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So annoyed with my friend

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Gems

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I haven't heard from a friend of mine in months. She was one of my closest friends but for some reason doesn't seem to bother with me anymore. As I said on another thread with everything thats going on at the moment I'm feeling a little low and hurt that she's not even dropped me a text asking how I'm doing. My sister bumped into her and she said she hadn't seen us in ages blah blah blah. Well earlier I checked my phone and saw I had a message off her. I thought oh she's obviously thought on after seeing my sister and thought she'd get in touch. But no, the message reads ( I've put fiance instead of her partners name):

"Have you room for one more guinea pig, (fiances) sister needs a new home for hers?"

So no how are you doing or anything like that, she's only got in touch because she want's something. I'm really upset by it. I said no I've not got the space as I've got 7 at the moment ( still have Max and Woody as we haven't the money to get them neutered yet ) and all I got back was "ok no probs just thought I'd ask"

I feel like just giving up on everyone, no-one seems to care
 

Millie's-Mummy

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(((hugs))) hun, friends like that are not worth the upset, if she can only be bothered when she wants something then forget about her.
You can do without friends like her.
Keep your chin up hun, we're all here for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 

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I know, and to be honest the friends I have on here care more then my supposed friends. It just seems as though the whole tumor thing is too much hassle for them. They don't understand that we have no money as we're having to fund travel for the treatment, so they've given up asking us to do anything, or even getting in touch. I literally only have 1 friend now who seems to give a damn
 

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Hey, hey... I've got a 'best' friend just the same, after getting back with her ex, moving into her own place and getting a job, she's no time for me, the girls who's been there for the past 9 years, but altho many times she's done this it bothered me, this time I just thought... enough, I don't even make the effort back as much anymore, yeah I message her funny things I know only she'd find funny with me but otherwise I don't even invite her to things really. x
 

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I agree the friends on here are much friendlier, not after anything and full of good advice!

Been there, done that with friends and quite honestly can't be bothered anymore! I'm not being nice to people who treat me that way so yo shouldn't either:))


If I think someone is genuine, I will go out of my way for them:))
 

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I know, I'm always the one who'll bend over backwards to help people. I got phone calls in the middle of the night when she split up with her boyfriend and she needed someone to talk to, I took her out to take her mind off it, I would invite my friends round, cook for them, supply drink and never expect anything in return. I've always been there for them, but when it's me that needs them they're no-where to be seen.
 

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I know exactly how you feel hun, I have friends like that too where they only seem to text/email when they are after something.
Sometimes it makes me so mad so I totally feel for you.

What are you going to do now? Sending lots of hugs your way xxxxx
 

doglovinpiggylover

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you all need to drop these friends, seriously, its a big world, theres lots of people in it who do want friends, if they havent got time for you THEIR problem, you people are all too nice to have people making you feel bad about yourself or things.

Remember you deserve better x
 

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This is going to sound really pathetic but I only have those friends, and as sad as it sounds I'd rather have them then no-one. I'm a very shy person and wouldn't know how to go about making new friends. I work for a small company and generally everyone I work with is older than me so I can't "make friends" at work. I get on fine with them, but it's really just a work thing, and no-one really socialises outside of work. Like I said because of our situation I don't have the money to go out really, so wouldn't know how to meet people

Maybe it's me
 

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I know how you feel. my so called ''friend'' only got in contact with me when her boyfriend dumped her or when something upset her only when it suited her. we were really close friends i stuck by her whenever she was down, i did alot for her but i had enough one day and thinking because we are good friends she would make an effort to sort out the problems i was feeling, but anyway the response i got back was for me to NEVER contact her again - which proved my point to her in what i said - then she even had the cheek to turn it on me saying i was the selfish one blah blah that i should be ashamed of myself... it was quite funny to see that her ex's attitude was coming through from what she was saying. but anyway we havent spoken for about 3/4 months after over 5 years of friendship. people like that only think of themselves and think they do nothing wrong and everyone is against them. Dont waste your time with her, you sound like you were a brilliant friend to her.
 

doglovinpiggylover

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This is going to sound really pathetic but I only have those friends, and as sad as it sounds I'd rather have them then no-one. I'm a very shy person and wouldn't know how to go about making new friends. I work for a small company and generally everyone I work with is older than me so I can't "make friends" at work. I get on fine with them, but it's really just a work thing, and no-one really socialises outside of work. Like I said because of our situation I don't have the money to go out really, so wouldn't know how to meet people

Maybe it's me
Awwww that sounds really really sad, I'm shy too and i even find it hard to socialise with the friends i have and i have known most of them for years and years, luckily there are a lot, but we arent in each others pockets all the time, and we all meet up every other month or so and its fine. Being shy sucks and holds you back big time, thats why I'm an internet freak, i can be the person i want to be.

I think you come across as lovely on here and i would be proud to call you a friend! so there! :p
 

Salt n Peppers mum

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Sometimes people outgrow each other - as sad as it. I have found that different friends are there for me in different ways. I have a special friend that is a great emotional support and others that give practical, I dont have an all round friend, but I have found depending on your interests friends change.
Before I had children I had a very good group of 'friends' we were all into our dogs and animals. Then I had children, my children took so much out of me when they were born that I lost my 'doggie' friends, (although I havnt replaced them with friends with children either rolleyes) I have found that people that are passionate about animals make good friends :))

It sounds like you need a good friend right now Gemma, and you feel let down that your old friend isnt recognising that?
You could make a coffee date with her and tell how your life is feeling right now? And if you still don't connect maybe you have both moved on?

I really think we are all in the same boat one way or another when it comes to good friends. Dont forget we are all here for you, and ready to listen and give you support if you need it



Paula
 
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