COVID-19 Missing my mum And dad 😞

Claire W

Claire W

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My mum and dad have both been self isolating since Wednesday and I am missing them like crazy :( it’s only been a few days but I’m used to seeing them daily.

I’m missing my mum especially with today being Mother’s Day.

Are anyone else’s parents self isolating and you missing them?
 
My Dad is and I miss him. Also my eldest daughter is 26 weeks pregnant and self isolating, which is sad for both of us.
My youngest daughter is a nurse on the front line, so to speak and this weekend is moving in with another nurse friend, so neither bring it home to their family.
So I will be missing all of them and feel quiet stressed.
I just hope everyone is safe and we pull together.xx
 
Sadly my mum and dad both passed away a couple of years ago. I am not seeing my three grown up children or my grandchildren today or until all this is all over as I work as a Housekeeper in a residential home and most of the people there are very high risk, so its just home and work for me.
Stay safe and look forward to spending time with your parents when this is all over.
Sending hugs x
 
Claire W said:
My mum and dad have both been self isolating since Wednesday and I am missing them like crazy :( it’s only been a few days but I’m used to seeing them daily.

I’m missing my mum especially with today being Mother’s Day.

Are anyone else’s parents self isolating and you missing them?
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Yes - mine are keeping their distance but still able to do gardening & go on short walks away from anyone. At least the weather has improved ☀️.

We are setting up an app called Houseparty later to do video calls with the grandchildren. My parents are hilarious on technology so we shall see how easy that will be! They will probably be upside down 😂. Could you try something like Houseparty or facetime? X
 
So sorry for everyone missing mother's day with their family, we made the decision to go ahead with a small mother's day gathering at my daughter's house this afternoon as my Mum had some bad health news this week (metastatic cancer in her spine) and may not be with us once all this calms down in a few weeks... its sad as today may well be the last time she sees her grandkids and great grandkids but we are doing it in style, making happy memories!
 
PigglePuggle said:
So sorry for everyone missing mother's day with their family, we made the decision to go ahead with a small mother's day gathering at my daughter's house this afternoon as my Mum had some bad health news this week (metastatic cancer in her spine) and may not be with us once all this calms down in a few weeks... its sad as today may well be the last time she sees her grandkids and great grandkids but we are doing it in style, making happy memories!
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Sorry about your Mum's news - I 'thumbs-upped' as you are able to make the most of today and make memories.
 
I am sorry that so many of you are having to go through this.
We all hope that the crisis will come to a happy ending and afterwards we can all hug again our loved ones.

My mom is 2000 km away from me and is trying to go out only for the absolute necessary stuff. She is part of the risk group (old, frail and quite ill).
We are a tiny bit chatting every day and sometimes even skype-ing...but of course, it's not the same and i am worrying a lot
 
As I live 200 miles away from my Mum it’s actually not so unusual for me to spend Mother’s Day apart from her, but this year it seems so much harder, as I have no idea when I will next see her due to the virus. I did see her last week and gave her an early card and present and we spoke on the phone again today.
@PigglePuggle I am so sorry to hear your Mum’s news. I hope you are all making the most of the day.
@Claire W it won’t be for ever, although I know how hard it is. When this virus passes we will all appreciate what we have even more than we do already.
 
I had planned to visit my mum and dad over this weekend (240mile round trip) but cancelled as they’ve gone into isolation. Plus I would never be able to live with myself if I’d passed anything on to them! My sister is also in isolation as she has a cough and works in a drs surgery! It’s not the virus, just a nasty cough so hopefully she will be back at work next week after 7 days isolation. We do live in interesting times!
 
I am over 600 miles away from my own frail/elderly mother in Switzerland who only has a phone and doesn't use social media etc.
She currently feels rather lonely and cooped up in her house as she is a very active person; now that the virus epidemy is taking full hold in her area.
We do phone more frequently. She tries to be very matter of fact about it and we can talk openly, which is a boon. But it is still emotionally hard for me as she ends every call telling me how much she loves me 'in case we never speak again'.

My brother-in-law is in a high risk group (just touching 70 years with asthma) and currently self-isolating; his daughter (my niece) is a medical student who is working 14 hour shifts in a Swiss hospital taking blood from all new arrivals to test for Covid-19 and at high risk because of that. Many of my and hub's friends are older and they or their partners (or both) have health issues that can contribute. It is a very worrying time.

