COVID-19 Missing my mum And dad 😞

Darcey15 said:
Sorry you are feeling anxious. I felt the same last week especially being self employed and like you, facing a cliff edge with little help. This week though things have lifted. I am part of a small community group who set up a few years ago and we've regrouped & I've roped in quite a few folks to offer support & help to the vulnerable in our community. Tonight with my little boys, we went out posting cards through doors...lots more to do this week but even though I'm helping others and my situation is rubbish, its actually making me feel useful & happy.
The PM's briefing today said they were setting up hubs in every area to help those who really need it so i think help will be there- just keep an eye on that where she lives. Shame she's not near me.
Hope that gives you a little comfort knowing people are stepping up in amongst all this chaos. Big hugs x
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Thanks @Darcey15 , I've given her the phone numbers of the council who are coordinating help and of a community group. I'm just not sure that she will be at the front of the queue if she's not ill with the virus or in the group that needs shielding. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic.
 
Posyrose said:
Thanks @Darcey15 , I've given her the phone numbers of the council who are coordinating help and of a community group. I'm just not sure that she will be at the front of the queue if she's not ill with the virus or in the group that needs shielding. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic.
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If there is a community group helping out they won't see an 86 year old stuck I'm sure of that. You're not being pessimistic, just rightfully concerned ❤. The other group you could try is Age UK. I volunteer for them also and they will have access to lots of support locally so google them for the county/area where you are and where your mum lives. X
 
David Piggie Lover said:
Just to everyone who's pain is clear missing mother's and loved ones.
I lost both parents and i struggle not having a parent and was close to both.
I can imagine you guys are torn and because something out of our control we being advise to change our natural ways.
This virus man made or not is horrible.
Dig deep everyone and stay safe. xx
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I feel this. Since my dad passed away so suddenly in 2016 I have tried not to take time with my mum for granted. She has her little dog and they are inseparable anyway but knowing she's on her own and I can't do anything. She's only a 10 mins walk away and in my first week of maternity leave we went shopping together and on a dog walk another day then all this stuff got serious and I haven't physically seen her since.
I'm worried about lockdown now. I think it will happen because people are still mingling, holding house parties because the pubs are closed etc. My baby will arrive soon and a lockdown would stop the grandparents from meeting him or her. I try to look on the positives of having a lot of time just the three of us (8 if you include dog and piggies) but it's hard knowing close family won't be able to get to us.
 
Posyrose said:
My mum is 86 and suffers greatly from arthritis but not major illnesses which might make her particularly susceptible. But she's 250 miles away and my sister is in
Australia. My brother is 45 mins away from her but won't visit or do her shopping. I was hoping to do her shopping online but can't get a slot. We are likely to have our movement restricted soon which would obviously mean he couldn't help, but I do feel he could have made more of an effort. Hopefully we can get a community group to help.

I'm anxious for myself. I'm self employed and have work now but don't know how long that will last, probably not long! Worrying about my mum just makes things worse. I suffer from anxiety which isn't normally too bad but I'm finding it difficult to function at the moment. I'm glad to have my piggies as a distraction!
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I'm a community NHS worker and was told I may be seconded to work on wards, which I expected, but also told last week I may be delivering food, which I didn't expect. When Boris said last night about a state food delivery service, it made me think this is the pandemic plan kicking in. You'd think your Mum would qualify if needed, being the age she is and having arthritis.
 
Black piggies said:
I'm a community NHS worker and was told I may be seconded to work on wards, which I expected, but also told last week I may be delivering food, which I didn't expect. When Boris said last night about a state food delivery service, it made me think this is the pandemic plan kicking in. You'd think your Mum would qualify if needed, being the age she is and having arthritis.
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I think the food service is only for the people who have got letters from the NHS that they are at the highest risk of fatality. But it is government plans kicking in for those that need to go into total isolation.

Hopefully community groups can step in for the others.
 
