How To Break The Bad News?

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Cocoa's original owner just got back in contact with me... since she gave me her babies, Maxy has passed away. She never was very forgiving, and I think she really did love him. I'm saying I think because she kept Maxy and Cocoa in a very small cage. How do I tell her (over texting) that Maxy has passed on? What do I do if she is angry with me? Also, she might be coming to my house in December, too. I'm really worried. What do I do? She might think I killed him :( she always thought I didn't know how to take care of them (?) I don't know why. I think she thought I didn't like guinea pigs. I do, though, and I would never hurt one. I don't even hurt bugs. I have Cocoa, and he's in good health. I take of him better than she did.. no offence. She only gave them iceberg lettuce and didn't clean the cage a lot and the cage was only three square feet. Anyway, please give me advice? I still want her to be my friend... and I'm sad about Maxy, too. I haven't replied to her messages yet.
 
It sounds like you have been a great owner to your boys, so you shouldn't feel like you have anything to hide from their previous owner.
And if she gave them to you, then deep down she must have felt that you could offer them a good home, otherwise why would she have given them away in the first place.
I would just be honest, but not give away too many details unless she specifically asks.
Just say you are really sorry to have to tell her such sad news, but Maxy fell ill and simply could not be saved.
But also let her know how well Cocoa is doing, and how happy you are to have both of them in your life.
 
Swissgreys said:
It sounds like you have been a great owner to your boys, so you shouldn't feel like you have anything to hide from their previous owner.
And if she gave them to you, then deep down she must have felt that you could offer them a good home, otherwise why would she have given them away in the first place.
I would just be honest, but not give away too many details unless she specifically asks.
Just say you are really sorry to have to tell her such sad news, but Maxy fell ill and simply could not be saved.
But also let her know how well Cocoa is doing, and how happy you are to have both of them in your life.
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Ok. I think I'll msg her soon. Hope it goes well. Thanks for the advice :)
 
I am a huge fan of honesty. I know it's going to be hard to say it, but I think that she needs to know the sad fact that Maxy has passed over to the Rainbow Bridge and how upset you are about it. She must have trusted you enough to look after them and she will know that you are a kind person and wouldn't have done them any harm. She will no doubt feel some guilt at having given them up (that's natural) and she will be sad that he has died (that's also natural) but I'm sure she won't blame you. Don't be too hard on yourself.
 
VickiA said:
I am a huge fan of honesty. I know it's going to be hard to say it, but I think that she needs to know the sad fact that Maxy has passed over to the Rainbow Bridge and how upset you are about it. She must have trusted you enough to look after them and she will know that you are a kind person and wouldn't have done them any harm. She will no doubt feel some guilt at having given them up (that's natural) and she will be sad that he has died (that's also natural) but I'm sure she won't blame you. Don't be too hard on yourself.
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Thank you. I still haven't told her.. i will soon
 
I told her. She didn't seem too upset :( I wonder if she really liked them anyway. She used to have hamsters. Maybe she thought they were like hammies. Or she could be pretending. I think deep down she loved him :)
 
I'm glad you've told her - it's never going to be an easy conversation but at least it's done now. Glad it seemed to go well :)
 
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