i miss him so much, I'm having trouble dealing :'(

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He was my very first pig to go. He was only 3 and died suddenly of a unknown illness. I feel terrible I'm his piggy mama and I'm suppose to make sure hes ok. Knowing he was sick when i thought he was healthy and fine hurts more then anything. I know that it was his time to go and that if he was meant to be saved he wouldnt have gone but its still so hard. I miss him, i wana hold him and kiss him again but i cant. I know he had a great life but i wish i had held him every free second i had. I have my 6 pigs and i feel like since i hold them more now then before he died i am cheating him. I just miss him and i feel overwhelmed with grief. I feel like i need to be with my other pigs 24/7 so i dont miss a moment of there lives.... I just wish i hadnt taken advantage of having my piggys here when patches was here. I love them so much but death never crossed my mind often. I loved him and held him all the time but I'm so upset i cant seem to remember all the special moments. No one understands the bond and the relationships i have with my pigs. I feel like crying every second of the day, i tell people I'm ok when I'm not. I feel like a piece is missing.... i want my heart to stop aching.... i just want my baby.... :(
 
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oh you poor thing, i know exactly how you feel, i am like this when i lose a piggy or a doggy, i can cope with human loss but furries....not a chance....so much heartache.

All i can say to you is it does ease as every day passes and you will remember the good times, but you will never forget your baby.

Dont give yourself a hard time please, you gave your baby a home and loved them, as you have all your others xxxxxx
 
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Iv cried more over my baby then when my family members die, I knew it was going to be hard... i would never wish this pain on anyone.They truly arent pets... their family.
 

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i know, and i completely agree, i think most on here would.

I lost two babies in the summer and i still miss them, but can actually talk about them (mostly) without crying now, but for months omg it was hard....

I lost my two within a space of a few weeks of each other, and having no pigs was truly awful, i had to rescue two more because i couldnt stand it. Maybe its a good job you have your others, I'm sure that will help.

Are the people around you into pigs at all?
 

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It does get easier, I lost Bette a month ago on the 25 November 2010. I whailed so much it was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with but I can tell you it does get better, for me it is getting better.

I remember my sweet Angel as she was, but it was hard getting to were I am now, but it does get easier. Your heart will heal after time but please remember he is always with you. Forever in your heart.

Huge Hugs, death is a guarantee but when faced with it our hearts break. x>>
 
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I am exactly the same! I cry more over the loss of my piggies and bunnies than any family members death.

I lost a pig back in August and still cry all the time. I was feeling really awful a few weeks ago and hadn't told anyone how I was feeling. I ended up just txting my mum just saying how much I missed him because the guilt I felt was taking over everything, due to the circumstances that left to his illness and death I really feel it was my fault :(

Feel free to spill on here, hope you start to feel better x
 

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I am exactly the same! I cry more over the loss of my piggies and bunnies than any family members death.

I lost a pig back in August and still cry all the time. I was feeling really awful a few weeks ago and hadn't told anyone how I was feeling. I ended up just txting my mum just saying how much I missed him because the guilt I felt was taking over everything, due to the circumstances that left to his illness and death I really feel it was my fault :(

Feel free to spill on here, hope you start to feel better x

totally get where you are coming from with that, the guilt thing, sometimes it just overwhelms you for a short time eh? x>>
 

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what we all need to remember is that we are great slaves and not to give ourselves a hard time, we do our best and love them and give them a safe warm home to live in.

Dont forget this peeps x
 
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Yes my whole family likes my pigs but they are all mine, I'm truely the only one who knows my pigs completey. I try to explain to my mom that i feel the same way she would if i had died. Everyone knows about my pigs and how i love them but no one really understands how much they are apart of me. I say i would take a bullit for my pigs because the pain of losing them would hurt more.
 

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We always feel so bad because we are responsible for them. You gave him a good life and the final decision was out of your hands,just pass all your loving onto another piggie,there are many more who need you!
 
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i know, and i completely agree, i think most on here would.

I lost two babies in the summer and i still miss them, but can actually talk about them (mostly) without crying now, but for months omg it was hard....

