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Rosemary, for Remembrance

Qualcast&Flymo

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A week ago I unexpectedly had to say goodbye to my sow Rosemary, and have her helped to Rainbow Bridge 😪 when she suddenly developed serious bloat and couldn't be pulled through.

I adopted Rosemary, along with her bonded friend Winifred, from Neville's Nest rescue in August 2018, to be Squeaks' wives. They were bonded at the rescue so I don't know how much Rosemary had to put an excitable Squeaks in his place - but I do remember the only time I've seen pee-spraying was shortly after they came home and R felt the need to fend off Squeaks' amorous advances :D

R and W were called Susan and Sarah at the rescue, names which didn't seem to suit and I didn't really like. I was unable to come up with a theme and names to rename them, in the end I decided to name them after my late mother (Winifred) and late mother in law (Rosemary). 😁Like them, they both seemed quite matronly and unexciteable, even though they were only about 2 years old!

In the 3.5 years Rosemary was part of my little group, she never had any real medical issues. Around last Christmas she started slowly losing a bit of weight but had then stabilised , and last month she had a dose of hay mites. Then of course it had to be the only weekend when I was out all day both days, I checked the piggies as soon as I returned home, and Rosemary was refusing food and staying in her cosy. I got her to the emergency vet, who diagnosed bloat. I decided to have her looked after in the hospital as I don't have the skills for emergency feeding etc. Sadly she didn't respond to the treatment and I had to agree to helping her over the Bridge on Sunday morning. If I hadn't been out on Sunday, I think I'd rather have let her stay at home with her friends; I still wonder if I could have saved her had I been at home on Saturday and noticed earlier ...

I buried her on Tuesday in a pot I bought specially, with some spring flowers and a sprig of Rosemary. 20220412_183849.jpg
As well as being her name, in the language of flowers, Rosemary signifies remembrance, to quote Shakespeare, "There's Rosemary, that's for remembrance." And our gentle Rosemary won't be forgotten. She is resting outside the piggie room, close to her friends Winifred and Squeaks.

Popcorn free Rosemary xx 🌈
 
I'm really sorry for your loss! It's always extra hard when you don't have the opportunity to really say goodbye, but I'm sure you made the right decision by helping Rosemary on her last steps toward the RB.
RIP, Rosemary! :(🌈💔
 
This is beautiful, sorry you lost your little girl but a great tribute for her, lovely lovely ❤️
 
What a lovely tribute to a lovely lady!
RIP Rosemary

PS: PLEASE do not beat yourself up about not having been at home that day. You can never be around all the time in the first place AND get some sleep (not to mention a life) nor - from my own experiences with severe bloat - would it have made any difference in the outcome. Severe bloat is like a tsunami; unstoppable and coming in waves with the first one not necessarily the strongest. All you can do is hang in there and try to ride it for as long as can be.

Especially once a piggy is starting to be that little bit frailer/has some underlying issues that do not necessarily amount to a treatable health issue and can be just lurking under the surface, severe bloat out of the blue is sadly becoming more likely and the chances of surviving it are becoming less good. The ones I have lost myself to sudden severe bloat have all been older, not necessarily doing badly at all but have been just a touch on the frail side. :(
Try to take pride in giving Rosemary a good, happy and healthy normal life span in a stable group the way piggies are socially wired to live - everything she would have wanted from life. And rest assured that nothing more could have done for her in her last illness.

When and what from our piggies die is something we can never choose or control; that is one thing I have learned from saying goodbye to so many piggies of mine over the years. Severe bloat is unfortunately one of the more traumatising ways, especially as we can never brace for it and it is so devastating in its effect.

Getting stuck in the what-ifs/if onlys guilt loop is characteristic for the onset of our grieving process; it is a reflection of how deeply we care and not an expression of reality. As humans, we are unfortunately wired to reflect everything back upon ourselves, whether it is actually relevant or not - and it can trip up long term owners as much as anybody else after a bad loss. :(

HUGS
 
So sorry to hear about Rosemary. Thinking of you all and sending lots of love 💕

Enjoy the bridge gorgeous girl 🌈
 
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