Bonding Setback and Warning

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I am posting this in the hopes of helping someone else avoid our mistakes.

We had successfully gotten two youngish boys to live together and at first they seemed happier together than they had been alone. But now they are separated again and I think we, the humans, made a couple of mistakes that contributed to the problem.

First, they were both young, not adults, and one was older/bigger than the other. But as the younger/littler one grew, I think he wanted to renegotiate the hierarchy. So that's the first warning. If they're both young, the hierarchy/bonding they originally establish might not remain stable as they grow into adulthood.

Second, we originally had them in a very big cage, 4x4 C&C, for two pigs. And we had two or more of everything. Three water bottles, two large haypiles, two pellet dishes, and multiple hides, all with two exits. But both their cage and another cage for another pair of boys we have, were in my daughter's room. And they took up half the room. So when my daughter started feeling annoyed by it, we made the cages smaller, by removing some of the grids from each of the cage setups (I can't remember exactly what we did, but I think we removed a 2x2 area from both 4x4 setups and made them into L's). That's warning number two. We did this within weeks or a couple months at the most of having first put these two together. Knowing what I do now, I would wait much, much longer and probably until they were both adults to reduce the cage size.

Third, around the same time as we made the cage smaller, we went down to one haypile. Then, possibly further exacerbating the situation, we then tried to make the haypile into a "kitchen area" to keep things cleaner. But this made the haypile slightly more complicated to get in and out of. That's the third warning. I wouldn't again go down to one haypile until the pigs were much further along in their lives together and we will not try kitchens in any of our cages again. I think they need to be able to run in and out of their piles without any obstruction if you want to keep two unrelated boys in minimum sized cage.

So anyway, what ultimately happened was this. My daughter had been telling me that she felt like they weren't getting along and that they were acting "depressed." But whenever I was in her room and observing them, everything seemed peaceful, although they did seem "depressed" as compared to our other two. Then one night, these two were having floor time together in a different (large!) room of our house. And we could sort of hear them pestering each other under a coffee table. But it in no way sounded like actual fighting. More like just jumping around and pestering. But then when she picked up the younger one to cuddle him, he had open, bloody wounds on his face and shoulder. It was extremely disturbing. It was so shocking and unexpected and seemed inconsistent with what we had heard from them that I got down to look under the coffee table. I realized there was a jagged piece of plastic (but very hard, sharp plastic, more like metal or wood) that had broken from the drawer construction and pointed downward. The little guy definitely theoretically could have cut himself on that thing just from jumping or startling as they were pestering each other. On the one hand, that seems so much more likely. On the other hand, we also found a couple of older, healing scabs on his rump.

Obviously, we separated them immediately. And it did seem like the littler one became immediately, viscerally happier to be in a cage by himself. (And he healed with no issues.) But it's sad for both of them because now they live alone again (albeit right next door to each other and can touch and pester each other through the grids, which they do seem to very much enjoy).

So that's our warning story. Don't make the cage area smaller or more complicated, or reduce the availability of resources, especially if you've only recently gotten them together or they're still growing. And take it seriously that all hides need to have multiple entrances and exits; you can't risk one of them getting trapped. I'm interested in other people's thoughts and especially if anyone would ever try bonding these two together again (we would wait until they were both fully grown this time and go back to the large cage setup, obviously). I've read in multiple places that once blood is drawn, that's it, you're done. But it's ambiguous whether he maybe just got cut on the jagged piece of the coffee table. And it's a hard situation because we really, really love them both and don't want to get rid of either, but we also don't want to make them live alone forever, but we also don't want to get two more guinea pigs since we already have four. Thoughts?

Sarah
 
I am posting this in the hopes of helping someone else avoid our mistakes.

We had successfully gotten two youngish boys to live together and at first they seemed happier together than they had been alone. But now they are separated again and I think we, the humans, made a couple of mistakes that contributed to the problem.

