Normal To Still Miss Him?

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ayemee

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I lost Brillo in August 2014. Yet every single day I still really miss him.

I feel like I can't talk to my family much about it. They miss him too but I still sometimes forget he's even gone. In my mind he's here and it's strange.
When my patio door opens it makes a squeaky noise that used to make him wheek like crazy. Every time I open the door now I still expect to hear him.

I feel like the amount I'm still missing him really isn't normal. A couple of weeks after he passed away I broke down into tears at the opticians! My mum had no idea what was going on. When he left me it really did have a huge effect on me. I feel almost guilty that he's the one still stuck in my head over all my other piggies. Obviously I miss every single one of them. But Brillo was my first pig and he just held such a special place in my heart.

I miss this little face so much.





 

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Aww I'm so sorry *huggles*

I still miss my guinea pig Ludwig (avatar) he was my little soul and I think about him often, saying hello and good night to his ashes that I have in my room. I think it depends on you as a person. Some of us hurt like this can last for ages, especially if they were one you had an especially close bond with. It took me a long while to remember Ludwig with a smile rather than sadness but it helps so much.

I'm pretty lucky I have another guinea pig who makes me now feel the same way as Ludwig did - though I still miss Ludwig tons and he'll still be my little soul pig as I call him- but it helps a lot. I just dread the day I lose this one too.

I can't give any advice on if its normal or not because as I said, we are all human and feel emotions differently, some it lasts longer and some not.
 

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Brillo was a stunning boy and it is perfectly natural to still miss him and you probably always will.

I had my first pair of piggies Connie and Eliza in 2007. I sadly lost Connie just 18 months later and I was deverstated. After that, Eliza had three new friends, Eleanor, Erin and Ena. They were my first group and I was heartbroken when we lost Eleanor at the age of 4.5. Neutered boar Enoch came along. Just 3 months later, I lost Erin and Ena just 10 days apart and I was left deverstated again. I soon adopted Emma and Erika and as much as I love them, the group just wasn't the same. Eliza died last March after she had been with me from the beginning for 6.5 years and my heart broke. She was one of my first guinea pigs and we went through so much together.

I miss all my rainbow piggies and think of them every single day.
 

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Sorry for your loss too. Really hits you hard when they hold a special place.

I'm lucky I now have my girls to look after and it's rewarding looking after piggies again. I couldn't even look at guinea pigs for a couple of weeks after losing him.

I guess I should be happy he had a good life. They always say that death is always worse for those left living.

I hope he's giving them as much attitude up there as he gave me! :P
 

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Huge hugs to you! No matter how you think you might feel when a loved pet passes on, it can often hit even harder than you thought. When Reggie died, who actually originally was my previous housemates, I was in tears for two full days at least! It was hard to hold back tears at work.

I found that filling the absense with a rescue pig who needed a home very much helped a few months down the line. The best you can do in life if you love piggies is to help them through their shorter lives when you can, as they can't help being in the world. Whether with a past piggy or present piggy though, everything you do to help them live a good life is the best you can possibly give :) I'm certain thats the life Brillo had!
 

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*hugs* It's very normal to miss him, each and every single day. I miss Mario and Peri pig, it never goes away, though it does get easier to handle each day, knowing that you gave them a fantastic home in the time you had with them.
 

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Brillo is gorgeous! I'm sorry for your lose. And as everyone has confirmed it is completely normal. Alot of people don't understand this kind of grief over animals but this site is full of people who do. Including myself so if you feel really down and ever want to talk i'm here and this forum does wonders! :) I hope you start to feel better soon. I had a cat and 2 piggies growing up and i still miss them. Took years to stop hearing Po meow. My mum and i kept opening the door to let her in, only then would we remember. Thoughts are with you! Maybe a wee memorial project would help? I saw a thread of a lass eho got a knitted copy of her late piggy and it seems lie a lovely thought. Perhaps a crafty project could help?
 

