Brace me up, please

exia

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So, this thread isn't about piggys. The guys are pretty happy: I'm invalid at cage cleaning-day!

My neck has killed me for years. Muscle pains, migraines etc. My hubby use to massage the worst pain away, but then I can't take it anymore. I just hate massage. I know I really need to seek someone professional, but I really can't deal with having a strange person touch me. When my hubby massages me the pain gets to intense after awhile.

So, I had a pretty rough year. One year ago I woke up at the ICU after four weeks in medical coma. My first thought was all this people who helped me during my beautysleep. That hunted me for months. Now I can accept it is what it is, but... Do I want to go to a doctor of any kind?

No. I just can't manage myself to let someone look at my back. Ofc the coma did what it did to my body and my body has been working very hard with re-learning a lots of stuff and now my BACK is worse then ever. The neck pain is down under the shoulders. Sometimes I come home from work and have to spend hours talking to the toilet becuse of intensive pain.
But - this intensive feeling of disgust when people I don't know touches me has been sience forever. It's not ICU-related.

I get it. I have to seek help. So please, brace me up! People doesn't really get my "phobia" so if someone has the same problem please open up 😊

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I was thinking of a beautiful selfie I took at the hospital, but... I don't want to scare you! So, you'll get the handsome trio instead (when they still was a trio).
 

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you can do it. would it help if you asked for a female doctor (guessing you're female) because I'm sure they could do that for you if it would help. it may be worth letting them know when you book the appointment that this is hard for you and that you're anxious about the appointment so they know to go easy on you.

I totally understand although I'm not as scared of being touched as I once was I still have a lot of other anxieties and I know it's not as easy as it seams to just get over it or face your fears head on. but if you're open about it I'm sure your doctor will understand they see all sorts and I'm sure someone with back pain that doesn't like being touched is nothing outside of the ordinary for them.

you have some beautiful piggies by the way 🙂
 

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Your piggies are lovely.
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, and you most definitely need to see a Dr. to try and come up with a plan to get your pain under control.

However making an appointment does not mean anyone needs to touch you.
You could start slowly by outlining your problems and concerns, and your Dr. should be able to discess some possible treatments to start with.
For example maybe you need an x-ray or mri and these are not particularly hands on procedures, and most Dr. and technicians will be sympathetic if you make sure you explain your concerns right at the start.

I think seeing a Dr is the first step, and then once you have some options you can take it from there at a level that you are ok with.
 

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Your piggies are lovely 😍 I’m very sorry about your pain :( As above, if you are female may be asking for a female doctor will help. Tell them beforehand about your anxieties as they will have seen it all before and will be able to put you at ease. Think about the benefits that seeing a doctor will have on your health. You can do it :)
 

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CBT with a counsellor or some form of psychotherapy could really help you with this. Ask your doctor - you will have to wait but you will get a referral.
 

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Thank you all!
Feels very comforting just to know other people understand that my feelings are a real issue for me. My "choosen people" and family does not really always understand this problem. In someway I can understand - I work with people "on the spectra" and other psychriatic diagnosis. I have no problem with the body contact when I'm the helper. It's not hard to understand why, but my people can't really understand the differences between the feeling of my body and the respect of other people's body.

I will start with talking to my doctors office on Monday. Pretty nervous, but this needs to be done!

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Little Chip, the piggy we're not supposed to have. Three months big boy tomorrow! Yes, he's a fantastic mix of Rex and Peruvian and has a fantastic Mohawk from the ears to his bum.
 

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Hope all goes well on Monday.
Remember there will be a lot of people thinking of you
 
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