First, they were both young, not adults, and one was older/bigger than the other. But as the younger/littler one grew, I think he wanted to renegotiate the hierarchy. So that's the first warning. If they're both young, the hierarchy/bonding they originally establish might not remain stable as they grow into adulthood.

Second, we originally had them in a very big cage, 4x4 C&C, for two pigs. And we had two or more of everything. Three water bottles, two large haypiles, two pellet dishes, and multiple hides, all with two exits. But both their cage and another cage for another pair of boys we have, were in my daughter's room. And they took up half the room. So when my daughter started feeling annoyed by it, we made the cages smaller, by removing some of the grids from each of the cage setups (I can't remember exactly what we did, but I think we removed a 2x2 area from both 4x4 setups and made them into L's). That's warning number two. We did this within weeks or a couple months at the most of having first put these two together. Knowing what I do now, I would wait much, much longer and probably until they were both adults to reduce the cage size.

Third, around the same time as we made the cage smaller, we went down to one haypile. Then, possibly further exacerbating the situation, we then tried to make the haypile into a "kitchen area" to keep things cleaner. But this made the haypile slightly more complicated to get in and out of. That's the third warning. I wouldn't again go down to one haypile until the pigs were much further along in their lives together and we will not try kitchens in any of our cages again. I think they need to be able to run in and out of their piles without any obstruction if you want to keep two unrelated boys in minimum sized cage.

So anyway, what ultimately happened was this. My daughter had been telling me that she felt like they weren't getting along and that they were acting "depressed." But whenever I was in her room and observing them, everything seemed peaceful, although they did seem "depressed" as compared to our other two. Then one night, these two were having floor time together in a different (large!) room of our house. And we could sort of hear them pestering each other under a coffee table. But it in no way sounded like actual fighting. More like just jumping around and pestering. But then when she picked up the younger one to cuddle him, he had open, bloody wounds on his face and shoulder. It was extremely disturbing. It was so shocking and unexpected and seemed inconsistent with what we had heard from them that I got down to look under the coffee table. I realized there was a jagged piece of plastic (but very hard, sharp plastic, more like metal or wood) that had broken from the drawer construction and pointed downward. The little guy definitely theoretically could have cut himself on that thing just from jumping or startling as they were pestering each other. On the one hand, that seems so much more likely. On the other hand, we also found a couple of older, healing scabs on his rump.

Obviously, we separated them immediately. And it did seem like the littler one became immediately, viscerally happier to be in a cage by himself. (And he healed with no issues.) But it's sad for both of them because now they live alone again (albeit right next door to each other and can touch and pester each other through the grids, which they do seem to very much enjoy).

So that's our warning story. Don't make the cage area smaller or more complicated, or reduce the availability of resources, especially if you've only recently gotten them together or they're still growing. And take it seriously that all hides need to have multiple entrances and exits; you can't risk one of them getting trapped. I'm interested in other people's thoughts and especially if anyone would ever try bonding these two together again (we would wait until they were both fully grown this time and go back to the large cage setup, obviously). I've read in multiple places that once blood is drawn, that's it, you're done. But it's ambiguous whether he maybe just got cut on the jagged piece of the coffee table. And it's a hard situation because we really, really love them both and don't want to get rid of either, but we also don't want to make them live alone forever, but we also don't want to get two more guinea pigs since we already have four. Thoughts?

Sarah

Hi and welcome

I am very sorry that you haven't found us sooner!

Our boar and our teenage guide would have both helped you to avoid or at least delay the confrontation if it was inevitable once your younger boy hit the teenage hormones:
A Comprehensive Guide to Guinea Pig Boars
Boars: Teenage, Bullying, Fighting, Fall-outs And What Next?

As to the end of the road - it generally is permanent after a major fall-out. The 'drawing of blood' refers more specifically to full-on deep fighting bites. A misjudged swipe or glancing blow may be forgiven depending on the circumstances but boars can still fall out without a full-on fight. It all depends on the spirit in which the blow was dealt and in which it was received.

