Making a New Start

HI! This ^ is Jilly. She is such a sweetie and My little princess. Jilly is 1 and a half and turning 2 on December 2nd. She is relatively small for her age but not small enough to need any sort of medical attention. Just two days ago her big sis (they had the same breeder. Not the same parents) passed away. We are both grieving in our own ways but together we are recovering (If you want to know more about losing Big Sis go to https://www.theguineapigforum.co.uk/threads/my-guinea-pig-is-having-a-leg-problem.158384/ ) This is the start of Jilly an I's new story.
 
If you read briefly through my other thread you would know that was interested in finding a companion for Jilly.
My brother is living with me and technically Cali was his pig. He bought her (She was 2ish when we bought her. She was once owned before but the owners couldn't keep her so they gave her back to the breeder) but never played with her and I could see she was getting sad. So most of the company Cali got was me. We really bonded. I took my brother to the breeder and found Jilly. I adopted her.
Today my brother briefly mentioned two sweet piggies at the pet store. I thought it was decided that we weren't going to get pigs right after Cali, but today there were two new guineas in Jilly's cage. Vanilla Bean (Nellie) and Coco Bean (Keeca). They are a bonded pair, both only 9 months. Seeing the babies made me fall apart. Something about them feels so right. Yet, my brother doesn't want me to bond with them the way I did with Cali. I want to respect my brother's wishes but I'm worried that he is going to ignore them like he did with Cali. I wouldn't mind looking after them I just think my brother is getting in the way of Jilly and I actually getting to know Nellie and Keeca.
 
Tell him you adore pets & cant avoid getting close to them. You would have thought he'd be pleased with you helping him. Welcome to our friendly forum.
 
You can’t stop someone falling in love and that is what we do with our piggies.
They have a way of nestling in our hearts.
Jilly is so cute and she will benefit from piggy companionship as her grief for Cali eases.
 
My question would be, who's paying, and who's doing the work? When my younger daughter H became mad keen on guinea pigs it was logical to get the girls one each, but I knew my older daughter E, though a pet-lover, had waaaaaaaay more homework PLUS a hectic social life. So I had a chat with E about whether she wanted to take on the responsibility of a pet at this point and it ended up with the 2nd pig being officially mine, and so I share the work of feeding and cleaning with H.

But even then, pigs decide which humans they love and H's pig loves a long cuddle with me while H is at school (which we keep quiet about) and "my" pig shows a clear preference for the rare cuddles she gets with E!
 
I've always paid for Jilly and would often pay for Cali when my brother forgot. He says Nellie and Keeca are going to be all his and he will pay for them and he doesn't really want me messing with them. But I think he sees them as more of an object than a living creature.
 
I'll put up a picture of them later today. They really are adorable.

This is pretty random but I think I was the super genius with possible names before Nelli and Keeca became their names. (I didn't get to name them so my amazing names have gone to waste. But feel free to use them if you are looking for name inspiration!) But anyway, Nellie is blond with large white patches and the name I wanted for her: LIGHTNING McBEAN. All the Disney/Pixar people would get that reference. Keeca is brown with little black whisps and should have been named: BUCKY BEAN aka THE WHISKER SOLDIER (and the Marvel people would get that). Okay, now that I write it down and read over this post I realize that these aren't actually that creative.
 
I talked to my brother and it didn't go well. I usually don't fall into tears when I argue but this was too close to Cali for me.
It was all happy with me, him, Jilly and Cali, but now that Cali's gone, he is abandoning Jillly and I and getting a new family.
He didn't know Cali. He doesn't deserve to say that she was his and he wants to move on.
I consulted my mom and she said I had full rights to rehome Nellie and Keeca or kick him out.
I don't want to get rid of them because they are in good hands here but I don't trust my brother enough to send him off with these two and expect him to properly care for them. If I got rid of him or the pigs, I would be no better than him abandoning Jilly and me.

What do I do?
IMG_20180510_173233.webpThe light one in Nellie and the dark one is Keeca
 
My suggestion would be to leave it for a while and calm down. Arguing won't help the situation or help your piggies. They can sense tension in the air. See how you both feel after a few weeks.
 
Nellie and Keeca just came from a pet store.

My brother and I are settling down a little more. I'm still upset but willing to compromise. They will be his pigs and he has to pay for them and care or else they become mine. I'm still allowed to play with them he just wants me to ask him before I do. So I still have restraints but nothing I can't manage.

Thank you for all the support through this!
I'll keep you updated on the piggies!
 
@LIFEwithJILLY please can I check are you the same member who has the account @Cali my Pig. It is against forum rules to have 2 accounts. You can choose simply to ask admin to change your account name. You will need to select one account so that the other can be deleted.
 
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