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Lilly went over the rainbow bridge 28/12/20

danielle.woodcock

danielle.woodcock

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My gorgeous lilly went over the rainbow bridge on Monday at just 18 monthd old I had to put her to sleep which was heart breaking in the last 12 months shes had a growth removed from her ear had 5 ear infections and lost so much weight the last infection proved to be fatel and I had to do the kindest thing to end her suffering I only wish I felt it was the kindest thing becos I have felt terrible for 3 days now and I miss her so much she was so loved r.i.p my girl x
 

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I’m so sorry you had to let Lilly go, I know how awful it feels, my Ted had to be PTS too just before Christmas. You made that decision out of love for her, it was the kindest decision you could have made. Lilly will have known just how much she was loved, sending hugs x
Sleep tight Lilly over the bridge 🌈
 
Thank you for your kind words brought me to tears 😢 I still feel so about the whole thing and keep visioning her in my head not being able to move or walk in her last hours it was so sad, I am so sorry u have also had to go through this especially just before Xmas, I feel so stupid that I feel this way and nobody seems understand to other ppl she was "just a guinea pig" but not to me i loved her so much 💔
 
I am so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs to you at this sad time. You made the right decision for her because you love her. I am so sorry, please be kind to yourself x

sleep well little one

RIP Lilly
x x
 
Thank you I have been searching for somewer to help me along with this process of grieving this is my 1st piggie loss and I was not expecting it so young, and nobody seems to understand how or why am feeling this way but it seems iv now found the right place 🥰
 
So so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs to you all. I recently lost my boy at only 12 months old. You did everything for your girl and surrounded her with love; and she knows that 🌈🌈💕
 
danielle.woodcock said:
Thank you so much I'm So sorry to hear that wat was wrong with him xx
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He had a range of issues, from abscesses, feet issues, bladder issues, dental issues and ultimately respiratory issues. When I rescued him, we think he was the result of careless inbreeding.
I nursed him through it all and we got an excellent few months of him being 100% healthy, gaining weight, pop Corning around and loving life. I’m very thankful for those few months 💕
 
I’m so sorry for your loss. I think you need to know that it will take time to...come to terms with your girl’s passing. What you did fit her is the ultimate sacrifice and selfless act of love because it was for her benefit and not yours. You have to be proud of the fact that you could do that.

Hopefully in time the pain will ease and the ifs and buts will be replaced with happy memories. When you feel up to it you could also write (more) about the beautiful Lilly. Like a tribute or ‘eulogy’. I hope you turn the curved soon but know it’s still very early days.
 
Thank u I just didn't realise I wud feel this way about such a small animal I still have 3 other piggies n I no it sounds daft but it just doesn't feel the same I feel guilty wen I cuddle them knowing that I put lilly to sleep and I end up just putting them down and feeling bad about it agen and thinking cud I of done more 😏
 
danielle.woodcock said:
Thank u I just didn't realise I wud feel this way about such a small animal I still have 3 other piggies n I no it sounds daft but it just doesn't feel the same I feel guilty wen I cuddle them knowing that I put lilly to sleep and I end up just putting them down and feeling bad about it agen and thinking cud I of done more 😏
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All of us here understand.
My Odin was the love of my life, I wasn’t sure how to carry on without him. But everyone on here is amazing. We are here for you
 
I think people underestimate how it feels to lose a piggy. Simply because they’re seen as disposable and easily replaced. However, they all have their own individual characters and, like other larger pets, will also be missed when they leave us.

I’ve (luckily) yet to experience a loss as I’m still in infancy of being owned (boys are 3 years old), but I think it’s normal to question whether you did the right thing. Look at it this way - would it have been better for you to keep trying at the expense of her comfort?

It won’t feel the same because she’s gone. But do take comfort in all you did for her - including giving her a fabulous life in the short time she was with you.
 
Thank you i really appreciate it, I was on a night shift the day I had to put her to sleep so I was still feeling upset wen I was at work and I spoke to some of my colleagues about her n about how much all the vet bills had cost me in last 12 months and I got replies like oh your daft spending that amount of money ther only £25 to buy 😭 ppl are cruel
 
Hopefully this forum and its members will slowly start changing peoples mindsets on this thing of seeing them as replaceable! I don’t think people would like it if you said something similar about their dog or cat. Anyway, wishing you a healing heart.
 