Ultimately what counts in the long term is how they both feel about being with the other; your younger boy has obviously been feeling very much bullied from his reaction when away from your larger boy.

Most dyfunctional pairs end up preferring to have their own territory but stay bonded through the bars.
In some cases, where the fall-out was more on the amicable divorce side, the boars may eventually get as far as sharing lawn or run time on neutral territory, but that is minority and not a majority.

It is inevitable that you feel gutted after a confrontation and a fall-out/bond fail and wish you could go back to the 'before' after making a bad mistake. Unfortunately, in many cases that is not possible. However, you still have other options, as laid out in the links above.
Mistakes happen; what counts is how you get up afterwards and deal with the lesson. A lot of the experience on here has been learned the hard way and in many cases not by doing things instinctively right but by gaining a deeper understanding from doing it wrong. ;)
 
Hi and welcome

I am very sorry that you haven't found us sooner!

Our boar and our teenage guide would have both helped you to avoid or at least delay the confrontation if it was inevitable once your younger boy hit the teenage hormones:
A Comprehensive Guide to Guinea Pig Boars
Boars: Teenage, Bullying, Fighting, Fall-outs And What Next?

As to the end of the road - it generally is permanent after a major fall-out. The 'drawing of blood refers more specifically to a full-on deep fighting bites. A misjudged swipe or glancing blow may be forgiven depending on the circumstances but boars can fall out without a full-on fight. It all depends on the spirit in which the blow was applied and received.

Ultimately what counts in the long term is how they both feel about being with the other; you younger boy has obviously been feeling very much bullied from his reaction when away from your larger boy.

Most dyfunctional pairs end up preferring to have their own territory but stay bonded through the bars.
In some cases, where the fall-out was more on the amicable divorce side, the boars may eventually get as far as sharing lawn or run time on neutral territory, but that is minority and not a majority.

It is inevitable that you feel gutted after a confrontation and a fall-out/bond fail and wish you could go back to the 'before' after making a bad mistake. Unfortunately, in many cases that is not possible. However, you still have other options, as laid out in the links above.
Mistakes happen; what counts is how you get up afterwards and deal with the lesson. A lot of the experience on here has been learned the hard way and in many cases not by doing things instinctively right but by gaining a deeper understanding from doing it wrong. ;)

Thank you so much for your insights. And for hosting all these guides! I read some of that one about boars earlier today (after starting this thread) and you are so right! I wish I had found my way to that link sooner. It makes so much sense to me now that what we started with was one teenager and one almost-teenager and then when the younger one turned teenager, of course there were issues.

Right now they share one grid wall and they definitely seem to enjoy swaggering and pestering each other. I mean that genuinely. They really seem to be happier when the other one is in his cage and they can swagger and strut at each other. So it's not like they're isolated. They're also in the same room with our other two. And we make sure everyone gets floor time every day. And when we do it, for the final part of it, we divide the room with grids so that all four can be down interacting with each through the grids. They seem to all really enjoy this even though they basically spend it rumble strutting at each other.

Anyway, for now, it will stay the way it is. I guess eventually, we may get them neutered and try bonding each of them with a solo girl.

Sarah
 
Thank you so much for your insights. And for hosting all these guides! I read some of that one about boars earlier today (after starting this thread) and you are so right! I wish I had found my way to that link sooner. It makes so much sense to me now that what we started with was one teenager and one almost-teenager and then when the younger one turned teenager, of course there were issues.

Right now they share one grid wall and they definitely seem to enjoy swaggering and pestering each other. I mean that genuinely. They really seem to be happier when the other one is in his cage and they can swagger and strut at each other. So it's not like they're isolated. They're also in the same room with our other two. And we make sure everyone gets floor time every day. And when we do it, for the final part of it, we divide the room with grids so that all four can be down interacting with each through the grids. They seem to all really enjoy this even though they basically spend it rumble strutting at each other.

Anyway, for now, it will stay the way it is. I guess eventually, we may get them neutered and try bonding each of them with a solo girl.

