Does it ever get easier?

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Hello all,

Apologies for my lack of attendance of late...I've started a new job and I'm studying for exams in December.

As most of you know, I lsot my beautiful boar, Ron, on 3rd August this year. It's coming up to a month now and I still cry pretty much everyday. I downloaded a particular song the day he died because the lyrics made sense. It came on my Blackberry on my way into work today and I broke down in tears.

It was my 25th birthday the other week and my Granny mentioned Ron and I had to leave the room. I spent the rest of my birthday watching videos of him eating cucumber and getting cuddles, whilst drowning my sorrows with a bottle of vino.

Do things get any easier? I can't seem to shift this aching emptiness and sadness that's been left since Ron passed.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I'm costing myself a fortune in tissues and makeup because I have to keep re-applying after having a burst!

xx
 
Unfortunately grief takes time, try remember him 'as he was', don't remember him by the fact he's gone. If that makes sense.

x
 
It takes time, especially when you had a close bond. There are no short cuts to grieving and a little memory jog can bring it all up again. it took me long time to get over the loss of my own special piggy (actually until I joined this forum) because I didn't have anybody who understood.

Perhaps you could get help from a pet bereavement helpline to get you over the worst? Talking helps a lot.
http://www.bluecross.org.uk/2083/pet-bereavement-support-service.html There are a couple more services around if you do a search.
 
It will get easier love, but it does take time, i know when i lost one of my boys i cried every day for at least a month, now i can talk about him, but if i talk in depth i cry, it was August 2010 i lost him so a year ago now.

I also lost another piggy that month, but i coped a lot easier with his loss i think due to the fact that he was not as affectionate as my other and he kept himself mostly to himself, but it still broke my heart.

We all react to things differently too, and also things that are going on your life could affect how you are feeling right now.

Just take each day as it comes and try not to worry about it, one day you will be able to remember in a nice way and be able to see it as positive x
 
EASIER? mmmmmmmm

well...... maybe over time.......... but at first ......... to be honest not really........ depends on the bond of you and the piggie............. as whee all know...........

then one day........... after you've gone thru so much pain and grief and yes it's intense........ you can look at their grave or their resting place.......and start to smile............. and then talk to them and chat away.......... about so many things......

a bond with a friend yes a furry friend is precious ....... x) it's just the best x)

you will start to smile and remember lovely times together........ gosh they're just the best times to remember........... to treasure x)

give yourself time............ please xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
and then one day............. x)
 
Aw :( I can sympathise because I lost my lovely boy Oreo the night before I sat a Maths exam which was pretty devastating, I really miss him too :(

Just try and remember all the good times you had with your little Ron and I'm sure he knew that you loved him and did your best for him, I put a lot of energy into spending time with my other piggies which helped me, i got them some extra toys and treats and watching them enjoying them was nice.

Sorry, this isn't very good advice, I do hope you feel better soon x
 
I think time does help to heal, but at the moment I'm still very much grieving the loss of three of my beloved piggies this year, Lady Penelope, Montgomery and Mimsi. A funny thing happened the other night. Cyrus was out for free range time and I went to put him back in his cage. I looked under the wardbrobe where ** normally hides, and saw the outline of a piggie. the more I looked, the more the image looked liked Montgomery whose fave place was under the wardrobe. suddenly cyrus ran from the other side of the room which startled me as I had thought it was he who was under the wardrobe. When I looked back, the 'image' was gone. Was it my Montgomery letting me know he is still around? I like to think so. When I lost Lady Penelope, the song that was playing in the room at the time was 'isnt she lovely'. Every time I hear that song I shed a tear. Hugs to you, you are amongst others who truly understand your grief...
 
I dont have any advice...sorry..... Just wanted to say i hope things get easier for you soon. xx
 
Glynis said:
EASIER? mmmmmmmm

well...... maybe over time.......... but at first ......... to be honest not really........ depends on the bond of you and the piggie............. as whee all know...........

then one day........... after you've gone thru so much pain and grief and yes it's intense........ you can look at their grave or their resting place.......and start to smile............. and then talk to them and chat away.......... about so many things......

a bond with a friend yes a furry friend is precious ....... x) it's just the best x)

you will start to smile and remember lovely times together........ gosh they're just the best times to remember........... to treasure x)

give yourself time............ please xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
and then one day............. x)
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this is beautiful and nearly had me in tears, i really cant add anything that has nt already been said here, but it will help you to keep coming on here and getting support x
 
It does get slightly easier with time. I lost my piggie last August and I still cry now....not as much but I do. The grief can be overwhelming :(
 
Farquhar said:
I think time does help to heal, but at the moment I'm still very much grieving the loss of three of my beloved piggies this year, Lady Penelope, Montgomery and Mimsi. A funny thing happened the other night. Cyrus was out for free range time and I went to put him back in his cage. I looked under the wardbrobe where ** normally hides, and saw the outline of a piggie. the more I looked, the more the image looked liked Montgomery whose fave place was under the wardrobe. suddenly cyrus ran from the other side of the room which startled me as I had thought it was he who was under the wardrobe. When I looked back, the 'image' was gone. Was it my Montgomery letting me know he is still around? I like to think so. When I lost Lady Penelope, the song that was playing in the room at the time was 'isnt she lovely'. Every time I hear that song I shed a tear. Hugs to you, you are amongst others who truly understand your grief...
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Aw, this moved me to tears. I remember when you lost your piggies :0
That must have been so comforting to have 'seen' Montgomery, he's still with you x)
 
the grieving process is a long one, but it'll get easier with time. I know how you must be feeling. When I lost my sow, Hash in October last year, I cried for three weeks non stop, even during class. Just remember that you gave him a really good life while he was here on this earth. I hope you feel better. <3
 
Thank you all for your kind words. The reason I joined this forum has just been reinforced by all your replies.

I've not had then best 5 months and everyday it seems there's something new to cry about. Sometimes when I watch the videos of Ron, I actually cheer up and the tears of sorrow turn into tears of joy. He was the best little pig and will always have a special place in my heart, even if the grief does still consume me on a daily basis.

Thank you all again.

My thoughts and hugs are with all of you who have/are experiencing the same as I am.

x
 
OK...I'm going to add my 5p worth.

Its been 8 weeks today I lost Rodney, and I still cry my eyes out every day. So, has it got eaiser for me in that time.....honestly? No....

I'm missing everything about him, even the willy cleaning! :x and sometimes, when I'm sitting here watching the TV I see out the corner of my eye, something running around on the floor and I am convinced its his spirit. (I'm a believer in spirit and afterlife). Hes definitely been around me during times when Ive been particulary upset.

When an animal is such a big part of your life, they are not just an animal they are a companion. And losing a companion, whether that be human or animal is a very distressing thing to experience. I know that it will get easier, and probably if I wasnt feeling so poorly I would be feeling better about Rodney.

Yesterday I called the Blue Cross Pet Bereavement line, and it helped a bit. Maybe give them a call, there is a sticky on the Rainbow Bridge section titled "I hope this helps someone".

Just take it 1 day at a time, dont try to rush yourself or feel daft for feeling the way you do its all NORMAL.

xx
 
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