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I am beside myself with grief right now :( I adopted a beautiful house bunny some years ago as he became an unwanted pet. He was such a character and made me laugh at times, even if he would throw his bowl around at 3am. His party trick was to chase his balloon around the room then take a rest on the hearth and have his head rubbed.
He had to have a procedure under ga last week but seemed to recover, if slowly. He went rapidly downhill last night and I took him back to the local vet this morning but all vital signs were ok, so he came home.
I had to go out briefly at lunchtime and when I came back I started to mix his Critical Care but heard him making a strange noise - he was fitting and as I rang the vet he passed over the rainbow bridge. I am going over all the 'what ifs' and feel guilty that I missed something, but I hope he knew I loved him so very much.
I am having him cremated and then he will be back home with me. I love you Crumble xx 🌈 Hop free my boy
 
Oh, what a shock for you. I’m so sorry that Crumble has passed to the Rainbow Bridge. I know first hand the huge hole a beloved house bun leaves behind. Big hugs to you. Binky freely, beautiful boy.
 
BIG HUGS

I am ever so sorry that you lost Crumble struggling with his recovery and then taking a turn for the worst. :(

Not your fault at all. Some pets can have a bad reaction to GA and not come round well; even with a good vet. I have lost a couple of piggies of mine to that over the years (including one C&R piggy).
All you can do is hang on in there and hope that they make it through. If there is an underlying weakness, they sometimes won't. We can unfortunately not withhold any necessary treatment out of fear that something could happen; even more so when the alternative is a certain death. Poor Crumble was just very unlucky that he pulled the short straw in the operation stakes. Things have improved massively over the last decade but that doesn't sadly mean that everything will always come off without a hitch.

Please keep in mind that we humans are wired to always seek the fault with ourselves, first and foremost. It is very normal for the start of the grieving process but even stronger with a sudden death when you desperately try to make sense of what has just happened. The guilt/failure trip has nasty tendency to trip all of us up unless we can catch ourselves.
Try to take consolation that you have given Crumble the happiest of lives and done the best you could for his health. The rest is out of your hands. I call it 'cosmic bad luck' - i.e. the stuff that happens at the worst possible time, I can't foresee or prevent or have any control over the outcome. Unfortunately, there is more of it around than we all would like. :(

Our grieving guide also works for bunnies, including the Blue Cross pet bereavement support lines if you feel that it would help you to talk about it all to get it off your soul.
Human Bereavement: Grieving, Coping and Support Links for Guinea Pig Owners and Their Children
 
Oh no. I’m so sorry for your sad loss. Binky over at rainbow bridge Crumble.

Fill your heart with all the happy memories.

Sending love x
 
So sorry you have lost Crumble. He sounded a real character. Hop high at the bridge. Take care. ❤️
 
So very sorry that you have lost Crumble.
You gave him a lovely home and a perfect bunny life.
Be gentle with yourself as you grieve.
 
Wiebke said:
BIG HUGS

I am ever so sorry that you lost Crumble struggling with his recovery and then taking a turn for the worst. :(

Not your fault at all. Some pets can have a bad reaction to GA and not come round well; even with a good vet. I have lost a couple of piggies of mine to that over the years (including one C&R piggy).
All you can do is hang on in there and hope that they make it through. If there is an underlying weakness, they sometimes won't. We can unfortunately not withhold any necessary treatment out of fear that something could happen; even more so when the alternative is a certain death. Poor Crumble was just very unlucky that he pulled the short straw in the operation stakes. Things have improved massively over the last decade but that doesn't sadly mean that everything will always come off without a hitch.

Please keep in mind that we humans are wired to always seek the fault with ourselves, first and foremost. It is very normal for the start of the grieving process but even stronger with a sudden death when you desperately try to make sense of what has just happened. The guilt/failure trip has nasty tendency to trip all of us up unless we can catch ourselves.
Try to take consolation that you have given Crumble the happiest of lives and done the best you could for his health. The rest is out of your hands. I call it 'cosmic bad luck' - i.e. the stuff that happens at the worst possible time, I can't foresee or prevent or have any control over the outcome. Unfortunately, there is more of it around than we all would like. :(

Our grieving guide also works for bunnies, including the Blue Cross pet bereavement support lines if you feel that it would help you to talk about it all to get it off your soul.
Human Bereavement: Grieving, Coping and Support Links for Guinea Pig Owners and Their Children
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Thank you so much Wiebke it helps a little to put it into perspective.
 
munchmonster said:
Thank you so much Wiebke it helps a little to put it into perspective.
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I can't sadly ease the pain of your loss (nobody can) but I can hopefully help you get the first foot back on deck again. ;)

Be kind with yourself in the coming days as you run the inevitable gamut of strong emotions.
 
Big hugs to you. Sounds like you did all you could and the call of the rainbow bridge was just too strong. Take care of yourself as you grieve.
 
Oh I’m so sorry @munchmonster, sending massive hugs. He sounded like a lovely boy, what a shock for you :( You did everything you could for him and I’m sure he had an amazing life with you ❤️ xx
Sleep tight Crumble ❤️❤️ xx
 
Oh I am so sorry for you, what an awful time you are having, so sorry you lost Crumble, take good care x
Sleep tight little bun 🌈
 
Sleep tight little bun have fun over that rainbow bridge 🌈

Well done for caring so much that you took him in and gave him a loving home. You did all you could. The best thing you can do now is to keep his memory alive by thinking about all those happy memories
 
Thank you everyone it really means so much to read all your kind comments. I can't bring myself to clean and remove his house from the room yet but time will ease the grief x
 
munchmonster said:
Thank you everyone it really means so much to read all your kind comments. I can't bring myself to clean and remove his house from the room yet but time will ease the grief x
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There’s no need to rush with the clearing away. He occupied a big place in your home and your heart. It seems very final to clear his things away so be gentle with yourself and only do it when you feel fully ready to do so. For weeks after my girl went to the Rainbow Bridge I would “see” her out of the corner of my eye in her favourite places to lounge and would do a double take. And I would still sometimes expect to feel her on my feet (especially when I was in the kitchen as she would sit on my feet as I did the dishes) or next to me on the sofa. It all takes time to process. Just take your time x
 
So sorry, what horrible, horrible luck and what a sad loss to bear. Clearly he had the best possible home with you and you did everything you could. Crumble sounded like a big and lovely personality. Take care.
 
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