I Need Some Advice :(

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Apologise as I have only just seen your thread.

I am really sorry about the situation you are in. Coming from someone else who also sufferers from mental health problems, my heart goes to to you. I also agree with everyone else that your neighbour should be the one who should be moving in to a ground floor flat after all the trouble she is causing. It also sounds like she needs help :( I am stuck in the mental health system too and it really is a joke. I have a care coordinator who I am now only seeing every 4 to 6 weeks thanks to 'lack of funds'.

Anyway, sadly as much as I would love too, I wouldn't be able to foster your boys as my piggy room is tiny and as I have two girls (and a neutered boy), it would more than likely upset your boys even if I could fit them in. I am also not going to be around much for the next few weeks as we have various family visiting. I am also going on holiday for a week at the end of May. However, I am able to offer transport if you should need it. Our nearest rescues are the Potteries in Stoke on Trent and Milhaven in Yorkshire. I'm not sure whether Helen (The Potteries) or Jo (Milhaven) would be able to foster them for a short time. I have visited both rescues myself and also adopted guinea pigs from The Potteries and can warmly recommend them both.

Please let me know if I can help out with transport and / or anything else (piggy or none piggy related) as although I don't know where abouts you are living in Rochdale, I imagine you are only about a 15 - 20 minute drive away xx
 
How about finding a boarding establishment locally, they will often give a reduced rate for a longer term stay. I could have a word with my pet sitter,she charges very reasonable boarding rates. How long would you be wanting them looked after for?
 
pig in the city said:
How about finding a boarding establishment locally, they will often give a reduced rate for a longer term stay. I could have a word with my pet sitter,she charges very reasonable boarding rates. How long would you be wanting them looked after for?
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At the minute, I'm not sure. I can keep the going back and forth up until Thursday next week, and the review for the situation is on Tuesday. Until Tuesday though I'm not really certain of much, it all hinges on whether they can get something in place for the neighbour that will work, and if they can, how quickly it can happen. I hate to make assumptions here though, because it depends as much on my neighbour accepting any help as it does on services actually providing any.
 
Lorcan said:
At the minute, I'm not sure. I can keep the going back and forth up until Thursday next week, and the review for the situation is on Tuesday. Until Tuesday though I'm not really certain of much, it all hinges on whether they can get something in place for the neighbour that will work, and if they can, how quickly it can happen. I hate to make assumptions here though, because it depends as much on my neighbour accepting any help as it does on services actually providing any.
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Well l know Crissie has space if you can get them over here. Just let me know
 
pig in the city said:
Well l know Crissie has space if you can get them over here. Just let me know
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Thank you, seriously. I might know more by the weekend, but obviously they're not going to be giving me details about her care and treatment for confidentiality reasons. Only reason I know so much is because I've heard her screaming it through my ceiling D:
 
Lorcan said:
Thank you, seriously. I might know more by the weekend, but obviously they're not going to be giving me details about her care and treatment for confidentiality reasons. Only reason I know so much is because I've heard her screaming it through my ceiling D:
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Poor woman, but poor you too. An awful situation x
 
So, good news! They apparently trashed the cage overnight, lol. But they're much more like themselves today. Comet's got his nose buried in the hay (again) and Blitzen's running around doing nothing and squeaking to himself because he can. I have never been more happy with my two being twits.

Then of course I realised I had no fresh veggies available, so they got a treat. Banana! And I've written a memo to myself to go veggie shopping tomorrow. But oh, the normality feels amazing.
 
Tiamolly123 said:
Any chance you could take them with, perhaps if the powers to be knew how an happy it is making you ill.
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Man, I wish, and I've thought about sneaking them in here, believe me, but I couldn't bring the Midwest cages with me. The only other thing I have is a Ferplast 100 and I'm not putting them into that, that's an accident waiting to happen sadly.
 
Be great if this Crissie could take your piggies on, it will put your mind at rest & it will be even more at peace if they got that women out. Surely she can't refuse if she's disturbing everyone, God tell me she hasn't got kids.
Mind you it would be even better if they moved you to a nice place.
 
Tiamolly123 said:
Be great if this Crissie could take your piggies on, it will put your mind at rest & it will be even more at peace if they got that women out. Surely she can't refuse if she's disturbing everyone, God tell me she hasn't got kids.
Mind you it would be even better if they moved you to a nice place.
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I have no idea if she has kids or not, but she doesn't live with any. I really don't know her very well, though, so I don't know what her living situation is actually like. I do know that when this all happened in 2016, there were many yells of "I've spent too much money on this place to leave it now!" and I doubt her attitude has changed on that.

