iamsnape
Junior Guinea Pig
I don't know what to do and I need a bit of a rant...
Basically, I have anxiety problems triggered when large amounts of stress start getting on top of me - I get really down and have panic attacks which cause me to be really debilitated, if that's the right word, and I struggled to go about my daily life when I'm in that state. It started before summer last year and I was seen by doctors and councillors to help manage it. Now it doesn't come on as much, only during periods of extreme stress and emotional strain.
When I started my degree in September, I wrote about this on my medical form, and brought in a doctors note so my lecturers knew that I wasn't just lying. About 2 months in, my parents wanted to pull me from the course because everything was kicking back in (probably because I went from having no work load to being under a lot of pressure), but I discussed it with my lecturer and stuck it out. Since then my problems haven't been too bad.
Until a few weeks ago. My parents were on holiday, and my Nan had a nasty fall. She wasn't found for 27 hours. So after that, I was acting as a part time carer for her. In between uni, coursework and my job, I was in her house looking after her. Last week, she fell again, and knocked herself out. When I found her I called my brother because she had pretty bad facial injuries, and we ended up having to get her taken to hospital. She was in there for a week.
Of course, because my folks were away and my brother knows very little of my nan's medical history (I live with my Mum who tells me about it all), I was the one sorting out the hospital, going up there, etc. I told my teacher about this so she was aware.
Over that week my teacher forced me in to doing a lot of extra curricular things I didn't have time for, because I either needed to be at the hospital, or I was behind on coursework because of the hospital (my hand in was during that same week so I was stressed about that, etc). Needless to say my panic attacks came on pretty strong and my boyfriend was staying with me to help me before I had a break down.
On wednesday night, there was a talk at uni by a photographer I said I'd go to, but obviously being in such an emotional state, I wasn't up to it, so I emailed her to let her know that I would instead be going to see my Nan, who was in critical care at the time. She answered saying I needed to prioritise my education (over the life of my Nan), that I wasn't thinking about what was important, etc. Nevermind that the day before I'd handed in 2 A grade projects.
My Mum was home by then, thankfully, and sent her a very angry email because she's ignoring the conditions she's known about from the start. She's also been forwarding her angry emails to me to the entire faculty, which I don't appreciate. She replied to my Mum saying she'd 'discuss my problems with me after easter'.
WHAT THE HELL IS THERE TO DISCUSS? She knows about it all, she is making it a lot worse by acting this way, and frankly, I don't want to talk to her because she is ignorant. There's another girl in my class who got an extension and hasn't been in for about a month by simply handing in a doctors note for a similar thing - what's with the favouritism? I try very hard to hand in all my coursework on time to the best standard that I can, whilst dealing with all this other crap. I don't go to extra curricular things when I don't feel up to it, can I be blamed for that?
I don't know what to do. I'm excelling on the course at the minute, but apparently that's not good enough, and the life of my Nan should be put behind E.C seminars. Nevermind the health condition I've tried to make her aware of from day one.
What should I do guys? She ignores me, doctors notes, my parents. She's making everything worse but as she's been at the uni for so long reporting her for it won't make a difference. Sorry for the massive post I just don't know what to do. Gonna have a break down at this rate. I find talking about things on here really helpful because you guys actually listen and are supportive.
Basically, I have anxiety problems triggered when large amounts of stress start getting on top of me - I get really down and have panic attacks which cause me to be really debilitated, if that's the right word, and I struggled to go about my daily life when I'm in that state. It started before summer last year and I was seen by doctors and councillors to help manage it. Now it doesn't come on as much, only during periods of extreme stress and emotional strain.
When I started my degree in September, I wrote about this on my medical form, and brought in a doctors note so my lecturers knew that I wasn't just lying. About 2 months in, my parents wanted to pull me from the course because everything was kicking back in (probably because I went from having no work load to being under a lot of pressure), but I discussed it with my lecturer and stuck it out. Since then my problems haven't been too bad.
Until a few weeks ago. My parents were on holiday, and my Nan had a nasty fall. She wasn't found for 27 hours. So after that, I was acting as a part time carer for her. In between uni, coursework and my job, I was in her house looking after her. Last week, she fell again, and knocked herself out. When I found her I called my brother because she had pretty bad facial injuries, and we ended up having to get her taken to hospital. She was in there for a week.
Of course, because my folks were away and my brother knows very little of my nan's medical history (I live with my Mum who tells me about it all), I was the one sorting out the hospital, going up there, etc. I told my teacher about this so she was aware.
Over that week my teacher forced me in to doing a lot of extra curricular things I didn't have time for, because I either needed to be at the hospital, or I was behind on coursework because of the hospital (my hand in was during that same week so I was stressed about that, etc). Needless to say my panic attacks came on pretty strong and my boyfriend was staying with me to help me before I had a break down.
On wednesday night, there was a talk at uni by a photographer I said I'd go to, but obviously being in such an emotional state, I wasn't up to it, so I emailed her to let her know that I would instead be going to see my Nan, who was in critical care at the time. She answered saying I needed to prioritise my education (over the life of my Nan), that I wasn't thinking about what was important, etc. Nevermind that the day before I'd handed in 2 A grade projects.
My Mum was home by then, thankfully, and sent her a very angry email because she's ignoring the conditions she's known about from the start. She's also been forwarding her angry emails to me to the entire faculty, which I don't appreciate. She replied to my Mum saying she'd 'discuss my problems with me after easter'.
WHAT THE HELL IS THERE TO DISCUSS? She knows about it all, she is making it a lot worse by acting this way, and frankly, I don't want to talk to her because she is ignorant. There's another girl in my class who got an extension and hasn't been in for about a month by simply handing in a doctors note for a similar thing - what's with the favouritism? I try very hard to hand in all my coursework on time to the best standard that I can, whilst dealing with all this other crap. I don't go to extra curricular things when I don't feel up to it, can I be blamed for that?
I don't know what to do. I'm excelling on the course at the minute, but apparently that's not good enough, and the life of my Nan should be put behind E.C seminars. Nevermind the health condition I've tried to make her aware of from day one.
What should I do guys? She ignores me, doctors notes, my parents. She's making everything worse but as she's been at the uni for so long reporting her for it won't make a difference. Sorry for the massive post I just don't know what to do. Gonna have a break down at this rate. I find talking about things on here really helpful because you guys actually listen and are supportive.