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It Is Ok To Cry

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Every time l lose a pig l am made to feel like l sholdent geive or cry for a pig that
Has died,
It makes me so angary ! People cry for larger animals ! They erect monuments for them ! There is even an animal cenetary

So why do freind and fanily always make me feel so bad when l greave fo a guinea pig.
 
It is absolutely ok to cry! They are part of your family and no-one has the right to make you feel bad for grieving for them.

Everyone deals with things in their own way but it is always ok to cry if you need to. Bottling things like that up is not helpful. Some people can be very insensitive and rude when you are feeling bad but just ignore them, they haven't had the experiences you had or loved that animal the way you did. Greif is a very personal thing.

The great thing about being on here is that everyone understands, we've all been there before and know how much you must be hurting.... There are plenty of people who care so don't waste time on the people who don't care enough about you to try and sympathise. x
 
Dave, of course it is okay to cry.

It is not a species thing. It is the strength of a bond of a love you feel, it could be for a Dog, cat, pig or goldfish. Love is love.

Unfortunately lots of people don't 'get' pets they in my opinion are missing out on lots. What annoys me more is people who are dog and cat lovers that then scoff at people who have other pets...

Have a man hug buddy x
 
I fell a sense of greff for all living things that are suffering,
There is so much guns and violence in the world

It particulary saddens my when l see things like an advert for a tv serise caled Vicked Tuna,
Why do people feel the need to cerebrat the pain sufferd by
Other animals,

Sadly my mother seems to get some strange sort plesure ot of putting salt on snails, and
Telling me about it.

Ok the are snails but they are caperbal of suffering, and l am sure she knows how much it upsets me

It seems sadly to be a human trate as it seems to be widespred
 
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gizzy said:
I fell a sense of greff for all living things that are suffering,
There is so much guns and violence in the world

It particulary saddens my when l see things like an advert for a tv serise caled Vicked Tuna,
Why do people feel the need to cerebrat the pain sufferd by
Other animals,

Sadly my mother seems to get some strange sort plesure ot of putting salt on snails, and
Telling me about it.

Ok the are snails but they are caperbal of suffering, and l am sure she knows how much it upsets me

It seems sadly to be a human trate as it seems to be widespred
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This made me smile. Your a lovely person. X
 
As has been said before. Grief &bereavement is very Personal. It affects different people In different ways. It doesn't matter the size or type of animal that you lose its still a loss, something you have tended to,cared for, it gives you pleasure to see it happy &healthy.

This is a lovely quality that u and others have on here. I have many times come away from the vets after having animals pts &been crying before I get out the door, they even guide me through the back way sometimes so that I dont see other owners.

I cried even when I have lost fish. One was my Oscar (velvet cichlid) who I had for 7yrs &he was an adult when I had him. He wasn't cuddly but had a real character- he had a tumour.
The other was my outside goldfish I'd had him 26yrs he was looking ancient for years but was still healthy &just died because of old age.
People do scoff-its only a fish, but that fish was a constant in my life &would come up for tickles, he outlived my previous dog,both cats &many guineas (&his fishy wife by about 6yrs).

If it makes u feel any better I apologize to snails if I accidentally step on them.
I dont use salt or pellets to kill them
as I dont like them to suffer either. Although at least your mum isn't using poisons &pellets that would harm other animals that eat them making them suffer too.

Dont be ashamed to cry &grieve, its a coping mechanism-so if you feel you need to, you cry-it doesn't matter the size, type or age etc of the animal its the bond/companionship. Just know that you
Are a better, stronger person for caring, than those that dont!

Sorry got a bit carried away there!
If it makes u feel better fill your boots- sod everybody else!
x
 
As has been said before. Grief &bereavement is very Personal. It affects different people In different ways. It doesn't matter the size or type of animal that you lose its still a loss, something you have tended to,cared for, it gives you pleasure to see it happy &healthy.

This is a lovely quality that u and others have on here. I have many times come away from the vets after having animals pts &been crying before I get out the door, they even guide me through the back way sometimes so that I dont see other owners.
The vets would be surprised to hear that I hardly ever cry (its usually only where animals are concerned I turn into a sniveling wreck)

I cried even when I have lost fish. One was my Oscar (velvet cichlid) who I had for 7yrs &he was an adult when I had him. He wasn't cuddly but had a real character- he had a tumour.
The other was my outside goldfish I'd had him 26yrs he was looking ancient for years but was still healthy &just died because of old age.
People do scoff-its only a fish, but that fish was a constant in my life &would come up for tickles, he outlived my previous dog,both cats hamster &many guineas (&his fishy wife by about 6yrs) I was devastated.

If it makes u feel any better I apologize to snails if I accidentally step on them.
I dont use salt or pellets to kill them
as I dont like them to suffer either. Although at least your mum isn't using poisons &pellets that would harm other animals that eat them making them suffer too.

Dont be ashamed to cry &grieve, its a coping mechanism-so if you feel you need to, you cry-it doesn't matter the size, type or age etc of the animal its the bond/companionship. Just know that you
Are a better, stronger person for caring, than those that dont!

Sorry got a bit carried away there!
If it makes u feel better fill your boots- sod everybody else!
x

Oops double post didnt think my mobile had done it :/
 
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It's OK to cry Dave - I'm always thankful that the crematorium we use when we lose a much loved soul understands our feelings although I must admit to trying to maintain that British stiff upper lip.

I'm the one who gets weird looks for paying for the pigs entry into piggy themed events on the basis that they are sentient beings. I do feel guilty when I dig up worms and pick one up to feed it to Molly who doesn't see brilliantly well at the grand old chook age of 60 (6 human years) but then she also eats the snails I accidentally step on.

If we didn't grieve we wouldn't be able to learn and become better people overall for it. Animals grieve, we've lost both pigs and chooks when the one left behind just gives up and I always try to follow the good example that they set to not be selfish.
 
I cry over my pets and not family members! I've had a lot of stick for this! My family are just the same and don't get it! It annoys me because animals are no different to humans, except the poor things suffer in silence whereas we have the oppertunity to speak up..
That's another reason I really love this forum so much, we all adore our pets no matter how small, and we all understand they need to see vets just as much as a dog for example does, and has the understanding and kindness for when we lose our beloved piggies.
You cry away and don't you worry about what anyone else thinks! We are all always here for you :-)
 
I've cried almost every day since I lost my once in a lifetime piggy, Daisy at the end of August :( I made myself so ill after I couldn't go to work the next day. There's nothing wrong in crying, they are as much part of our hearts & family as any other animal, whatever their size x
 
Thanks guys,
I am still feeling tearfull about my poor Hoover Pig , so l just went down stairs to give Marge, (one of my sows) a snuggle
And she looked up at me with those big soulfull eyes as if to say "whats all this about then" :whistle:
 
Yes, it's absolutely ok to cry over the loss of a loved piggy. In this house my husband and I both cry regularly over the loss of one of our piggies who held a very special place in our hearts. We think it's natural and healthy to let it out.
 
Nothing wrong in grieving for a much loved pet, they become part of our lives and leave a big hole when they go. I had a cat for 20 years, medication kept her going for the last 2 years so the vet got to know her well. When she was PTS me, my husband, the vet and the nurse were all crying. I have cried over goldfish, hamsters, dogs, cats, guinea pigs and not just mine other peoples as well. In fact Rainbow Bridge Posts and poorly piggies on here make me well up too.
You are a caring man it shows in your posts, your friends and family are very insensitive it's a shame they feel they have to express an opinion.
 
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