Yes exactly she had such a great personality was so loving more than the other 3 I have they can get quite wild but lilly loved a cuddle and she wud never run off wen I opened the cage she waited to be picked up wer as my other 3 like a stroke but run wen u try and pick them up she was so special to me x
 
danielle.woodcock said:
Thank you i really appreciate it, I was on a night shift the day I had to put her to sleep so I was still feeling upset wen I was at work and I spoke to some of my colleagues about her n about how much all the vet bills had cost me in last 12 months and I got replies like oh your daft spending that amount of money ther only £25 to buy 😭 ppl are cruel
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That’s awful. I think I spent around £7000 in total for my boy at the vets (in only a few months). And I regularly traveled 6 hours to see the best vets around. And I would 1000000% do it all again! For any of my boys 💕
 
danielle.woodcock said:
My gorgeous lilly went over the rainbow bridge on Monday at just 18 monthd old I had to put her to sleep which was heart breaking in the last 12 months shes had a growth removed from her ear had 5 ear infections and lost so much weight the last infection proved to be fatel and I had to do the kindest thing to end her suffering I only wish I felt it was the kindest thing becos I have felt terrible for 3 days now and I miss her so much she was so loved r.i.p my girl x
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BIG HUGS

It is so tough when such a wonderful being has drawn such a short straw. Please always remember that you have given Lilly what she wanted most: love, care and as much happiness as you could give her. Guinea pigs don't measure their life in whether they live to old age or not; they measure their life in happy todays and all the comforts, excitement and security the day brings.

You have made that crucial difference for Lilly and have been there to ease her struggles as much as you could and spare her an agonising end. While Lilly has not had a long life with you, you have had a much closer bond due to her health problems and have packed so much into that space of time you have shared.

Please be kind to yourself; you have been the best piggy mother Lilly could have wished for. Take your time to grieve but don't blame yourself for what is out of your control. We can never choose when and what from a piggy of ours dies; all we can do is take a leaf out of our piggies' book and make each day we have them on loan from above a good one. you have clearly done that.

you may find the information via this link very helpful in dealing with the emotional aftermath: Death, Dying, Terminal Illness, Grieving and Bereaved Companions: Information and Support for Owners and Their Children
 
I am so sorry that you had to help your little on on her way to the Rainbow Bridge. It’s the hardest thing to do, but the ultimate act of love for our piggies. You clearly loved and cherished her and gave her many happy days. Sleep tight little one x
 
Wow thank you I am so overwhelmed with all the kindness I have been shown here and its really helping me knowing that other ppl feel the same way as I do, and thanks for the advice link I will have a read of that now 😊
 
I promise that in time your lovely memories of her will take over from the thoughts you have of those last few difficult days. Everyone on here understands what you are feeling and knows that she was not 'just a guinea pig'.Be kind to yourself, she would thank you for what you did for her, throughout her life and at the end 💜
 
Thank you for your kind words I'm hoping soon I start to feel better about the whole situation cos its just not a nice way to feel is it 🥲 x
 
danielle.woodcock said:
Thank you for your kind words I'm hoping soon I start to feel better about the whole situation cos its just not a nice way to feel is it 🥲 x
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There is unfortunately no way to cut short the grieving process. We all have to grieve as much as we have loved - they are the two sides of the same coin. It doesn't matter which species; it is the bond that has tied us together. It is not nice but see it as an affirmation of just how much you and Lilly have meant to each other and how much love you have shared. You wouldn't suffer as much if you hadn't loved deeply and hadn't formed a commitment that went both ways. :(

It will get better, I promise you - but in its own time; you are still very much in the early stages. Please keep in mind that without love and the ability to commit deeply our lives would be so much poorer and that experiencing the depths of grieving is helping to make us more understanding of others experiencing pain and loss and is making us emotionally more mature in the longer term. While it is horrible while you are going through it, it is ultimately balanced out.

If you struggle to cope or process your grief, please contact the free Blue Cross pet bereavement service in the UK, which runs during normal daytime hours on work days. You can find the link in our grieving guide in the resources chapter. All forum members that have made use of it and have reported back have said that it has helped them.
 
i am so sorry for your loss, but you did the right thing for your piggy. I have just lost my baby girl a few days ago and i am absolutely lost, but i’m sure she knew she was loved
 
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