Sarah

Rumblestrutting is how boars measure up against each other (I call this a 'baor haka'). They do love doing it at the borders of their territories. Especially hormonal teenagers love doing it.
My current 7 neutered 'husboars' (who live each with one or several sows) have definitely worked out a hierarchy between them by rumblestrutting through the bars during roaming time around the cages.

Here is a classic 'boar haka' between two similarly aged teenagers; the one at the back is a holiday boarder.
As you can see, behaviour doesn't change when boars are neutered!
 
And here is a video from when I boarded a fallen-out boar pair en route from a full rescue on the South Coast to The Potteries Guinea Pig Rescue in the Midlands for a night in a divided run. you can see that there is less fun and some real grudge behind their boar haka:
 
Rumblestrutting is how boars measure up against each other (I call this a 'baor haka'). They do love doing it at the borders of their territories. Especially hormonal teenagers love doing it.
My current 7 neutered 'husboars' (who live each with one or several sows) have definitely worked out a hierarchy between them by rumblestrutting through the bars during roaming time around the cages.

Here is a classic 'boar haka' between two similarly aged teenagers; the one at the back is a holiday boarder.
As you can see, behaviour doesn't change when boars are neutered!

It's very cute! And it honestly seems to make all of ours so happy and pleased with themselves. None of them ever seem stressed or depressed as a result. It actually seems like the highlight of their day to be honest. :-)

As I'm reading more of these guides, it's sinking in that there's still plenty of options for future bonding, even with other boars. It seems like at this point, it's more a matter of letting them get past their teenager time and then just being careful and smart about making sure it's the right situation for them. Anyway, they aren't miserable and isolated right now and I feel like I'm a lot smarter about it now than I was this morning.
 
Hindsight is such a wonderful thing. Please don’t blame yourself. You aren’t the first person this has happened to, and you won’t be the last. You have written so beautifully about what has happened but this is all with hindsight. It is clear you want the best for them. It sounds like their divided set up is the best solution for them right now.
 
It's very cute! And it honestly seems to make all of ours so happy and pleased with themselves. None of them ever seem stressed or depressed as a result. It actually seems like the highlight of their day to be honest. :-)

As I'm reading more of these guides, it's sinking in that there's still plenty of options for future bonding, even with other boars. It seems like at this point, it's more a matter of letting them get past their teenager time and then just being careful and smart about making sure it's the right situation for them. Anyway, they aren't miserable and isolated right now and I feel like I'm a lot smarter about it now than I was this morning.

Good! :tu:
 
And here is a video from when I boarded a fallen-out boar pair en route from a full rescue on the South Coast to The Potteries Guinea Pig Rescue in the Midlands for a night in a divided run. you can see that there is less fun and some real grudge behind their boar haka:

Oh, yes, that is interesting! I can see the difference. And that actually makes me feel better about our situation because ours do not have that negative energy with each other at all. They strut and swagger and pester but in a basically affectionate, happy way with each other (even the two that fell out).
 
Oh, yes, that is interesting! I can see the difference. And that actually makes me feel better about our situation because ours do not have that negative energy with each other at all. They strut and swagger and pester but in a basically affectionate, happy way with each other (even the two that fell out).

That is great - it means that there is not some really bad grudge between them.
It is not something that you can describe well; you have to see the difference to understand it. Take a deep breath now and see how it goes!

You can see whether they will go back together in two days after an intro on neutral ground or not - and this time back into the large cage.
Usually you see rather quickly with boars which way things are heading, unlike with sows. See it as test.
If they are happy to be back together, then bingo! (But you still have the full teenage to sit out...)
If they do not work out, then also fine - it is very likely it would have happened anyway somewhere along the line. You just did an early stress test at an unfortunate point in time. ;)
 
I can’t add to the debate but I did want to say that I admire your courage in your first post.
Admitting a possible mistake and being open to learning takes some doing.
Thank you for sharing and I am sure it will help others too.
This is a special part of the forum - learning from each other’s experiences.
Thank you
 
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