I lost my two within a space of a few weeks of each other, and having no pigs was truly awful, i had to rescue two more because i couldnt stand it. Maybe its a good job you have your others, I'm sure that will help.

Are the people around you into pigs at all?

I am exactly the same! I cry more over the loss of my piggies and bunnies than any family members death.

I lost a pig back in August and still cry all the time. I was feeling really awful a few weeks ago and hadn't told anyone how I was feeling. I ended up just txting my mum just saying how much I missed him because the guilt I felt was taking over everything, due to the circumstances that left to his illness and death I really feel it was my fault :(

Feel free to spill on here, hope you start to feel better x




I know what you mean all the way... I know i gave my best but my poor baby depended on me and i feel like i let him down. Its hard to go easy on yourself... its just plain hard...:{
 

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It is the depth of the bond that determines how much you grieve, not the species! Pets we can love unconditionally - and that means sadly that their deaths hit us so much harder!

I was grieving for over a year when my own first very special character Minx died. It was not easy because most people thought that my feelings were right over the top for a "mere" guinea pig and I did't have a forum to find consolation then.

Your pain will ease with time, but it is not a quick or straightforward process. Grief is the other side of your love; it is a price we have to pay for having had somepig in our life who has made it so much richer!

Perhaps it may help you to make a gesture in his name? I sponsor a couple of rescue pensioners in memory of one of my piggies as they remind me of her. I can't have her back, but I can pass on the love I have for her and keep it alive.

Because love is a living thing - you are not cheating your boy by cuddling your other pigges. Love needs to be kept alive, not enshrined in order to thrive! After all, you are not loving him any less now than you did before he died, do you? Or love your other piggies more now that he is gone?

Each piggy has its very own bond with you and you cannot ever NOT love someone/somepig for the sake of another. But your desire to hold him again is too great at the moment to make you realise that.

PS: I have yet to meet a loving, responsible pet owner who didn't suffer from feelings of guilt after one of their pets died - myself included! It's a perfectly normal reaction and all it shows is how much you care, not that you are a bad piggy mum!
 
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BIG HUG

It is the depth of the bond that determines how much you grieve, not the species! Pets we can love unconditionally - and that means sadly that their deaths hit us so much harder!

I was grieving for over a year when my own first very special character Minx died. It was not easy because most people thought that my feelings were right over the top for a "mere" guinea pig and I did't have a forum to find consolation then.

Your pain will ease with time, but it is not a quick or straightforward process. Grief is the other side of your love; it is a price we have to pay for having had somepig in our life who has made it so much richer!

Perhaps it may help you to make a gesture in his name? I sponsor a couple of rescue pensioners in memory of one of my piggies as they remind me of her. I can't have her back, but I can pass on the love I have for her and keep it alive.

Because love is a living thing - you are not cheating your boy by cuddling your other pigges. Love needs to be kept alive, not enshrined in order to thrive! After all, you are not loving him any less now than you did before he died, do you? Or love your other piggies more now that he is gone?

Each piggy has its very own bond with you and you cannot ever NOT love someone/somepig for the sake of another. But your desire to hold him again is too great at the moment to make you realise that.

PS: I have yet to meet a loving, responsible pet owner who didn't suffer from feelings of guilt after one of their pets died - myself included! It's a perfectly normal reaction and all it shows is how much you care, not that you are a bad piggy mum!

The love i have for my pigs has always been strong and unconditional. I talk about them more then i do about myself. I love him as if he were still in my arms sleeping or playing. Its just hard because looking at my other pigs i think of him and holding him, i try so hard to just focus of them... and that helps a lot. I see how his death affected his cage mates which were his brothers and it hurts me.
 
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so sorry for your loss:(

The only comfort you can take atm is that you gave him a great life and sadly it comes to us all:(

Alot of people think it's only a guinea pig, but each one has different personalitiesx) one of my sows lets me stroke her head and is so knowing it's sad when we know they have a short life span:(

Try to take comfort in your other piggies and try to focus on them to ease the pain:)
 
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