Doubts About Adoption

WhinnyPig

WhinnyPig

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hi all! I am feeling so nervous. Sunday we take Winona to look for a sister at a rescue. I was excited at first but now I am having mixed feelings. Not sure if it’s about committing long term to another animal or guilt over losing my baby girl Wiley recently I just feel not happy about it anymore.

I know it is not right to keep a single pig even if they seem to be doing ok. I just don’t know how to feel better about this or know that I’m doing the right thing.

Any advice?
 
What you are feeling is completely normal. :hug:
You have had a hard time recently, and loosing a pig takes time to come to terms with.

All I can suggest is going along as planned and seeing how you feel when you get there.
Depending on the piggies they have available and on Winona's reaction, you an take it from there.
There is no pressure to make a decision immediately.
Just give your yourself time, and when it comes to it you will make the best decision from Winona.
If you aren't ready on Sunday then it is fine to say so - be kind to yourself.
 
Thanks everyone. It’s so hard and I feel a lot of pressure to make Winona happy and also don’t want to get a friend she doesn’t like :(
 
WhinnyPig said:
Thanks everyone. It’s so hard and I feel a lot of pressure to make Winona happy and also don’t want to get a friend she doesn’t like :(
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Difficult time for you after losing Wiley. Bound to have mixed feelings as we all do making the big decision on getting another furry friend.
I’m sure the rescue centre will make sure they are completely compatible. If you are still unsure just say so and give yourself a little longer!
I am having one doubts about getting a second rabbit to keep Flossie company after she has been spayed on Tuesday. Part of me would like to carry on as we are but I know she needs a rabbit to cuddle not just me!
Will all be thinking of you tomorrow! X
 
I do think it's normal. I have had very mixed feeling about getting a new pet after a loss. It's hard when you aren't done grieving but want your pig to have a friend. I know that, at times, it has been hard to connect with a new pig immediately after a loss. I really didn't want a new pig, I just wished that I still had the pig that passed away. That said, given some time I have definitely ended up loving the new pig once I get to know them. Hopefully once you are there, Winona will meet a good match and you will be able to envision that pig being a new part of the family too (I know, in many cases, I have 'known' I met the right pig. They weren't a replacement, but I felt like they belonged with me. Hopefully the same will happen with you.
 
I was in exactly the same situation just a few weeks ago. I lost George quickly. I came home from work to get him to the vets but he didn’t make it.

I adopted a baby boar Dudley as I knew Harry was young and needed a companion. It didn’t feel right at first but seeing Harry with a friend has made it all worth while :)

I still get guilty and wish I had seen the signs earlier with George. I laid in bed the other night and was over come with sadness. Seeing him so poorly broke me and I feel I failed him.
 
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Thank you for all your replies! I was really disappointed when I got there since they had me bring Winona but then she just sat in her carrier the whole time :( I ended up getting a gigantic all black piggy who we named Wailani! She is a beauty but I’m worried she has ringworm. I was really torn on whether to get her but felt I couldn’t let her go back to the house she had been in as I didn’t feel her care was acceptable, the woman even suggested I could breed her! She is terrified but home and we are giving her some alone time to settle down!

It was a day of mixed emotions but I’m optimistic this will turn out well. I feel better knowing I got her out of a bad situation and Winona won’t be alone!
 
A rescue that suggested breeding!!

Glad you got her safely home with you.
 
Luckily the rescue didn’t suggest breeding, just the woman who was surrendering her! I was like umm no...
 
Could be I’m not sure yet! Hoping to get her in ASAP to my vet As I don’t want the rest of us to catch anything! The rescue wants me to contact them if there is any illness or anything within the first 10 days.
 
Could be I’m not sure yet! Hoping to get her in ASAP to my vet As I don’t want the rest of us to catch anything! The rescue wants me to contact them if there is any illness or anything within the first 10 days.
 
Fancy the woman who was surrendering her suggesting breeding? Maybe she had wanted to do that. Hope your new piggy is OK keep us informed!
 
I am so sad that your baby Wiley died I can't imagine. I hope your babies do well together!
 
Thank you! They are both so adorable I hope they love each other and find comfort from their losses in a friend.
 
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