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Still grieving after 6 months

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I'm sorry for the morbid post in light of Christmas but I am an emotion wreck right now. Just over 6 months ago we had to say goodbye to my childhood best friend, Crystal. I had grown up with her since I was 4 years old, and don't really remember not having her around. She was my absolute best buddy and saying goodbye to her as will all pets was the hardest thing. For weeks the house felt empty, and I would cry most days about her. I then went through a stage of I guess "learning to live with it" where I was okay. 3 months ago we got a new pup ace, and despite me loving him so much, and giving us a whole new load of love and memories I can't stop missing Crystal. With Christmas being tomorrow the grieving has just got me again as she was always so involved with our family Christmas days! I've attached a photo of an Instagram post about how I feel her not being there. I feel guilt because as a kid I knew she wouldn't always be there but I never realised how fast the time would go, nor did I appreciate the days I had with her. I kind of just grew up with her and then that was it, she was gone. Having a large age gap between me and my brother, Crystal, without sounding silly, was almost like a sister. She looked after me, and we played together, she truly was my little (quite big) buddy.

I just still don't quite want to believe she's gone.
 

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Grief is a terrible infliction. Just as you think you are coping there is always something lurking to knock you for 6. Guilt is an incredibly normal feeling in the grief process though you shouldn't feel guilty for not appreciating how quick time goes. As children we don't understand the concept of time, as adults we can't forever live reminding ourselves that all those around us won't be here forever, that's not a way to live a life. So you lived in the moment with Crystal, it's the best way to be, it means you have been there and enjoyed the moments as they happened and made memories together. 6 months is a short time in the grand scheme of things, be kind to yourself - it really is ok to not be ok
 

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Grief is a terrible infliction. Just as you think you are coping there is always something lurking to knock you for 6. Guilt is an incredibly normal feeling in the grief process though you shouldn't feel guilty for not appreciating how quick time goes. As children we don't understand the concept of time, as adults we can't forever live reminding ourselves that all those around us won't be here forever, that's not a way to live a life. So you lived in the moment with Crystal, it's the best way to be, it means you have been there and enjoyed the moments as they happened and made memories together. 6 months is a short time in the grand scheme of things, be kind to yourself - it really is ok to not be ok
Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm trying, she'd hate to see me crying and I know for sure would be resting her head on my lap if she saw me like this. This has put things into a calmer state of mind for me, thank you 🙏❤Merry Christmas 🎄
 

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I still get down about my old springer spaniel sometimes. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe try to sleep it off. Beautiful pooch ☺ heres mine 1998 - 2011 Hopefully they are both running about together up there 👍20180614_213240.jpg
 

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I still get down about my old springer spaniel sometimes. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe try to sleep it off. Beautiful pooch ☺ heres mine 1998 - 2011 Hopefully they are both running about together up there 👍View attachment 103409
S/he was absolutely beautiful 😍 Was born the same year as me aha. But thank you for your message. I hate to say it but Crystal wasn't a fan of other dogs so unless a miracle happened as she crossed the rainbow bridge, she's probably warned your lovely springer off a long time ago 😂😊 🐾🐾
 

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S/he was absolutely beautiful 😍 Was born the same year as me aha. But thank you for your message. I hate to say it but Crystal wasn't a fan of other dogs so unless a miracle happened as she crossed the rainbow bridge, she's probably warned your lovely springer off a long time ago 😂😊 🐾🐾
Lol funnily enough my dog ( mak) didnt like other dogs either☺
 
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