Having gone through a form of it when my dad was fighting terminal cancer for several years in another country in the days before cheap airlines and social media and when it took sometimes two weeks before my mother was able to speak with me where he couldn't listen in between bouts of him not being well/close to dying, the physical separation is hardest at the beginning before you have established a routine. You still carry your loved ones in your heart at all times.

But we have thankfully generally more options to stay in contact than in years or in wartimes gone by. Keep confirming your love and talk openly about your fears and concerns; that does help. Sending each other plenty of little messages of love and 'thinking of you' etc. does also help. Share laughs, chuckles and smiles.
 
My mum (and entire family) are all in the Philippines. I got used to being so far away from them for 9 yrs now. My family are also separated in different parts of Manila, Cavite and Laguna. We just did a video chat this morning coz my nan kept on calling each of us one by one, so we decided to just have a group video chat. I couldn't live so far away from them without the help of Facebook. I know plenty of people hate it but not me. It's my way of connecting with my family everyday. I still miss them a lot of course, but it lessens with the help of technology.

Photo below: my younger sister, my mum, my nan, and one of my nephews.

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PigglePuggle said:
So sorry for everyone missing mother's day with their family, we made the decision to go ahead with a small mother's day gathering at my daughter's house this afternoon as my Mum had some bad health news this week (metastatic cancer in her spine) and may not be with us once all this calms down in a few weeks... its sad as today may well be the last time she sees her grandkids and great grandkids but we are doing it in style, making happy memories!
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So sorry about your mum’s news.
Good for you going ahead and making good memories.
Call me if you want to chat
 
I moved my Dad to a care home near me as he was living in the Highlands and having more regular urgent hospital visits and I wanted to be there for him in his final stage of life. His care home went into lockdown a week ago and I felt I may be saying goodbye to him forever. I had a big cry and then feel a bit more accepting. He feels happy with his life and the care home staff are lovely.
 
PigglePuggle said:
So sorry for everyone missing mother's day with their family, we made the decision to go ahead with a small mother's day gathering at my daughter's house this afternoon as my Mum had some bad health news this week (metastatic cancer in her spine) and may not be with us once all this calms down in a few weeks... its sad as today may well be the last time she sees her grandkids and great grandkids but we are doing it in style, making happy memories!
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. Massive hugs to you xx
 
Black piggies said:
I moved my Dad to a care home near me as he was living in the Highlands and having more regular urgent hospital visits and I wanted to be there for him in his final stage of life. His care home went into lockdown a week ago and I felt I may be saying goodbye to him forever. I had a big cry and then feel a bit more accepting. He feels happy with his life and the care home staff are lovely.
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I'm so very sorry to hear this, I hope you do get to see him again. Massive hugs xx
 
PigglePuggle said:
So sorry for everyone missing mother's day with their family, we made the decision to go ahead with a small mother's day gathering at my daughter's house this afternoon as my Mum had some bad health news this week (metastatic cancer in her spine) and may not be with us once all this calms down in a few weeks... its sad as today may well be the last time she sees her grandkids and great grandkids but we are doing it in style, making happy memories!
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So very sorry about your mother. I feel for you all!
 
Thanks everyone for the good wishes, sending you all hugs- its such a difficult time for anyone with older (or younger) family, knowing what to do for the best...
We had a lovely afternoon with Mum anyway, she'd bought presents for us all like it was Christmas, and all the kids had made cards and pictures for all the ladies in the family, we had a lovely meal, lots of laughter, lots of hugs, got nice photos of Mum with the kids, especially great grandson Alfie who will be 1 year old soon... Mum said on the way home she felt like she'd had a whole year's worth of family sundays and celebrations in one afternoon, which was kind of the plan :)
 
My mum is 86 and suffers greatly from arthritis but not major illnesses which might make her particularly susceptible. But she's 250 miles away and my sister is in
Australia. My brother is 45 mins away from her but won't visit or do her shopping. I was hoping to do her shopping online but can't get a slot. We are likely to have our movement restricted soon which would obviously mean he couldn't help, but I do feel he could have made more of an effort. Hopefully we can get a community group to help.

I'm anxious for myself. I'm self employed and have work now but don't know how long that will last, probably not long! Worrying about my mum just makes things worse. I suffer from anxiety which isn't normally too bad but I'm finding it difficult to function at the moment. I'm glad to have my piggies as a distraction!
 
