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As you probably know I've been looking for a GP. Now I've seen George on the Rescue thingy. Now I need to find a female, Firstley I need to confront my mum. :( I'm hopeless. My mum is too scary. What Should I Do.
 
make her a cuppa lol and ASK her to hear you out, and then explain why you want piggies and how you have seen a gorgeous boy which is desperate for a new home :)
 
Make sure she knows that you've done plenty of research
I persuaded her to let me get mine by asking for a dog (which I knew she wouldnt get), and then compromising on piggies and a rabbit.
Just remember to not get worked up and make your argument reasonable-if you act mature and sensibloe she'll see that you're responsible enough tom get them
 
yeah tell her theres 2199 members on this forum who think you deserve a piggie or two ;D but i do understand where your mum is comming from, as it is her responsibility :-\
 
I've Just Shown her the pictures of George she didn't get angery, and I told where he was where we could put him. I said I did loads of reserch and Guess what she said. 'They smell and I couldn't have something like that in my room' I said to her that They don't smell and the hammies smell more, even though they don't I clean them out every Saturday without fail.
 
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As you probably know I've been looking for a GP. Now I've seen George on the Rescue thingy. Now I need to find a female, Firstley I need to confront my mum. :( I'm hopeless. My mum is too scary. What Should I Do.
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I'm confused! 98) I thought you wanted one piggy - you've seen George - then you put you need to find a female. Are you intending to breed them?
 
George has been neutered and needs the company of a pretty sow! ;)
 
Well I am a mum of four and have been there with teenagers ::)
The way I would look at it is if that teen were responsible, kept her own room tidy and generally helped out as well as properly looking after any existing pets, I would say yes to 2 piggies providing I knew I had the money as a back up should vet treatment be needed.
This is maybe what your mum is thinking about? Also, she may be concerned that you would lose interest and she would be left to care for them.
You should talk to her calmly and if she says no, listen to her reasons and act maturely. She may say no for now but may change her mind down the line if you act nicely and be understanding :) There will always be rescue piggies needing a good home.
 
Mums tend to get a bit harrassed, especially when being begged for something ;D
Try to understand that she may use the excuse that they smell, but may be worried about the other things I mentioned. The money has to be there if they need vet treatment and if you decide to go off out with your friends and the piggies need cleaning, she may end up doing it! (Not saying you will, but think from her point of view)
My piggies are mine and I am responsible for everything to do with them and the cost can and does mount up! It is important to consider all these things before comitting to any pet :)
 
Cost is very important to understand up front for both you are your Mum

When they need to go to the vet there is no time to save up and it can sometimes be expensive, but not always. Thats the reality I'm afraid.
 
Piggie x with all due respect didn't you rehome your hermit crabs to your nan because you didn't have time to look after them, guineas are alot more work than hermit crabs could this be why your mum is so firm on the No

don't mean to offend just saying what i have seen and if i am wrong i am sorry
 
It's possible you could house George & a friend outside - although you would need a very good hutch (ie not one made of plywood), plus they would need blankets etc over the hutch. This solves the smell issue as they are not in the house.
However if George has been used to living in a warm area then it's best not to put him straight outside - he could get a URI.
Do you not have a shed/garage with no car in to house piggies?

If I were you and really wanted pigs, but weren't allowed them inside, I'd wait till summer before getting any. Then they can happily live outside until winter, when you would either need to put them in a shed or make their hutch very warm
 
Maybe she has enough on her plate at the mo ..so to speak
 
at the end of the day being a mother myself i should let this go your mum has her reasons i am sure, and try again after you have moved and are settled in your new house
 
i agree with all that has been said. your mother has her reasons and you should respect these reasons. perhaps if you showed her you have grown up, helped round the house more, did well at school, clean your pets you have now, your mother may change her mind. perhaps you could compromise and ask her if you could have george on a trial basis, and if mum is not happy say after a month you find george a new home. but i would have more respect for your mother, she loves you and she won't always be there for you. i lost my mother suddenly and i never got to say goodbye. so either show her you are mature enough by helping out around the house, cleaning your pets, trying hard at school or ask your mum for a trial period with george. either way i think it is time you respected your mother! she loves you and she is doing her best for you. :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
 
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My mum said that she don't want any animals outside.
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Which is really quite right in the case of guinea pigs. They (IMHO) should NOT live outside in the winter. As a warm blooded animal I can't imagine myself living outside in the winter, even with a thick jacket on and wouldn't expect my piggies to be comfortable either.

I really think you'll just have to live with it - she would be the one paying for everything (even if you used pocket money it's still her money!). If you're old enough you might be able to volunteer for a rescue. Hang on and you'll be able to get some when the time is right.
 
Speaking as a mum too, I wouldn't mention it again for a little while. Really try your best - I know it is what you want at the moment but there are so many lovely piggies needing homes and sadly always will be, you will be able to help more piggies in the future. The more you push the less likely it may be that you get your way.

She must have her reasons and may come round if you stop mentioning it to her.

Good Luck.
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Sadly it might be a case of waiting a few years. My last piggies died when I was in my early teens and my mum decided point blank that I couldn't have anymore. (I think she saw the state of me when I had to take them to the vets for the last time). I always wanted more but as it was my mum's house, I had to respect her wishes. Now, I can support my piggies financially and know that they will be with me for quite some time so they will go with me wherever I go, should I move etc. Perhaps your mum is worried about the possible financial burden more pets would bring? And also maybe about what would happen if you went to college etc.?
 
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