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Brillo is gorgeous! I'm sorry for your lose. And as everyone has confirmed it is completely normal. Alot of people don't understand this kind of grief over animals but this site is full of people who do. Including myself so if you feel really down and ever want to talk i'm here and this forum does wonders! :) I hope you start to feel better soon. I had a cat and 2 piggies growing up and i still miss them. Took years to stop hearing Po meow. My mum and i kept opening the door to let her in, only then would we remember. Thoughts are with you! Maybe a wee memorial project would help? I saw a thread of a lass eho got a knitted copy of her late piggy and it seems lie a lovely thought. Perhaps a crafty project could help?
Thank you so much. It really means a lot.

I got canvases done of all my piggies after Brillo passed away which was really nice. I'll look into doing something crafty. I think it will be a nice way to think about him and do something productive :)
 

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You can't put a time limit on grief. It is okay to have feelings, but if you feel like your life isn't moving forward because of your grief, it's okay to talk to someone about it that can help you move forward. I'm sorry that you lost your friend. I hope your heart heals. :(
 

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I'm glad to hear it helps. :) And canvases... that's a good idea! I never thought of that. I bet they look amazing! :)
 

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Brillo was a beautiful piggy , you are very normal , our pets are everything to us, my daughter said our beloved friends are waiting for us at rainbow bridge, so we will all be together again one day, hugs to you x.
 
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Sorry, I have only just seen this. Brillo was one of my favourite forum piggies. I do not know if this is any help but I will share something with you.

On July 29 I lost my beautiful Amina suddenly at only three years old. I sunk into depression and had to be put on antidepressants. New Year's Eve was so hard as I knew I was going into the new year without her. I think about her everyday and keep looking for her in the cage. When I cut food up I keep doing five pieces then remembering I only need four. I really have not been the same since she left. I totally understand your pain and sadness and I say you are grieving because you loved Brillo with all your heart. There is no time limit to grief so do not feel you should be over your loss. If you ever need to talk you are welcome to message me anytime.
 

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Sorry, I have only just seen this. Brillo was one of my favourite forum piggies. I do not know if this is any help but I will share something with you.

On July 29 I lost my beautiful Amina suddenly at only three years old. I sunk into depression and had to be put on antidepressants. New Year's Eve was so hard as I knew I was going into the new year without her. I think about her everyday and keep looking for her in the cage. When I cut food up I keep doing five pieces then remembering I only need four. I really have not been the same since she left. I totally understand your pain and sadness and I say you are grieving because you loved Brillo with all your heart. There is no time limit to grief so do not feel you should be over your loss. If you ever need to talk you are welcome to message me anytime.

Thank you for sharing that with me. I'm so very sorry for your loss too.

My family noticed I wasn't myself for weeks. I wasn't interested in anything and didn't laugh or smile much. It's getting better now, but some days the pain still feels so raw.

Thank you again. Your kindness and support is very much appreciated.
 
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Thank you for sharing that with me. I'm so very sorry for your loss too.

My family noticed I wasn't myself for weeks. I wasn't interested in anything and didn't laugh or smile much. It's getting better now, but some days the pain still feels so raw.

Thank you again. Your kindness and support is very much appreciated.
It is nice you have your family looking out for you and that they care.
 

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It is nice you have your family looking out for you and that they care.
It is. I'm very lucky. My mum missed having piggies as much as I did.

When I was clearing out Brillo's things, I was sobbing so much. Mum came out wondering what was going on and we ended up crying together.

He was such a loved little piggie.
 
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Aww your mum sounds lovely. Having an understanding family must help so much.
 

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I'm sorty for your loss and what You Are goung through. It's not the same, but when I was younger I had a dog who I loved more than anything in this world. My parents gave him away and I was absolutely devastated. I got upset for about 3 years after because I missed him so much. And I used to feel so guilty (for example when I got a hamster a few years later) towards him as I felt it was like I replaced him and the poor hamster as she wasn't getting as much love as she could have. I hope you start to feel better soon I rely do xx
 
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