And it is notoriously difficult to force someone to leave a social housing address. I don't just mean in this case but in general. You need a mountain of paperwork to back your case, court orders, the works. It won't help that she's definitely not well, it would actually be slightly easier if she was just doing this because she felt like it. Illness helps her case, not mine, especially in a mental health supported housing project.
 
You poor thing living with mental illness is not pleasant. For the person who has it or the person living with the person who has it. My late Mum had quite serious mental health problems all her life and it is hard to live with. Most of the time she was stable then for the rest of the time she wasn't and it wasn't a nice place to be. What a bad situation to be in. Hopefully it'll be resolved soon. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
 
I think it's you that's got to move, it's daft putting you in there, because some neighbour in trying to make your life hell. I hope youve got a lot of people on your side. Can you request not to go in another flat.
Chin up something will break I hope.
 
Well, I've just got home and clearly they had a riot last night. Half the bedding is on the floor, nothing is where it was yesterday, and the two of them are dozing sleepily on top of each other. Clearly I missed out on all the fun :lol!: on the bright side it means they're still managing to enjoy themselves. The downside is, someone had to clean that mess up. Siiiiigh.

Re: moving - there's not a hope in hell of getting her to move. Apparently on Tuesday, when I went into respite, they'd originally asked my neighbour if she would go in instead. She said no, so they asked me (and obviously I said yes, because YAY SLEEP). But then the neighbour asked on Thursday and apparently again this morning if she could come in. Now I know she was told that the place was full on Friday (which is it), so why she rang up to ask again I do not know, but...it wouldn't be full if I left. The problem I have with basically swapping places with her, it's really not normal of her to ask to come in, and I'm not certain she wouldn't change her mind at the last minute leaving both of us in the same building. Yeah, no thanks. So at this point, nobody has any idea what's going on. And she definitely won't move flats, the only way to get her to move would be via eviction, even if it's to a different flat in the same building. Eviction is a long, timeconsuming process. I really don't have the patience to wait that long.
 
I feel awful for you, all your trying to do is try to live in a quiet flat with your piggys. If It was me l'd refuse to leave until they found you a quiet place to live.
 
I said on Friday and again today, I would far rather be at home, but I really need to be able to sleep as well. She was offered her chance and she said no, that's her problem not mine. I also know that few of the staff would argue with me there, they work with both of us and they know exactly what's been going on.

I think she's even complained about me making noise once or twice, unfortunately for her the neighbour below me never hears a thing. I've always said if I'm being overly noisy or whatever to let me know, but it's apparently never come to that. All I want is a quiet life lol.
 
So, I have an update!

I am home now for the foreseeable future. There is apparently a plan in place to deal with the noise from upstairs...I don't know what it is and tbh it's none of my business what it is, as long as it doesn't get overly loud again. A move is a longer term thing and I'm not going to know anything for another couple of weeks at least, most likely. But in the meantime thank you to everyone who offered to help, I know it wasn't needed in the end but you made things so much easier in the last couple of weeks, I could never thank you enough.
 
Also I'd like to share the best part of being home - Comet's doing figure 8s around both cages, and popcorning, which he very, very rarely does. I don't even care that he's making a huge racket doing it lol.
 
Lorcan said:
Okay so, I don't want to go into too much detail here and I hope you guys understand. I live in a building with other people who have mental health issues, and one of my neighbours has been really unwell recently. Unfortunately, where my flat is, it's right in the firing line for tantrums, screams, yelling...you get the idea.

I'm being moved to respite again for the foreseeable future, mostly so that my neighbour and I can't cause each other more problems. But it's Comet and Blitzen I'm worried about. I can get back daily to feed and water them and say hello, etc. Being here during the day is not the issue (the respite bed is mostly for night time so I can get some sleep :/ ) buuut the neighbour in question has been known, when she gets really unwell, to throw things at her floor. These things sound like cannonballs bouncing off my ceiling. Obviously they're not cannonballs and I don't know what they actually are but I'm worried about leaving the boys here overnight when that's a very real threat to them. And I'm stuck because I don't know what to do.

Giving them away is not an option, it's not the living situation that's the problem. It's just the neighbour. But I can't stay here overnight while she's like this...I had to sleep in my living room last night to get any semblence of rest. I want to make sure the boys are safe for the time I'm away as well but I have no idea how best to keep them out of harms way.

Sorry, I know that was a long rant. I just need options and I don't know any.
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You can move your piggies to a different room where it may be further from all of the noise?
 
Ava C said:
You can move your piggies to a different room where it may be further from all of the noise?
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I currently live in a one bedroom flat. There's only one other room that has the space for their cages, and it's as noisy as the room they're in.

I am definitely looking forward to moving, it can't come soon enough.
 
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