Goodbye Kaylee Baby

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agentely

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My sister's guinea pig Kaylee passed away yesterday in my arms. She had an advanced URI and we had an appointment scheduled for tomorrow. My sister is in another state right now and did not get to say goodbye. I feel guilty, as if it's my fault she died. I was supposed to take care of her.

Kaylee was a beautiful tri colored female who loved to eat. She always would eat anything we offered (except cucumber!) and was always fatter than Cassie. She had one brother named Kirby who died when they were both about 2. I hope they're together now, eating all the fresh hay and crispy lettuce they want.

To say I'm sad is an understatement. I can't do anything. Everything makes me think of her. I feel so bad because Cassie is alone now. It's been a day and she's already so much more skittish.

Rest in peace, you adorable girl. Don't worry about us, we'll survive. You enjoy wherever you are. I love you.



(On the last pic Kaylee is on the left and Kirby is on the right. I miss you both so much)
 

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I'm so sorry that you & your sister have lost Kaylee, she looks beautiful. Sleep tight little Kayleigh, run free.xx
 
BIG HUGS

It sounds like you have done all you could do for Kaylee, who was a very ill piggy anyway. Unfortunately we cannot control when a piggy of ours passes (it is ALWAYS too soon!) or what it is dying from - the same as with our loved human friends and relatives. That is completely out of our hand.
Responsibility doesn't mean ultimate control over life and death; it only means that we should do our best for any pet in our care in the time they are with us, but nothing more.

Please be aware that these feelings of guilt and failure are very typical of the onset of the grieving process. They are usually much stronger if it is not your guinea pig, if the death is unexpected or if you lose a piggy after a long battle. All that these feelings of yours say to me is that Kaylee could not have had a more loving or caring piggy mommy because you only get it as bad if you truly love and care! You have not failed her, and she would have felt loved and cherished right to the end. ;)

It is very unlucky that Keylee passed away just shortly before her scheduled vet visit, but it is highly likely that under the circumstances, this visit would in all likelihood not have made a real difference in the ultimate outcome. There is only so much you can do for advanced lung disease; all you can do is play for time, which Kaylee has had for a very respectable time span since her diagnosis! Be proud of that!

If it is a consolation for you, I lost my Tesni last month. She unexpectedly went into organ failure the evening before her specialist vet appointment for what had initially looked like an ovarian cyst issue.
Since the last stages weren't easy on her, I took her with me together with my other piggies that had been booked in, not to be treated but for euthanasia/pts and held her in my arms during the journey (my husband was driving). She passed away upon arrival at the vet as soon as I set her gently down in her snuggle sac in the waiting room to pick up the other carriers from the car; a nurse came to pick her up immediately but found that she'd already gone.
It is just one of those things. Like you, I did all I could. I don't feel guilty because I know that I couldn't have done more for her; I know that both in my head AND in my heart. She didn't suffer for long, just the last stage when she was already mostly out of it but was no longer able to process any painkillers which I had given her in the night while she still could.

Give yourself time to grieve and give yourself time for your head and heart to come together again!

PS: If you really struggle with the guilt, the best thing is to talk with somebody who understands and is able to listen, but is bound by a confidentiality agreement. Google for pet bereavement phone services in your area; if possible free ones. The forum members that have made use of them have always had a good experience and have been feeling better afterwards!

PS2: You may also want to discuss with your sister what to do about the companion once you have checked out your local options if your sister has an emotional connection.
 
So sorry for your sister’s and your loss.
It’s always hard to lose a loved pet, especially with the added factor of her being your sister’s piggy.
Your reactions are perfectly normal for grief.
It takes time for the rawness to ease.
Kaylee died on your arms knowing she was safe and loved - she will have died peacefully.
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Thank you for all the kind words. <3
Neither of us are very attached to the second one. We got her as a replacement for my first one, and i've never felt very close to her. The only reason I selfishly want to keep her is because she's all we have left of our first two. Regardless of what we want, I think it'll probably be best if we give her up.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in shock and grieving at the moment and naturally so. Please allow yourselves time to grieve properly before making any decisions about your surviving piggy. Huge hugs.
 
I'm very sorry for your and your sister's loss. Grieving is normal and so are the feelings of guilt. Give yourselves time and remember that little Cassie is missing her friend too. I think if you loved your other ones, you may be able to bond a bit more with Cassie, even if she's not your first one.

Rehoming can always work but if there is already a good home that can love a guinea pig, it's so much better to let them be with the ones they are used to and love. Are you able to fall in love with another guinea pig you can bond with Cassie and maybe you and your sister can make friends with?

RIP little Kaylee.
 
@eileen Your profile pic looks so much like her. Thank you.

@fanniephina The issue is that we don't really want guinea pigs anymore. The only one who truly wanted them was my sister, and now that Kaylee's gone she is not enthusiastic about them. That's not to say she doesn't want Cassie, it's just that we're busy and don't have much time anymore and aren't attached to her like we were Kaylee.
 
I am really sorry for yours and your sisters loss. Kaylee was clearly very loved and cherished in life.

Sleep well little one

RIP Kaylee
x x
 
She lived an amazing life with toy and your sister. Don’t beat yourself up about it, there was nothing you could have done. sending you huge hugs. she had the best possible life that you could have given her. RIP Kaylee, sweet dreams x
 
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