awww Helen, i have just read this all the way through, i am so sorry. Its awful when you do all you can but it just doesnt work, as you know i have my problems with Oscar. Reading through your posts you have given her the best chance possible, i really wish i had your knowledge and confidence, not to mention the 'friend'. I am so sorry for you and Ross, its just so devastating and it doesnt matter how many you have lost over time, each one chips away at the old heart. rip Maddie, run pain free at the bridge beautiful x