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My BF said something very hurtful last night

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"What did you get guinea pigs for? They don't do anything".

grrrr

He is angry because we have had to cart the pets all over town whilst we are waiting for a house but why say that? He said they are messy and stink too. I told him if he doesn't like my pets, he knows where he can go.

How dare he speak bad of my boys? :0

Should I dump him? ;)
 
*Hugs*

Not making excuses but perhaps he's stressed about moving? or jealous that you care and want to spend your time with them and not him? i may be getting the wrong end of the stick if i am sorry.

xx
 
Sounds like it was just him venting, I'm sure he doesn't mean it. My husband is also messy and stinky but I love him so I'll keep him for now ;) He's not quite as entertaining as my piggies though :))

Don't let him upset you, your boys are gorgeous.
 
Sounds like a typical stressed out OH to me! :{
 
The move is DEFINATELY a factor, he has been a nightmare. He can call me names all he wants but not my innocent beautiful boys. pow-pow

Yes I do think he may also be jealous because my love is spread with others. ;)

Still doesn't make it right though. :(

LOL @ your husband! :(|)
 
My OH constantly moans about the smell and my pig obsession however I often catch him grabbing a quick snuggle or having a chat with them so I know he loves them really!
 
I used to think he loved them but he is blaming them on our house move saying they are stopping us finding somewhere nice because nobody likes pets. 8...
 
Romily said:
My OH constantly moans about the smell and my pig obsession however I often catch him grabbing a quick snuggle or having a chat with them so I know he loves them really!
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Same here - not the grabbing but the chatting! (But only when I'm not around...:)) )
 
Hoggle*&*Ludo said:
Yes I do think he may also be jealous because my love is spread with others. ;)
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I know I've definitely experienced this myself (and it was even HIS idea to get guinea pigs in the first place!)

Maybe "jealousy" isn't the right word but it certainly can take a bit of adjusting to get used to the fact that there are new members of the family who really are a big part of your life and have needs. Even at the best of times (i.e. less stressful than moving house!) it'd take a bit of getting used to the new dynamics and new regimes.

I'm sure he doesn't mean it and will grow to love them more and more as you settle into your new home.
 
My partner doesnt like the pigs either but I dont care - they are my pets and my responsiblilty. Dont worry bout it babe x
 
Actually, you have made a good point. I remember once he said "all you care about is them guinea pigs" because everytime I got home, I swept the cage and prepared their veg and gave them snuggles.

What is wrong with that?! ?/
 
My OH complains about them all the time. I now know that if I want to have the telly all to myself in the evenings all I have to do is bring the piggies in for floor time and lap time :)) he goes upstairs then to watch telly.

Although he does buy them the odd herb or two and will cuddle one of them if I am busy

I am sure it is the stress of the move and to be honest it is probably not the piggies that are the problem in getting a new house.

Men!grrrrgrrrr
 
Men indeed!

He doesn't realise I am also going through the stress of waiting for the verdict for the house we want, on top of me not having my beloved pets for at least a month THEN him on top of that being mean to me. 8...
 
Hoggle*&*Ludo said:
I remember once he said "all you care about is them guinea pigs" because everytime I got home, I swept the cage and prepared their veg and gave them snuggles.

What is wrong with that?! ?/
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NOTHING! Hehe :)

I also think its the stress of the move and that you are stressed being away from them, waiting on the new house etc etc.

If he says anything about the piggies again like what you put in the quote above, I'd just say something back (not in an argumentative way) about how they make you very happy and that it would be a lot worse if you had gotten them and then lost interest and the cleaning out etc and that it had become a chore that you moaned about all the time. If this was the case, then you could understand him getting on at you.

Then have a lovely meal, some wine or beer and a put a movie on and have a snuggle with him (not the piggles!) on the sofa so he doesn't feel forgotten!
 
Aww I thought you meant snuggle with the pigs and a glass of wine! :0:(|)

That is so true, it isn't like I have got them and left them to fester in a pile of poo! {:| They wouldn't allow that! :(|)
 
I agree with Kimberely. Sounds about right the talk then dinner and a movie or something.

MEN rolleyes
 
....thats ok, let Hoggle and Ludo sleep in the bed and make the OH sleep in the cage! lol

Seriously though, it probably is just him stressing and venting, and your boys are probably the easiest target at the mo.
Not that that makes it ok, still not nice for you to hear.
Maybe just ignore it, take comfort in the fact that you will never be as childish and insensitive as him :))

xx
 
Sorry to hear your having a stressful time. I have a simular problem, I do everything round the house and when I get fed up and tell him to do something to help, he comes out with well nothing in the house in mine it's all yours and the guineas stuff :)) I then lead him to the kitchen and state are these plates mine or the guineas? are your empty pop bottles mine or the guineas, are your empty crisp wrappers on the side mine or the guineas!

That usually settles it! :))
 
Sorry you are having trouble with your boyfriend I am sure he is just really stressed and finding the whole concept of moving a big pain in the ar*e! I hate moving house and I have not even had the joy of trying to finding rented accomodation with pets. Men can feel a bit life a "widower" when you have an all encompassing passion that they do not share.
 
Thank you for your replies. :)

I have calmed a bit now! :))

Well ***fingers crossed*** we will get the house we want tonight, please pray for us. Then hope things improve with his mood!

He always says the mess is the pigs, how?! They can't get out and you are right, they aren't the ones who spilt red wine on the carpet and left dirty plates around! :(|)

lovelygirl - your avatar really cracks me up, with the hand saying "you WILL stay in the box for the photo"! :))
 
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