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I’m struggling to cope.

ChubbyCarrots

ChubbyCarrots

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Please help me, Buddy meant the world to me and I just can’t cope. It’s only been a day and I can barely leave his grave. I miss him too much, I can’t stop myself from crying, every second, every minute. I keep my pillow (the pillow he passed away on) next to me at all times. It just remind me of my baby. I don’t want to move on. I’m afraid I’ll forget him. Please help me.
 
ChubbyCarrots said:
Please help me, Buddy meant the world to me and I just can’t cope. It’s only been a day and I can barely leave his grave. I miss him too much, I can’t stop myself from crying, every second, every minute. I keep my pillow (the pillow he passed away on) next to me at all times. It just remind me of my baby. I don’t want to move on. I’m afraid I’ll forget him. Please help me.
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Buy another guinea-pig. 😊
 
ChubbyCarrots said:
Mr Nugget. Although he’s cute he just can’t replace Buddy.
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He’s never going to replace him. One day we’ll love him and give him everything just like we did to Buddy however, we’ll never have the same relationship we had with him. It will take a while for us to cope but one day we’ll accept what’s happened and move forward. Moving on would mean forgetting and leaving everything behind. Moving forward would mean continuing to love Buddy and miss him but also living our lives knowing he’s in a better place <3
 
Theodor51 said:
I'd get a shoe box for a coffin and line it with a cutting from his best duvet. And some food. His best wee toys too. Bury him in the garden. 🌹💐
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Thank you. We got a shoe box, I gave him my favourite blanket I’ve ever knitted him and lined the coffin with it. I let him rest on top of it and put two thin blankets on top of him, not covering his sweet face, I put all of his favourite food and toys next to him and we had a lovely burial. We put a few flowers on top of his grave and made a cross out of his chew toys and planted it there, now there’s a lemon tree growing next to we’re he lays. Now hopefully he can rest in peace. 🖤🌟😭
 
ChubbyCarrots said:
Thank you. We got a shoe box, I gave him my favourite blanket I’ve ever knitted him and lined the coffin with it. I let him rest on top of it and put two thin blankets on top of him, not covering his sweet face, I put all of his favourite food and toys next to him and we had a lovely burial. We put a few flowers on top of his grave and made a cross out of his chew toys and planted it there, now there’s a lemon tree growing next to we’re he lays. Now hopefully he can rest in peace. 🖤🌟😭
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I m crying now. That is a lovely story 😭😭😭💐💐💐to top it up now. I'd put a wee Xmas tree on top of the grave with wee lights. 🌲👍
 
ChubbyCarrots said:
Please help me, Buddy meant the world to me and I just can’t cope. It’s only been a day and I can barely leave his grave. I miss him too much, I can’t stop myself from crying, every second, every minute. I keep my pillow (the pillow he passed away on) next to me at all times. It just remind me of my baby. I don’t want to move on. I’m afraid I’ll forget him. Please help me.
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Please give yourself time and contact the free Blue Cross pet bereavement line tomorrow.
 
Like you say it has only been one day. You have lost an important member of your family and grief is never over quickly. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve and accept that it is perfectly ok to cry. Plan something special in his memory. You will never forget him, it's been years since I lost my first piggy but we had a special bond and I still think of her regularly and smile.

Here is the link to the blue cross as mentioned by Wiebke Pet Bereavement and Pet Loss
 
I just lost one of my rabbits a few weeks ago. He died from and infection in his leg and was only a few months old. I had lost animals before, but he was the hardest as he was so young. Think of the happy memories you've had with him and think of how you gave him a good life and how he was happy. Visit his grave everyday and maybe put some flowers on it. There are many things that can help but give it some time.
 
As others have said, give yourself the time to grieve and mourn your lost furry. We will never forget how hard it was losing Neville (our little brown piggy). He was so young and used to love sitting in my wife's arms and just watch TV.

Time does heal. You may find that right now things are unbearable but they do get better.
 
Time is a very great healer. try to remember Buddy at his best and not as he was at the end.
 
It's only been a day, give yourself the time to grieve. Losing a pet is always hard... they are part of our family. You won't forget him. One thing I do when a piggy passes is to put their picture up somewhere... the last two pigs I lost have photos right on top of my desk. It's nice to look up and see them there and remember. Gentle ((HUGS)) to you.
 
It’s completely natural, and it’s agony. I still remember losing my first Guinea as an adult. I had to travel to a meeting which meant a four hour drive and I think I pretty much cried all the way there and all the back. I remember the pain in my stomach and chest was simply unbearable.

It hurts like hell but with time you will learn to deal with it and cope. Ringing the Blue Cross helpline will provide you with some useful advice on how to deal with it but really it’s just time. The internet is great at helping you to understand the grieving process as well, and recognise that it is normal but different for everyone.

Personally, I like to think that one day I’ll be with them all, and imagine a big green pasture with them all cavorting around happily. It always makes me smile. I can’t bear to see any photos of them for ages after though ☹️

Hugs to to you and look after yourself. x
 
We imagine Neville popcorning around eating as much celery as he wants with all the other little pigs. It's a nice thought.
 
I know how you feel, I lost my piggy George last Tuesday. It hurts so much, but it will get better. I have a memory box for my lost piggies full of photo's, a snip of their hair and a cast of their paw print. I also like to write down any memories of times we shared no matter how small, so I never forget all the little details.
Sending you hugs.xx
 
I can only repeat what others have said.
Grief takes time.
No pet is a replacement - they are successors and Mr Nugget is a lovely piggy who will create his very own space in your heart.
Be gentle with yourself.
 
Hello. How are you coping.
No one other than those and most on here know what it's like to lose a loved piggie. . . we collect closeness that's hard to understand.
Keep Strong and remember Buddy.
 
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