Gone off my boys a bit

[lauraboara]

Sounds a bit strange but since Gregory (my oldest piggie) died in August, I have not been as engaged with the remaining 6 boys. i am still giving them the best care I can but just not as enthusiastically as normal. I even have a lovely youngster from Milhaven but not as excited by him as I should be!
I have 2 pairs and 2 singles - what to do about the singles is a worry but I have some ideas. I think also when the bad weather comes and they get out less, the smell in the house goes up, the poo sweeping goes up, any squabbling can be more obvious - you know the score.
i suppose I am just looking for some reassurance that it is 'just a phase'!

 

[LisaAli]

Your still grieving the loss of your older boy, it takes time to fill the gap left by him passing over the bridge. Remember though he's not really gone as he has a place in your heart for always. Try to focus on your remaining piggies by looking at their characteristics and remembering your Gregory and it will be amazing to you how many of Gregory's characteristics are still there in your other piggies. Hope this helps you get your Piggie gusto back.. xx

 

[piggyfan]

Forgive me if this is intrusive but do you think you may be depressed? Do you feel less interested in other things that once gave you pleasure?

 

[lauraboara]

Bless you piggyfan but no I think I am fine!
I think lisaali may well be right though and I am a bit in denial as too how much Gregory's death upset me. Hard to mention to friends and family who would think i was barmy to be grieving for a guinea for so long. But as you all appreciate, they are big part of our thoughts and everyday life.
Will try and find my piggie gusto - good phrase!

 

[Julesie]

I know how you feel. After losing Ludwig (display pic) I felt very much the same way. I had to force myself to go in the piggies room and it just felt really empty. I got over it (though it still feels a bit empty) by focusing on the new baby boar and watching him closely and how he acts and focusing on my second friendlist piggy. Matthew with his friendliness helped somewhat and with my newest baby running around doing laps of enjoyment whenever he gets food it has helped me.

I suggest trying to focus on your piggies and seeing what you love the most about each of them. That's what I've tried to do. I ended up with Gilbert being the cutest and my remaining piggy of the pair that I love about him. Matthew's friendliness and love of attention. Ryou's crazy lap running around the cage when I put food in and Romano with his politely waiting at the bowl, hands on the ledge waiting for his food like a gentleman. So whenever I felt sad I would look at those and feel myself cheering up.

I hope you can find something to help you, too. I still miss Ludwig greatly but I talk to him every morning and night, saying good morning or night to his ashes and I have a little photo above the other boys cage of him so it feels like he is still there.

 

[piggyfan]

It is so hard when you are grieving and people around do not understand. If you ever need to talk then please PM me. I have sadly had to go through the pain of losing three of my little ones.

 

[Wiebke]

I hope that you will get through it in good time; unfortunately, there are no short cuts for grieving - and how much you have to do, is not down to the species, but the depth of your bond. I am sure that in good time, you will come back to engage with your remaining boys as you used to!