Friend Possibly Selling Her Boys :(

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A friend from school, I am 42 so I mean another mum, has 2 boys - had them for 2 years i think - and for the past few months i have been sharing my weekly veg with her.. if i buy a big pack and i know it will go off before mine have eaten etc i give it to her..

i spoke to her daughter today and asked how her piggies were and she said ' My mum is selling them - she is allergic to them "... Broke my heart .. just find it sad.. Not spoken to the mum yet but just think its a cop out ....
 
It is so frustrating when people treat animals as disposable items but hopefully they will go to a good home where they will be loved and get the attention they deserve.
 
AbiS said:
It is so frustrating when people treat animals as disposable items but hopefully they will go to a good home where they will be loved and get the attention they deserve.
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i remember when i mentioned getting mine to two mums at school, one who i mentioned above and another one - she had some but gave hers away after so long :(
I can't imagine having to give mine up... i would take them off her but OH has said NO and realistically we have no room for them and it wouldn't be fair...
 
Please don't say anything rash as you only know what the child has been told. I have been dealing with people with a vast array of problems and severe financial hardship for 9 years now and can tell you, some of them across as well off because they don't want anyone to think they can't provide for their children. Allergy could be the reason for getting rid but might also be the cop out to tell the child if you can't afford to do it anymore or simply cannot cope. I would mention what the child has said and suggest local rescues so that the parent can remove the situation (whatever is the reason for needing rid) without a big delay and know that they will go to a good loving home.
 
I won't.. i will just speak to her and see if she brings it up... i know they both have good jobs but obviously i don't know about their financial situation :(
i thought about suggesting i help her find them a new home if it is indeed true x
 
artcasper said:
I won't.. i will just speak to her and see if she brings it up... i know they both have good jobs but obviously i don't know about their financial situation :(
i thought about suggesting i help her find them a new home if it is indeed true x
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just looked up the nearest rescue for her if she needs the info ...
 
Aww no :no: How sad. I'm guessing the 2 boars are bonded? I'm looking for two single boars to try and date with my two single boys
 
It would just be dreadful to be in a position where you had no choice but to give them up. You wouldn't wish that on anyone but in some ways you hope that is the case rather than them just being given up because they aren't wanted.
 
Sian25 said:
Aww no :no: How sad. I'm guessing the 2 boars are bonded? I'm looking for two single boars to try and date with my two single boys
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i presume so cos they have been together all the time and she has never mentioned any trouble ...
 
AbiS said:
It would just be dreadful to be in a position where you had no choice but to give them up. You wouldn't wish that on anyone but in some ways you hope that is the case rather than them just being given up because they aren't wanted.
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no i wouldn't wish it on anyone.... i so want it to be a genuine reason but i fear its the burden :( i am trying not be judgemental - just makes me sad... i will help her all i can...
 
artcasper said:
I won't.. i will just speak to her and see if she brings it up... i know they both have good jobs but obviously i don't know about their financial situation :(
i thought about suggesting i help her find them a new home if it is indeed true x
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To be honest I have had a CEO of a company come for free debt advice. People live within their means, the more they own the higher the bills they commit to and all it takes is for one small change and everything goes tits up (in the CEO case it was a relationship breakdown and all of a sudden he was facing unable to pay the mortgage and considering insolvency). I have also had people come to me in absolute tears because they think the only option left is to give up their pet.

Glad you have some information to hand and will be there to support her if needed
 
Lady Kelly said:
To be honest I have had a CEO of a company come for free debt advice. People live within their means, the more they own the higher the bills they commit to and all it takes is for one small change and everything goes tits up (in the CEO case it was a relationship breakdown and all of a sudden he was facing unable to pay the mortgage and considering insolvency). I have also had people come to me in absolute tears because they think the only option left is to give up their pet.

Glad you have some information to hand and will be there to support her if needed
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when i first heard i was angry but that lasted 5 minutes.. i am a nice person so will do all i can to support and help her.. I will even go and help clean them out and feed them if thats the problem.. hopefully she will trust me enough to be honest then i can help her find a new home for the boys...
it is expensive having pets, even piggies cost a fair bit each week... my kids were playing with a puppy earlier so thats all i have heard about ! NO chance !
 
Ok.. So I texted my friend and it's a genuine situation.... I feel better now as I was worrying about the .. I know she does look after them though so that wasn't the worry... Just me being emotional... She wants to re home them as she feels they don't get enough company ... They have not been handled much so she feels they need to go to someone with experience who can handle them.. I have said I will get some names of local rescues for her and help where I can... Feel better now having asked her.... Here's hoping they will find a new home ....
P.s her mother in law told her to put them down :ban::rant::rant::yikes::yikes:
 
Sorry if I came across as a bit judgemental of my friend earlier.. I was just sad...
 
artcasper said:
Sorry if I came across as a bit judgemental of my friend earlier.. I was just sad...
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I don't think you came across as judgemental at all. I think it's just easy to worry/stress about a situation and not find it as easy to step back and see all the possibilities which is why I commented. This is why I moved out of debt advice, too many horrible, stressful and emotional situations that I can't solve for people, I've not removed myself fully but in a better position to help as it stresses me out more when I physically can't do anything to help
 
Lady Kelly said:
I don't think you came across as judgemental at all. I think it's just easy to worry/stress about a situation and not find it as easy to step back and see all the possibilities which is why I commented. This is why I moved out of debt advice, too many horrible, stressful and emotional situations that I can't solve for people, I've not removed myself fully but in a better position to help as it stresses me out more when I physically can't do anything to help
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That's the thing . Sometimes you R too close then feel helpless... I knew I would worry all night about them... Even though I have only met them a few times ! The piggies things to your brain x
 
Aww bless the two boys. I'd love to of taken them as I'm quite close location wise. But I said no more after 4... I'm now at 7 and definitely can't take anymore.

I hope they find a loving new home.
 
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