How to cope with loss

Oreo11132014

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Hello I am new to this but am having a lot of trouble recently coping with the loss of my guinea pig. He passed away on Friday and I miss him everyday. He wasn’t acting strange on Tuesday not eating much or drinking. I thought hmm maybe this is just a one day thing. Woke up the next day and saw he hadn’t eaten or drank any water at all. I called the vet and took him in that same day. The vet gave some food to feed through syringe, meds for his digestion and some pain meds. She didn’t really see anything wrong she said and his blood test came back normal. I tried to feed him food and give him some water but he didn’t really swallow anything down. Gave him his medication before going to bed and just told him how much I loved him and to please stay strong. I petted him the way he always loved how I did and said goodnight. Was hoping and praying the medication was going to work and I’d wake up to him acting like his silly self as usual lol. The next morning I ran to his cage hopeful yet terrified. I found him laying down with his back turned from the cage when I touched him he was cold and heavy and I knew. He passed away that morning. I miss him so much I feel like I could of done more to help him and make him comfortable and I just wish I was holding him until the time came so he wasn’t alone 😢. I’m sorry buddy and I love and miss you always RIP. :bye:
 

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I am so very sorry for your loss.
Being prey animals guinea pigs hide illness very well.
Sadly this means that we don’t always realise there is something wrong until it’s too late.
You acted promptly as soon as you realised your boy wasn’t well.
Grief is hard and takes time to work through. What you are feeling now is the rawness of fresh grief and is a natural part of the process.

There are some very helpful bereavement guides on the forum - sorry I don’t have the tech skills to link for you.

There is also a Rainbow Bridge thread where we can post tributes to piggies we have lost.

You will find lots of support here, we all understand how special piggies are and the pain of loss so you are welcome to talk out your grief here.
Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to grieve
 

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So sorry to hear of your loss. Please remember that you're not alone. There are many people on this piggy forum who can relate to what you're going through. You've come to the right place to share. It sounds like you loved your piggy very much. You did a great job getting your piggy to the vet. Unfortunately, sometimes no matter what we do it is just time for them to go to the Rainbow Bridge. May your little piggy popcorn free at the bridge.
 

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I am so sorry, you musn't blame yourself, you got him prompt vet care.
That you didn't get to cuddle him at end, he knew you loved him & made him happy.
It is hard but you will feel better in time.
Maybe when your heart has healed you may want to get 2 from a rescue.
That's way off yet.
You can post photos & talk about him as much as you like, it may make you feel better, but you must do what you can, to heal. ❤️❤️
 

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I am so sorry for your loss. I have gone through the grieving process each time I have lost a piggie. You will feel better in time. I am sending empathy thoughts your way. Think of him playing at the Bridge.
 

Oreo11132014

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Thank you everyone for the well wishes. I’m trying to give it time to heal but everyday I wake up hoping I just had a horrible nightmare. I try thinking that he’s in a better place now but still wish he was still here with me. I think of how I should have seen it coming and done something more! I miss him so much. :soz: Thanks again everyone I really appreciate it. Hopefully with time I will heal.
 

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So sorry for your loss, I lost my beautiful boy the same day after he was neutered on Wednesday so you can imagine the guilt given it was elective surgery and he was only 10 months old!
I thought all was going well but in hindsight feel there was lots of red flags I missed 😢
The guilt and sadness has been like nothing I’ve ever experienced! I feel really low at points and like you keep hoping it’s a horrible dream!
i held him for his last breath and whilst it was relatively peaceful it was very hard knowing I had done that to my heart pig 😢
I’d do anything to turn the clocks back!
I truly understand your pain at this time but you did all you could 💚
Hope your feeling better soon x
 

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So sorry for your loss, I lost my beautiful boy the same day after he was neutered on Wednesday so you can imagine the guilt given it was elective surgery and he was only 10 months old!
I thought all was going well but in hindsight feel there was lots of red flags I missed 😢
The guilt and sadness has been like nothing I’ve ever experienced! I feel really low at points and like you keep hoping it’s a horrible dream!
i held him for his last breath and whilst it was relatively peaceful it was very hard knowing I had done that to my heart pig 😢
I’d do anything to turn the clocks back!
I truly understand your pain at this time but you did all you could 💚
Hope your feeling better soon x
So sorry for your loss too.
Holding you in my heart
 

Oreo11132014

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So sorry for your loss, I lost my beautiful boy the same day after he was neutered on Wednesday so you can imagine the guilt given it was elective surgery and he was only 10 months old!
I thought all was going well but in hindsight feel there was lots of red flags I missed 😢
The guilt and sadness has been like nothing I’ve ever experienced! I feel really low at points and like you keep hoping it’s a horrible dream!
i held him for his last breath and whilst it was relatively peaceful it was very hard knowing I had done that to my heart pig 😢
I’d do anything to turn the clocks back!
I truly understand your pain at this time but you did all you could 💚
Hope your feeling better soon x

I’m sorry for your loss! We need to stay strong for our little ones. I hold you in my thoughts and hope you feel better soon as well! ❤️
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Pets are all unique and are all a part of the family... everyone here can empathize with the grief you feel after losing a piggie, or any other animal. Unfortunately with pigs they hide illness well and it can be hard to pinpoint a cause at times. It definitely sounds like you did everything you could, getting him to a vet and giving him meds. He was plainly loved. Please try not to be too hard on yourself, there's nothing you did wrong. ((HUGS)) to you.
 
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