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Harrisandobis mum

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Hello,

I am posting here because I am absolutely beyond devastated.
6 weeks ago I had 2 fur babies..Harris and Oberin. Both 3.5 years
They both were my world. Obi then got a stone and he was operated on..we nursed him and he seemed to come back to himself we were so happy.
Then he started losing weight and got poorly after several trips to vet she said he would have to be put to all
 
I am so sorry to hear this. Sometimes no matter how quick we act or how much we do, it just isn't enough. I know I went through a very intensive (and expensive) operation for a stone with my boy only for him to go downhill with the other kidney and we had to have him put to sleep. It's so difficult to go through
 
Hello,


Hello,

I am posting here because I am absolutely beyond devastated.
6 weeks ago I had 2 fur babies..Harris and Oberin. Both 3.5 years
They both were my world. Obi then got a stone and he was operated on..we nursed him and he seemed to come back to himself we were so happy.
Then he started losing weight and got poorly after several trips to vet she said he would have to be put to sleep. I was devastated, I cried and cried for days on end
I was so worried about his little mate Harris. After much careful consideration and tons of research I found a sanctuary about 70 miles away and because of their ethos thought that would be the best outcome for Harris as he seemed so lonely and I wanted him to be happy.
We went and were told that he would be neutered the following week and could stay as a forever resident with the girls.
I was soooo happy. This would be Harris's perfect ending.
I was worried though because he was placed in a hutch alone as he wasn't neutered.
I contacted the sanctuary every few days to check in on him and ask about neutering but was then told this couldn't happen for several weeks.
Last night I get a message telling me Harris has passed away 'in his sleep
There are absolutely no words to describe my devastation.
Imagining him in that hutch dying alone.
I can't cope or stop crying 😢 😭 😫 😩
I wish I had never sent him..I didn't get a another piggie because of how devastating I found losing Obi and couldn't face it over and over again and thought I was giving Harris a better life.
I just don't know how I will cope 😭😭😭
 
I'm so sorry this happened to you
 
I am so very sorry to read this.
Please be gentle with yourself as you grieve.
Holding you in my heart ♥️
 
Harrisandobis mum said:
Thank you. I feel like I have let Harris down
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No you haven’t let Harris down at all.
Sadly these things do happen, despite the fact that you did everything possible.
Give yourself a day or so for the initial rawness of grief to wear off and then consider how best to care for Harris.
 
I was so worried about Harris. After much careful consideration and tons of research I found a sanctuary about 70 miles away and because of their ethos thought that would be the best outcome for Harris as he seemed so lonely and I wanted him to be happy.
We went and were told that he would be neutered the following week and could stay as a forever resident with the girls.
I was soooo happy. This would be Harris's perfect ending.
I was worried though because he was placed in a hutch alone as he wasn't neutered.
I contacted the sanctuary every few days to check in on him and ask about neutering but was then told this couldn't happen for several weeks.
Last night I get a message telling me Harris has passed away 'in his sleep
There are absolutely no words to describe my devastation.
Imagining him in that hutch dying alone.
I can't cope or stop crying 😢 😭 😫 😩
I wish I had never sent him..I didn't get a another piggie because of how devastating I found losing Obi and couldn't face it over and over again and thought I was giving Harris a better life.
I feel like I have let him down
 
Oh no, I hadn’t realised that you’d lost Harris as well..
Grief isn’t easy but it has to work it’s way out.
It takes time.
Please post here as you need, we will support you.
There are some excellent bereavement guides on the forum too.
The Blue Cross also offers grief support following the loss of a pet.
 
Harrisandobis mum said:
I was so worried about Harris. After much careful consideration and tons of research I found a sanctuary about 70 miles away and because of their ethos thought that would be the best outcome for Harris as he seemed so lonely and I wanted him to be happy.
We went and were told that he would be neutered the following week and could stay as a forever resident with the girls.
I was soooo happy. This would be Harris's perfect ending.
I was worried though because he was placed in a hutch alone as he wasn't neutered.
I contacted the sanctuary every few days to check in on him and ask about neutering but was then told this couldn't happen for several weeks.
Last night I get a message telling me Harris has passed away 'in his sleep
There are absolutely no words to describe my devastation.
Imagining him in that hutch dying alone.
I can't cope or stop crying 😢 😭 😫 😩
I wish I had never sent him..I didn't get a another piggie because of how devastating I found losing Obi and couldn't face it over and over again and thought I was giving Harris a better life.
I feel like I have let him down
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Please don't ever blame yourself xx
 
Merab's Slave said:
Oh no, I hadn’t realised that you’d lost Harris as well..
Grief isn’t easy but it has to work it’s way out.
It takes time.
Please post here as you need, we will support you.
There are some excellent bereavement guides on the forum too.
The Blue Cross also offers grief support following the loss of a pet.
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Thank you. I can't stop crying. The thought of him dying alone in hutch in the sanctuary is too much to bear
 
So sorry for your losses, wish I could give you a big hug. Perhaps Harris had a very gentle passing going back to Obi. They had a life of love, all down to you ❤️
 
artcasper said:
Please don't ever blame yourself xx
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I do though
He was alone
I just can't stop crying
I loved them so much. They were my world
I would get up and first thing was cuddles then their breakfast. Then another cuddle. Then I would set up their play area on floor. Come home at lunchtime and cuddles and their lunch.
Then come home after work and cuddles and then pop them on the blanket next to me for the evening with cuddles and dinner. Then cage overnight.
Now I have the unimaginable thought of my darling Harris dying alone in a hutch
No words to describe my pain 💔
 
I'm so sorry for your losses. Sending love and hugs in this difficult time.
Sleep tight little ones 💕🌈
 
I’m so sorry you have lost both your boys in such a short space of time. Please don’t think you let Harris down, you didn’t, you gave him a chance to have a happy future life with lots of ladies. Circumstances beyond your control have lead to delays in his operation, but that was not your fault. Your love for your boys shines through your grief, both your boys will know just how much you loved them and they will have known that when they passed x
Sleep tight little gentlemen 🌈
 
Bill & Ted said:
I’m so sorry you have lost both your boys in such a short space of time. Please don’t think you let Harris down, you didn’t, you gave him a chance to have a happy future life with lots of ladies. Circumstances beyond your control have lead to delays in his operation, but that was not your fault. Your love for your boys shines through your grief, both your boys will know just how much you loved them and they will have known that when they passed x
Sleep tight little gentlemen 🌈
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Thank you so much 💓 xx
 
I've just lost one of mine, salt, it's shocked me, I cried for 3 day, the first night, I was up all night looking after pepper, its just a shattering experience. I buried salt in a corner of the garden, and I had nightmare about that, I didn't feel this bad, when I lost my dad last December.
Look after your self, cry don't hold it back, talk about, I found it help me, ♥️
 
Jue said:
I've just lost one of mine, salt, it's shocked me, I cried for 3 day, the first night, I was up all night looking after pepper, its just a shattering experience. I buried salt in a corner of the garden, and I had nightmare about that, I didn't feel this bad, when I lost my dad last December.
Look after your self, cry don't hold it back, talk about, I found it help me, ♥️
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I am so sorry for your loss. It's absolutely horrendous isn't it. I don't know what to do with myself.
They were the lights of my life. Every morning I would get piggie kisses. I am heartbroken 💔
What about your Pepper? Do you still have Pepper? Xx
 
Yes still have pepper, iam looking for another Guinea pig for him, because he's not right on his own, and I worry about when am not about. ♥️ It's getting easier now
 
((HUGS.)) I'm so sorry for your losses.
 
You look after your self. Iam sorry you had to go through that♥️
 
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