Avoiding remaining piggy.

[Chunky_Pig]

Over a month ago I lost my skinny pig, piggles, to cancer, I was left with turbo who is also a skinny pig. Well since the lose i've been handling it well, but I've been sorta avoiding Turbo (not neglecting, just not really cuddling with her, only just giving her treats/food or daily/weekly health checks.) It's like I'm scared she'll fall apart and suddenly die if I were to cuddle with her (piggles died in my arms), it's almost as if i'm genuinely fearful of just being around her. I got her a haired friend, Squiggles, within a week of both of us grieving and it helped us both out alot.
I get through grief very fast, so fast that people assume I don't care, this is the only thing currently effecting me and idk what to do about it

 

[Truffolo]

You're doing exactly what you need to do, talking about it. It's difficult transferring your affection to another piggy. But Turbo and Squiggles (love the names) need your love. Piggles would want Turbo to be happy now she's not here to look after her ❤

 

[Wiebke]

Over a month ago I lost my skinny pig, piggles, to cancer, I was left with turbo who is also a skinny pig. Well since the lose i've been handling it well, but I've been sorta avoiding Turbo (not neglecting, just not really cuddling with her, only just giving her treats/food or daily/weekly health checks.) It's like I'm scared she'll fall apart and suddenly die if I were to cuddle with her (piggles died in my arms), it's almost as if i'm genuinely fearful of just being around her. I got her a haired friend, Squiggles, within a week of both of us grieving and it helped us both out alot.
I get through grief very fast, so fast that people assume I don't care, this is the only thing currently effecting me and idk what to do about it

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Hi

I am so sorry for your loss.

It is a pretty common and normal reaction, and not something to be ashamed of. We humans grieve differently to guinea pigs. You are still grieving and simply not ready for the next step yet; especially as holding a guinea pig is currently emotionally connected to a still traumatising loss.

What you can do is play/interact with your piggies inside and outside the cage without necessarily holding them in your arms or you can have both together on your lap if that is OK with you. There are lots of things you can do other than standard cuddles and you should not fixate on those because they will come back in their own good time.
Your remaining piggy has her own social and interactive needs covered thanks to you getting them new company, so cuddles with you are not as relevant and meaningful for her as they are for you.
Enrichment Ideas for Guinea Pigs

After I lost my most special piggy Minx nearly 20 years ago but had to rush out in a hurry to get her mate a new rescue friend of her choice because she couldn't cope well with being alone yet again and came home with a new ginger and white piggy, I was not able to feel anything at all (apart from being angry about Dizzy's choice) for very skittish Llewelyn at all for a number of weeks but that eventually settled down as I proceeded with my grieving process and Llewi gradually settled in. Dizzy made it very clear that Llewi was hers and that she was not willing to share him with me anyway; which was actually very funny.
In its own time a few years down the line after Dizzy had passed away Llewelyn became the founding partriarch around which I build my Tribe group and we became good friends...

Give yourself the time and the space to heal without having a bad conscience. It is going to sort itself out in due time when you are ready again.
Looking After a Bereaved Guinea Pig

On grief, and hope

 

[Merab]

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