Lady Kelly said:
I feel this. Since my dad passed away so suddenly in 2016 I have tried not to take time with my mum for granted. She has her little dog and they are inseparable anyway but knowing she's on her own and I can't do anything. She's only a 10 mins walk away and in my first week of maternity leave we went shopping together and on a dog walk another day then all this stuff got serious and I haven't physically seen her since.
I'm worried about lockdown now. I think it will happen because people are still mingling, holding house parties because the pubs are closed etc. My baby will arrive soon and a lockdown would stop the grandparents from meeting him or her. I try to look on the positives of having a lot of time just the three of us (8 if you include dog and piggies) but it's hard knowing close family won't be able to get to us.
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Big Hugs Kelly. From me and 20200320_161859.webp
 
Wiebke said:
I think the food service is only for the people who have got letters from the NHS that they are at the highest risk of fatality. But it is government plans kicking in for those that need to go into total isolation.

Hopefully community groups can step in for the others.
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Yes community groups seem to be developing fantastically. The NHS is the third biggest employer in the world, after the Chinese Army and Indian railway and most of us don't work in ICU. If the government are going to use us to help, there would be staff capacity to deliver food to older people isolating who need food, as well as the 1.5 million receiving letters.
 
I'm going to miss my sisters so much there's 3 of us and life just isn't the same without them I was a broken version of myself when I went away to uni and didn't get to see them. I've missed enough of their lives already, it's like a piece of me is missing this is going to be so hard. I only live a 15 min drive away but it feels a hell of a lot further now.
 
Posyrose said:
Thanks everyone for your good wishes and suggestions about how I could arrange support to help my mum.

I have just spoken to her and a community group has offered to do her shopping, which is a great relief!
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I'm pleased to hear this- good folks around.

Our community group has turned into me, my husband & 2 kids who have delivered leaflets out to at least 200 homes. We have more to do and after so many people offering support, not 1 person has helped us so I've been upset & angry today to be honest. One elderly lady called us for help today, no family, elderly relatives etc and all she wanted was 4 tomatoes a newspaper and some shampoo. I went with my son to get her things & whilst in tesco got chatting to the store worker who I told about my lady. A few mins later he returned with a bunch of flowers and said, tell her these are from Tesco and tell her she's not alone and it will be OK. I nearly cried.

She was so grateful to receive that which has made me more determined to get the final leaflets out to the old folks flats. We will go in the evening, nobody around & wear gloves to post through. Our family walk round the block.

Sorry for the rant. I was so upbeat about doing it but felt like an idiot today sending updates on the area I'd covered to the "group", asking for help and nobody replied. Made me sad. Plus I've got 2 kids, elderly parents and my own stuff going on with being self employed....just made me despair a bit.
 
Darcey15 said:
I'm pleased to hear this- good folks around.

Our community group has turned into me, my husband & 2 kids who have delivered leaflets out to at least 200 homes. We have more to do and after so many people offering support, not 1 person has helped us so I've been upset & angry today to be honest. One elderly lady called us for help today, no family, elderly relatives etc and all she wanted was 4 tomatoes a newspaper and some shampoo. I went with my son to get her things & whilst in tesco got chatting to the store worker who I told about my lady. A few mins later he returned with a bunch of flowers and said, tell her these are from Tesco and tell her she's not alone and it will be OK. I nearly cried.

She was so grateful to receive that which has made me more determined to get the final leaflets out to the old folks flats. We will go in the evening, nobody around & wear gloves to post through. Our family walk round the block.

Sorry for the rant. I was so upbeat about doing it but felt like an idiot today sending updates on the area I'd covered to the "group", asking for help and nobody replied. Made me sad. Plus I've got 2 kids, elderly parents and my own stuff going on with being self employed....just made me despair a bit.
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I support you and say well done x
 
David Piggie Lover said:
I support you and say well done x
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Thankyou ❤ i feel a bit better today to be fair. It was a hard 1st day with kids & sorting the community stuff out but its important to work within my limits & not try to fix the world. We had another lady call today just feeling lonely & wanted to reach out- she wasnt asking for anything, just needed assurance that we were there if she needed someone. Thats what its all about 😊.
 
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