How long before the tears stop?

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Hi all,

As some of you will know, I lost my little Pootle 3 weeks ago this Thursday and I still find myself bursting into tears whenever I think about her 8...

When does it stop? I am an adult and we have 5 other piggies, but I just feel so traumatised from losing her after all the effort and time I dedicated to her to get her better. I still have panic moments where I think I did something wrong or didnt do enough..

Do you all feel this way when you lose a piggy you're close to?
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Yes I know how you fee,l it's been years but I still feel guilty. But as time goes on I find that I don't think about them so much but then I feel guilty about that. I don't think you feel you have ever done enough maybe it's the sign of a good owner I don't know.
 
Yes, I feel that way too :( I lost my little Smores about 2 weeks ago. He had extremely severe dental problems. I spent hours syringe feeding him. It is very traumatizing, after all the effort you put into keeping your piggy alive, and they still don't pull through :...

I'm very sorry for your loss. Rest in peace Pootle
 
Oh Tani

Its so hard and I feel for you. I still burst into tears when I am alone if I let my mind wonder and thats from animals I have lost years ago as well as the ones now. I always feel guilty, should have done better, did'nt make the right decisions etc etc etc. You can beat yourself up forever...the fact is you did your best and you did what was right at the time. I know you did an amazing job with Pootle and you made her last days very special.

It just shows you care and you love them.

Unfortunately, for those of us who love our animals like this I don't think it ever goes, I think you just learn to live with it. Just try to remember the really happy times. When I feel myself going, I just think of one thing I remember that was funny or cute about them and focus on that as hard as I can, I almost have a stock of images in my mind that I call upon. Maybe that will help?

Hope that helps, just give yourself time and give the other guineas loads of extra love xx>>>
 
Aww i no how you feel!

i've only just been able to talk about Basil my PEW who died on new years day, without bursting into tears! ive put my sadness into making and organising a memorial book of him!
 
I can't remember how long it took, but when my baby Dillon passed away I couldn't help but think it was my fault as he was so young. It took a while, but I think it helps to put it at rest by making a little memorial. All I did was write on a piece of paper RIP Dillon and his birth date-death date then I stuck it up next to my bed. It helped me remember him but know that he was now in peace.
 
Hi guys,

you are all so very sweet and I'm glad (well not really, but you know what I mean!) to know that I'm not alone. It makes me feel better in some ways - that it's normal to feel this way.

Big hugs to you all and my thoughts are with all our gorgeous piggies x>>

p.s. re the memorial - i have put her little urn by the other piggies and it's weird, I know, but I have to kiss it good morning and good night every day, lol. Still trying to decide whether to get a house tree to add her ashes to which will then become a memorial tree... Just worried in case the tree dies!

p.p.s yes, I agree, if I think of something funny she did then it does cheer me up and make me laugh

xxxxxxxx
 
When you accept you did all you could things will be a much happier place.

When Bette left, the one good thing was I was able to find the cause. Without that her death would have been much more awful.

I was able to learn and rationalize the cause in my head, so that feeling of not doing enough I was able to say even if we did do this at this point she would have been dead.

That didn't stop me thinking if we got a diagnosis sooner, but life is full of what if's. You can only do what you can do at the time.

Little Pootle was very lucky to find you and have such an adoring owner.

This poem helped me greatly;

Don't think of him as gone away-
His Journey's just began,
Life holds so many facets-
This earth is only one.

Just think of him as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days or years.

Think how he must be wishing
That you could know today
Now nothing but your sadness
can really pass away.

And think of him as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost -
And he was loved so much

I hope you find comfort soon. x
 
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When Bette left, the one good thing was I was able to find the cause. Without that her death would have been much more awful.

I was able to learn and rationalize the cause in my head, so that feeling of not doing enough I was able to say even if we did do this at this point she would have been dead.

- That's the hard thing as for me I think knowing was almost worst because I should have been able to help her but couldn't. Alot of it stems from not having vets that are knowledgeable about piggies and it was only through you amazing piggy owners on here that I was able to get a diagnosis and the right medication to her. I felt helpless the vets didn't know what the do and we agreed that if any of other pigs need a serious op, that we would drive them to a specialist next time :(

We have now heard the dredded squeak when weeing in our eldest piggy and she has been sleeping alot but still eats. She is on Septrin and Rimadyl & a mix of Lysium and the other pet herb (for getting rid of bladder stones and crystals). The vets have said they would do a 2-4-1 deal on xrays for 2 of my piggies with similar symptoms so I can check for stones. Just out of interest, would anything else like inflammation or cysts or cancer show up on an x-ray or would she be better having a scan?

xx
 
Emmiiee said:
Aww i no how you feel!

i've only just been able to talk about Basil my PEW who died on new years day, without bursting into tears! ive put my sadness into making and organising a memorial book of him!
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Yes - I saw your thread and it's a lovely idea. I need to do that as I have some gorgeous photos. For now, I have her piccy on my i-phone so I can always see her. God, I've set myself off now...8...
 
Tani said:
When Bette left, the one good thing was I was able to find the cause. Without that her death would have been much more awful.

I was able to learn and rationalize the cause in my head, so that feeling of not doing enough I was able to say even if we did do this at this point she would have been dead.

- That's the hard thing as for me I think knowing was almost worst because I should have been able to help her but couldn't. Alot of it stems from not having vets that are knowledgeable about piggies and it was only through you amazing piggy owners on here that I was able to get a diagnosis and the right medication to her. I felt helpless the vets didn't know what the do and we agreed that if any of other pigs need a serious op, that we would drive them to a specialist next time :(

We have now heard the dredded squeak when weeing in our eldest piggy and she has been sleeping alot but still eats. She is on Septrin and Rimadyl & a mix of Lysium and the other pet herb (for getting rid of bladder stones and crystals). The vets have said they would do a 2-4-1 deal on xrays for 2 of my piggies with similar symptoms so I can check for stones. Just out of interest, would anything else like inflammation or cysts or cancer show up on an x-ray or would she be better having a scan?

xx
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I can't see how it's your fault.

Bette we tested for Diabetes infact it was the first thing we checked, the test strip showed up a negative result. Surely thats my fault then as I should have known it was a false negative.

Just like you should have known not to trust the professionals. You did the right thing you seeked medical advise, thats all we can do.

You have to accept you did your best aslong as you do your best thats all you can do! I'm sure your little pig doesn't blame you either. :)!
 
Hopefully not, hehe. I know she loved me and even when she was dying in my arms and struggling to breathe, she tried desperately to crawl up to snuggle into my neck.

I guess it will just take time and from what I understand from everyone who has replied, is that we never stop feeling sad or guilty but hopefully our piggies knew that we loved them so much and that they were lucky in some ways to have such caring owners as many people wouldn't even bother taking them to the vets :(

xx
 
Tani said:
Hopefully not, hehe. I know she loved me and even when she was dying in my arms and struggling to breathe, she tried desperately to crawl up to snuggle into my neck.

I guess it will just take time and from what I understand from everyone who has replied, is that we never stop feeling sad or guilty but hopefully our piggies knew that we loved them so much and that they were lucky in some ways to have such caring owners as many people wouldn't even bother taking them to the vets :(

xx
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Exactly, take comfort in the fact you were able to provide her forever home.
 
It takes time! Grief comes in bursts and spurts; suddenly something jogs it and it's there again fully blown.

You did what was possible at the time, and you gave your girl the most important thing: unconditional love! If it is any consolation to you, feelings of guilt are perfectly normal and the telltale sign that you are a loving, good and responsible piggy mummy! We all have them when a piggy dies!
 
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