I can't stop crying

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Sprout has been gone since October 31st last year, and I still can't stop crying. I have occasions when I just howl and cry my eyes out. I can't look at his photographs without reducing myself to tears. I have to take a deep breath before I visit his pot in the garden. What's wrong with me? Why can't I do something and just stop crying? :'(
 
Grief affects us in different ways. Don't beat yourself up for feeling low over an animal death. I lost my dog in 1999 and I can't talk about him without welling up. Some things, you never get over although they become easier to deal with.

Don't force yourself to look at photo's or go to his pot in the garden, do it in your time. Sending lots of (((hugs))) your way, Sprout sounded like a gorgeous boy who left a big impression.

Louise
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I think maybe you shouldnt stop yourself crying, maybe sometimes you just need to let it all out! :(

Grief comes in different ways, and sometimes you just need to let it happen before you can move on...

Hope you can find some peace soon.xx
 
i think they are right. its okay to grieve and you should allow yourself too. it takes time. [[huggs]] also too even though it hurts remember all those fun times. it might even make you crack a smile. i know this is prying, but maybe you could start writing down the memories on here and we could all reflect and aww and cry a little bit too. i grieve for a long time too but telling stories always makes me feel better and its always okay to cry during them. it always makes me feel better knowing that they are in a better place making other memories too.
 
awwwww honey don't beat yourself up :'(
I'm the same with dear little Sully 0:) and i reckon you'll find everyone else is like this at some stage as well :'( :'(
Time does heal, but it takes awhile, so let it happen naturally.... don't push yourself O0
(((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) and :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* to help a little more :smitten:
Try to remember the beautiful times you had together and it's ok to look at their piccies and start to cry, it shows just how much you love them :smitten:
 
My son's hamster died last January, :( he cried alot at first.
He missed Sirius so much.
When you have loved, it can't be all better after a few weeks/ months etc.
If you need to cry, let it out.
Connor now has photos of Sirius in his room, and a year on he still gets a tear in his eye,
but more often he talks with a smile on his face about the daft things Sirius did. :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
((((( HUGS )))))
Anne. :)
 
yoou are totally normal(what ever that is) i still well up thinking about Lavenderok 2 days ago but i'm a 42 yroldman!
{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}
Ron x
 
Huge hugs grief affects us in many ways there is nothing wrong with expressing the love you still feel for sprout.
 
he obviously meant a lot to you, thats all :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: (((((HUGS))))) :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
 
Your god daughter Pig-Pog and I send you load of love and hugs, as others have said do not push yourself, take the time you need until you can visit his pot, it will come one day but if you push yourself it may take longer x
 
Aww Kate, I am sending you the biggest hugs ever! You have my number if you ever need to speak.

I found it difficult recovering after losing Lindsey, he was a special boy and you how much I loved him. I even took the day off work because I could not face being around people, some who dont own animals may never understand but at least my boss was the forgiving type. I have a tuft of his hair in my bedside table draw and I was lucky enough to be with him when he passed over and extremely lucky that his girlfriend at the time was pregnant. I miss him terribly and I have two mini versions of him but they would never replace him. I have lots of photos on my pc and in my flat. I do think of him regular espcially when I look at Aurelio and L.J.

Emma x
 
Aww :'( Grieving is very normal when somebody loses somebody dear to them. It is healthy and it will help you move on eventually when you are ready for that. If you don't allow yourself to grieve the feelings will come back in the future. Let yourself grieve and I do hope that eventually you will be able to feel better. I recently lost a sibling and before that many family members, and it is very difficult. I hope that you will eventually start to feel better.



Ksiusha
 
LIke all that has been said time is a healer and we all deal with it different ways, I like the idea of writing down your memories in like a journal or diary sort of thing i think thats a nice keepsake

Take care x
 
Cant say anything different than what has already been said, grief affects us all differently. Hugs :smitten:
 
Youve been grieving for less than 3 months - its perfectly normal if you were close to Sprout.
When I lost my Billie I was inconsolable for the first 3 months - I didnt wear any make up and let my hair get greasy sometimes. I just didnt care at all.
My friends were worried but Id had Bil longer than Id known them so it was a bit weird.
It took me 6 months before I got Merlin - I just wasnt ready.

Grief for me goes in 3 stages.
The first 3 days are where you cry all the time and cant beleive the other is gone
The next 3 months you cry most days but only maybe once as you start to accept what has happened but are still desperately upset about it
Then the next 3 months the crying is less and less until it is hardly there at all as you begin to move on

You will see - once you get past that 3 month mark it will begin to get easier and soon you will be talking to the pot as you go about your daily life.
 
When I lost one of my rescue pigs, who had a lot of medical issues in her life, I cried and cried and cried for ages! I find that I cry more when animals die than when people do. I don't think an animal's death is more significant, I just feel that we are so responsible for them and we put our hearts and souls into giving them the best we can that all that effort we put in has to come out somewhere when they die. I guess, on a lesser scale of course, it's like having kids which is why it's so harsh that they only live 5 yrs on average :'(.

I know just what you are going through and I hope you're able to think of all the amazing times you had with your pig and how lucky he was to have an owner who cared as much about him as you do. ((((((HUGS))))))

Gina x
 
Oh, thank you all for your wonderful replies. I have read each and every one of them very carefully and I feel so much better to know so many of you understand me so well. I'm going to bookmark this thread and read them all again when I feel low about Sprout. You're all wonderful people and I thank you so much for sharing your difficult stories and your coping methods with me. Each and every one of you deserves a medal. I'm truly proud to know there are so many people like you guys around.
 
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