'm so sad for him. Please help!

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Hi!

I am very sorry for your loss; you are welcome to post a tribute to Cinderella in our Rainbow Bridge section if you'd like to.

Please be aware that most rescues have a clause in their adoption papers where any piggy of theirs cannot be handed on to a third party by you without their knowledge and has to revert to the rescue if you can or want to no longer keep it after some usually rather bad experiences.
If you have got a new home where you can stay in contact, you will have to run that past the rescue and will need to get their approval pending a home check.
Alternatively you could ask them whether they would consider bonding your boy with a similar aged rescue piggy that would return to the rescue once Wilson dies. It is always difficult when you come to the inevitable end of the jigsaw chain in guinea pig ownership.
 
Thank you Wiebke. Yes I was considering contacting the rescue about that. I also wondered if I could foster a similar aged piggy until a home could be found for both as a pair.
 
I am really sorry for your loss.I do agree with Wiebke above as the best option for Wilson. You are being very responsible in trying to secure his future.
 
Quick update, I contacted the rescue he came from, and they are fairly confident they can find him a home with a partner. In the meantime they have suggested they have him back so that he can at least be close to other piggies. I feel really sad, even though I know its the best thing for him, I cant help but feel like we are abandoning him after he has been such a gorgeous boy
 
Quick update, I contacted the rescue he came from, and they are fairly confident they can find him a home with a partner. In the meantime they have suggested they have him back so that he can at least be close to other piggies. I feel really sad, even though I know its the best thing for him, I cant help but feel like we are abandoning him after he has been such a gorgeous boy

Putting your own feelings behind the needs of a beloved piggy is the ultimate sacrifice you can make. Please do not feel like you have failed your boy; in fact you are doing anything but!

However, you inevitably go through a full grieving process with an even stronger feeling of failure and guilt than is typical for the onset of it. The fact that you do speaks highly of your love and good care, as well as your commitment. This is the other side of the same coin.
I know, I have been through it myself when I was unable to find an in-house solution for a tricky sow which ended up being badly bullied. Although I found her a very good private home with a sister of hers at a friend's (and with knowledge and consent of the rescue), and was able to speak to her on the phone and visit her occasionally, I still went through the whole gamut myself. It was very much the right decision for Caron. She had another very happy one and a half years of her life and even found the love of her life in a bereaved boar during the last months in which she really mellowed and blossomed. But it was hard and painful for me, no doubt about that!

I have my utmost respect for what you are doing.
 
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