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i really understand the thing about your animals keeping you going hunny, i'm not looking for attention either, but i just thought i'd say that i'm in the same boat, as i have m.e., and my piggies are the only things that keep me going, however, i have family who help me clean them and look after them and stuff, and they are still getting a really good life. it seems to me that you have taken on too much here and are now struggling, i say you need to at least rehome the majority of your animals, and maybe, just maybe keep 2 piggies, but ONLY if you definitely will be able to cope with them, pay for stuff for them and give them the best life. and it needs to stay with just the 2, thats that, no more, cos thats just not fair. so think very carefully, will you be able to give 2 piggies the best life? or should you not have any? i know this must be hard coming to terms with it, but ut's really not fair on them,a nd it's obviously stressing you right out. :)
 
Me again sorry!
Me too - getting piggies was the best thing I could've done. It made more motivated and it was something to take an interest in when I was depressed. All my pets (apart from my cockatiel who now has died RIP) had died (my dog in particular was like a brother cos we grew up together), and my 2 pigs are the first pets I had with sole responsibility. And I really enjoy that responsibility - although it can be quite stressful - even with 2. its made me more confident - handling smaller animals, going into shops, ringing up vets - all things I was scared of before. Sometimes I see pigs (like on the rescue site) and its so tempting but I know I havent got the space or the money for more. Really glad Ive only got 2 at the mo - what wiith Ruby having her operation and treatment.

I see my 2 pigs as my therapy! And I like to think they are having the best life I could possibly offer. They're spoilt rotten! So we need each other.

Having so many has taken the fun out of it for you - although you dearly love them. You cant enjoy them as its such hard work. And its obviously triggering unhappy negative feelings which isnt good for your mentality and wellbeing.

Like I said before its good that you now know your limit. I honestly think maybe the last ones in should be the first to be rehomed. Gosh... that sounds really harsh... but I cant put it in a nicer way sorry.

Good luck again Debs O0
 
You cant use your animals as an emotional crutch, its just not fair, I think you should either rehome them all, or keep like 2 rats, 2 pigs....end.
 
PerfectPiggies said:
You cant use your animals as an emotional crutch, its just not fair, I think you should either rehome them all, or keep like 2 rats, 2 pigs....end.
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yeah, i'm not saying you should depend on them, but my piggies, like piggyloon said are my therapy. my doctor even recommended i get some pets as therapy pets. i aggree though, just keep a couple so you still have some, but don't go and replace them with more.
 
I think if its got to the stage where you are shouting and throwing stuff at their cages then for their sakes they need to be either fostered until you can get things sorted, or rehomed. Poor little things must have been scared. No matter how bad things got I could never throw stuff at my piggies.

PS I know its awful not being able to sleep - try some earplugs (they do work) or some herbal sleep rememdies, or have someone look after the noisy ones for a few days while you catch up on your sleep. Once you've had a decent rest then things won't seem so bad...
 
Sorry you are feeling so bad, :( . It might be stating the obvious, but have you not got another room you can put them in. If things don't settle, it's probably best to rehome or foster. Good luck :)
 
Depression is a very hard to go through- i completely understand - and to people who have critized her when youre ill you sometimes do things you would not normally do - it is an illness and you cant always been in control of your actions

you had guts to admit all what you have and its better to be like that then abuse your animals I'm sure many people have without admitting to it - throwing something at their cage was wrong but you people are abusing their pets which is worse than that - i bet there s many people whove smacked their dog and regretted it !

Now you need to see that having all these animals is not helping your depression, and you need to let go of these animals - having animals i agree does help you - i got my guinea pig and rabbit and have had many others - found it hard being a mum and losing my friends and it is therapy smoothing and cuddling these beautiful critters.

but you have to know when to stop, ive been there thinking ooh what shall i get next, but now I'm better and realise there is more you can do for yourself rather than get pets ! You say you want to keep your rats and thats it , so i would definately suggest you advertise your other animals and find really good homes for them ...

I'm not making excuses for you - but i know how depression does change you and make you do things you cant control or would nt realise the consequences - good luck to you and please dont get any more pets ! ;)
 
just to note i havent got a dog ;D just incase i get hate mail that ive whacked a dog !

people are entitled to their opinions and not everyone understands the actions of depression if she said she threw her piggie against a wall then i would of kept out of this one ! shes clearly ill, and i agree that she has taken on too many pets


at least she hasnt dumped them in the street and left them to fend for themselves ! getting a rabbit on top of all the rest too i agree was silly but i think she knows that.
 
sorry to go on but my rabbit is a pain too - he thumps his feet at night sometimes the little sod ! :tickedoff:
 
Just to say Ive been at work all day so thats why I havnt replyed, finally got chance to pop online so will read through all todays comments and post after..
 
PerfectPiggies said:
You cant use your animals as an emotional crutch, its just not fair, I think you should either rehome them all, or keep like 2 rats, 2 pigs....end.
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oh no - I didnt mean it in that way... I dont see them as a crutch, but they have definately helped me get out and about. I didnt get them for the reason of being therapy but looking back I suppose they have been. I thought long and hard about it and had second thoughts (thinking about the time they die and if i'll cope). I dont depend on them as Cavylove said but my life is richer for having them.

Just thought I cover myself there! ;D ;)

You just dont need that many animals to make a difference thats all I'm saying. ;) :-X
 
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A £250 overdraft just for vet bills is nothing when you have 10+ little furries. One vet visit could cost you that. You really need to cut down. You seen to be adding to the collection. When you rehomed your little rabbit, that should be it, no more rabbits, no more pets. By you having to rehome that rabbit, shows you that you has enough and couldnt cope. Then you get another rabbit and again cant cope. Just rehome them. There is no excuse to throwing things at cages or anything like that. It is totally out of order to the animals involved. You really should put a post in the rescue/rehome bit for the 3 female babies. And then after a few weeks of them being gone it should be the other guinea pigs. I would rehome the youngest pets you have first. So they rabbit and babie pigs. That way they wont have gotten too attached to you. And then the older 3 pigs and so-on.

None of us on here that have replyed have ment to up set you, we are trying to help. Its just that we hear so many cases like this.
 
None of my animals are being rehomed. I can cope, I just had a very bad night, work was stressing me out and I was tired.
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