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PigglePuggle said:
Thanks everyone for the good wishes, sending you all hugs- its such a difficult time for anyone with older (or younger) family, knowing what to do for the best...
We had a lovely afternoon with Mum anyway, she'd bought presents for us all like it was Christmas, and all the kids had made cards and pictures for all the ladies in the family, we had a lovely meal, lots of laughter, lots of hugs, got nice photos of Mum with the kids, especially great grandson Alfie who will be 1 year old soon... Mum said on the way home she felt like she'd had a whole year's worth of family sundays and celebrations in one afternoon, which was kind of the plan :)
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I'm so glad you had a great day☺
 
Posyrose said:
My mum is 86 and suffers greatly from arthritis but not major illnesses which might make her particularly susceptible. But she's 250 miles away and my sister is in
Australia. My brother is 45 mins away from her but won't visit or do her shopping. I was hoping to do her shopping online but can't get a slot. We are likely to have our movement restricted soon which would obviously mean he couldn't help, but I do feel he could have made more of an effort. Hopefully we can get a community group to help.

I'm anxious for myself. I'm self employed and have work now but don't know how long that will last, probably not long! Worrying about my mum just makes things worse. I suffer from anxiety which isn't normally too bad but I'm finding it difficult to function at the moment. I'm glad to have my piggies as a distraction!
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Sending hugs @Posyrose it must be very hard that your Mum is so far away... does she have care workers who might help? You might find a local care agency who will pop in a couple of times a week and check she's ok and do her shopping... my husband is a care worker and some of his calls are just really social visits, to spend an hour with an elderly person and check they have shopping in and have a cup of tea and a chat with them or offer to cook them a meal x
 
Sadly, I had to hand in my Card and Presents at the residential home my Mum lives in. They are in lock down to visitors so sadly never got to visit her, just waved from the window. My son and family are all poorly. My son has asthma and been told to self isolating in his lounge atm by 111. His friend and work colleague has the virus. I’m feeling quite worried for him.
 
PigglePuggle said:
Sending hugs @Posyrose it must be very hard that your Mum is so far away... does she have care workers who might help? You might find a local care agency who will pop in a couple of times a week and check she's ok and do her shopping... my husband is a care worker and some of his calls are just really social visits, to spend an hour with an elderly person and check they have shopping in and have a cup of tea and a chat with them or offer to cook them a meal x
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thanks @PigglePuggle, that's a really helpful suggestion. I'll let her know.
 
Same here, we always see my mum and dad for a roast dinner either at theirs or ours every single Sunday. Mum has just gone down with cellulitis so that alone means we agreed to isolate. I am just desperate that the antibiotics kick in otherwise she will need to go to hospital and given her age (80 and just getting over breast cancer with lymphodema) I fear the worse. I was so upset tonight and just desperate for what we had before. If nothing else, this virus will teach us to cherish what we have when we have it.
 
Posyrose said:
My mum is 86 and suffers greatly from arthritis but not major illnesses which might make her particularly susceptible. But she's 250 miles away and my sister is in
Australia. My brother is 45 mins away from her but won't visit or do her shopping. I was hoping to do her shopping online but can't get a slot. We are likely to have our movement restricted soon which would obviously mean he couldn't help, but I do feel he could have made more of an effort. Hopefully we can get a community group to help.

I'm anxious for myself. I'm self employed and have work now but don't know how long that will last, probably not long! Worrying about my mum just makes things worse. I suffer from anxiety which isn't normally too bad but I'm finding it difficult to function at the moment. I'm glad to have my piggies as a distraction!
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Sorry you are feeling anxious. I felt the same last week especially being self employed and like you, facing a cliff edge with little help. This week though things have lifted. I am part of a small community group who set up a few years ago and we've regrouped & I've roped in quite a few folks to offer support & help to the vulnerable in our community. Tonight with my little boys, we went out posting cards through doors...lots more to do this week but even though I'm helping others and my situation is rubbish, its actually making me feel useful & happy.
The PM's briefing today said they were setting up hubs in every area to help those who really need it so i think help will be there- just keep an eye on that where she lives. Shame she's not near me.
Hope that gives you a little comfort knowing people are stepping up in amongst all this chaos. Big hugs x
 
Just to everyone who's pain is clear missing mother's and loved ones.
I lost both parents and i struggle not having a parent and was close to both.
I can imagine you guys are torn and because something out of our control we being advise to change our natural ways.
This virus man made or not is horrible.
Dig deep everyone and stay safe. xx
 
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