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When Marmalade died last week friends and family were so supportive sending cards, presents and messages.

But one week on and I think just a few peeps are confused by my ongoing distress. There's been a few wise cracks from people I know would never purposely say anything to upset me but probably don't know what to say and are trying to lighten the situ. But I can't help thinking "you wouldn't be making jokes if it was a human who died".

The truth is I'm thoroughly depressed. I know it will pass just wish I could hold him one last time and kiss his silky little ears.

The last thing I ever said to Marmalade was "I love you so much" - even I didn't realise how much x
 
People can be so unsympathetic. If it is any help I will tell you this. My Amina passed away on 29 July and I have sunken into depression and had to see the mental health team. The emptiness is awful. I really do understand what you are going through and I wish I could take away your pain. You are feeling natural feelings so please do not try to push yourself to feel better. You lost your little boy and that really hurts. Hugs to you.
 
piggyfan said:
People can be so unsympathetic. If it is any help I will tell you this. My Amina passed away on 29 July and I have sunken into depression and had to see the mental health team. The emptiness is awful. I really do understand what you are going through and I wish I could take away your pain. You are feeling natural feelings so please do not try to push yourself to feel better. You lost your little boy and that really hurts. Hugs to you.
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Aww bless you for sharing... I hope you are beginning to feel a little better yourself.

Thank you for your reassurance.

I find other pet owners 'get it' but others, even though they try, never really do!

It's nice to still have Freddie who is sat with me now desperately trying to cuddle into my shoulder blade!
 
Freddie sounds adorable. I hope he can give you some comfort. People don't realise what a huge impact our little ones make on our lives. You are welcome to message me anytime if you need to talk.
 
I lost my rat a couple of weeks ago and no one but you lot get it.Still miss fizzy pop who I lost last year.She is the one in my avatar.She was a very special pig
 
Sorry for your loss. I am going through a similar thing. I am so devastated over losing one of my girls but others don't really get it and just tell me to get a new one as if she can easily be replaced :( My dad was actually upset the night she was put to sleep though which surprised me but she did become a big part of the family. They really do come to mean so much and you have every right to grieve.
 
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I lost my rat a couple of weeks ago and no one but you lot get it.Still miss fizzy pop who I lost last year.She is the one in my avatar.She was a very special pig
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They make for themselves such a large place in our hearts, it's not surprising they leave such a large hole!
 
I lost my boy Brillo 6 days ago. I know what you mean. At first my family and friends were so supportive, but now I think its got to a point where they sort of think, 'Shouldn't she be over it by now' and the 'He was only a guinea pig'.

Thats why I enjoy being on this forum. You find people that actually understand.

So sorry for your loss. I'm more than happy to chat with you via PM, if you ever feel a little fed up. :hug:
 
ayemee said:
I lost my boy Brillo 6 days ago. I know what you mean. At first my family and friends were so supportive, but now I think its got to a point where they sort of think, 'Shouldn't she be over it by now' and the 'He was only a guinea pig'.

Thats why I enjoy being on this forum. You find people that actually understand.

So sorry for your loss. I'm more than happy to chat with you via PM, if you ever feel a little fed up. :hug:
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Thanks! And hugs to you too... :tu:

There's such a huge difference I find talking to other pet owners - perhaps the trick is to expect compassion from those able to relate. Which I guess applies to life's trials in general.

That's why I enjoy this forum too... it's a forum doing what it does best when likeminded people can find 'their place' x
 
nickh said:
Sorry for your loss. I am going through a similar thing. I am so devastated over losing one of my girls but others don't really get it and just tell me to get a new one as if she can easily be replaced :( My dad was actually upset the night she was put to sleep though which surprised me but she did become a big part of the family. They really do come to mean so much and you have every right to grieve.
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Sorry for your loss too - hugs.

And welcome to the forum.

Thank you for sharing... it makes me feel better knowing I'm not alone in how I am feeling.
 
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