Please help me with the loss of my piggie

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Hi all, i know I am new to the forum but I really need your help. I posted a week or two ago about my poorly pig Ethelred and unfortunately she was PTS on Sunday. This is the first time I've been through this and both me and my OH are really struggling to cope :( I know we did the best thing for her but it feels like we just switched her off at the vet's, and I just keep hoping she will be in her cage when I wake up, I miss her little hairy face so much. The problem now is that I'm having real trouble dealing with our remaining guinea pig, Emmeline, who we got at the same time. I feel like I don't want to see her anymore, she's such a constant reminder of who's missing and it hurts so much to think of how happy we were when we brought them both home. I know she needs another friend as well, but the thought of getting another pig makes me feel ill right now, like I would be betraying little Ethelred. I keep thinking Emmeline would be better off with someone else who can give her some piggie friends and I could stop hurting so much. I feel so terrible and selfish for wanting to just ship her off because she's a reminder of what we lost, it's not her fault and I should be so grateful that i still have her. I just need to know if anyone has felt like this after a loss, am i just confused and it will get better? I don't want to let Emmeline down :(
 
Oh love HUGE HUGE HUGS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Emmeline needs you so badly now......... you have to be a piggie friend and a mummy XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Yes she'll be a constant reminder, but she'll also be a saviour..... a beautiful reminder of her dear friend and the fact that she's still here to help you thru your pain and remember her pain also 8...8...8...8...

Give yourself and Emmeline a little time, but remember that she needs piggie love........ let things settle and then come on and ask one of our lovely rescues to advise a friend/piggie date.

Your loss of Ethelred has hit you really hard and you're reeling with pain......... it's normal it's dam hard....... but time will help, no it wont completely heal (and that's from experience) but it does help. You'll honestly find that in sometime...and everyone is so so different you will start to smile and remember the lovely times with Ethelred and Emmeline together x)
 
Aw I am so sorry to her about Ethelred, use Emmeline to help you grieve, she's going through the same thing as you are, It must be so hard as she is always reminding you of your lose, but she is still her and can remind you of all the happiness you all shared :)
I hope you start to feel better soon and can make a decision when you are really up to it :D
HUGS xx :)
 
Oh my I can SO relate to how your feeling right now!

We had to have our gorgeous Snowball who was only two and a half pts on Saturday after a week of giving him critical care and my daughter and I were devastated to say the least.8...

We really miss seeing him in the hutch cuddled up to his mate Cookie-there is such a huge hole now hes gone.At 1st I couldnt bear to look at Cookie-still find it hard but he really needs extra love and cuddles right now, hes lost Snowball too and I know they dont 'think' the same way we do but I cant bear to think of him not having Snowball at his side anymore but I know we have to deal with it and try to get Cookie a new friend.We will never be able to replace Snowball but I'm sure we can give our love to another special friend for Cookie.

Time is a healer and I'm sure that soon you will be able to think about getting your remaining pig a new friend.

Take care x
 
I know its hard but if you love Emmeline you need to find her a new friend. Imagine being in your pggies shoes. You have just lost your friend and then your owners who have come to love decide to put you in a strange place and you end up with strangers. Isn't nicer to find a new friend who needs a forever home.
 
I understand fully where you are comming from.I lost a hamster who was very dear to me at the end of last year and i still desperately want him back. Even now i'm still struggling to bond with my other hamster because i miss the other so much.

Don't rush into making a decisiononwhat to do with Emmeline now. She is greiving in her own way too - she had her companion whisked away and she hasn't comeback. Rather that looking at her with bitterness of what you have lost, interact and spend time with her to remind you what you have. And thats a piggy who needs help as much as you. If you do choose to keepher, dont rush straight into getting her a companion. You can only do it when the time is right. If she is on her own for a little while it wont make it any more difficult to introduce a new friend to her ... don't you think Ethelred would be pleased that her friend was happy?
 
So sorry to hear of your loss. Like you I lost one of my two piggies last year (and my rabbit 4 months later) and like you I was devastated. I also worried whether my remaining piggy would survive the loss as we bought them together. They were the last of the pets my late husband had together before he passed away in2008 so they were very special little girls. I found that I became closer to Gladys after losing Gloria because we were both upset by our loss. Your Emmeline needs your love more than ever at this sad time and hopefully you will be able to help each other through the dark days. Much love to you both and big hugs from me and Gladys.x
 
hi

hello.. i know what you've been through.. i lost my first guinea pig - male - last year july because my cousin forgetfully left him under the sun,, he died of heat stroke... And so Panchito left my other male guinea, Malpa.

Then came Jenny last September. She had 4 stillborns the day after i bought her. the shop keeper didnt know she was pregnant beforehand so I'm guessing she died of stress; the journey caused the miscarriage. Sadly, she died a month later. she might have eaten something wrong because she was choking and i was trying to feed and let her drink her the whole day..

To accompany Malpa, i bought Portia last December. Well, she got pregnant. but i forgot to isolate her from him for weeks. i really think she got stressed out; she had 2 stillborns last week Monday. well, blame it to my hectic college schedule. I'm really depressed. we have one puppy and a pair of lovebirds. and my mother wanted to give away these piggies from the beginning. but i loved them. and it's hard to let go of something you love. so up to now, I'm trying my best to take care of them now that the couple lost their "babies."

please be strong. let's take care of all the guinae out there. :))
 
Thank you all so much for understanding, it helps so much to hear from people who have gone through the same thing and come out the other side. Sometimes it just feels like I'm never going to be happy again, my house doesn't feel like home without her. I just can't accept that she's gone forever, i want her back so badly. It feels so quick, three days ago she was still with me and when I look at my photos of her I can't believe that she's not just sitting in her little house, waiting for some veggies. I wish I would just wake up and it's two weeks ago, maybe I should have taken her to the vet sooner, or asked for more serious drugs for her. I really thought she was getting better, i keep thinking about all the times I went out and left her on her own, if i'd just known she had so little time I would have spent every second with her. And I know that has made me grateful to have Emmeline but I can't go through this all again if anything happens to her. I have had her out on my lap yesterday and today and she still makes me smile. i think she really needed a cuddle, she gave a big yawn and curled up in my fleece for a nap. I want to help her and get her the friend she needs, i just don't know if i will be able :(
 
I went through all of this last year and then again 3 weeks ago. 8...

I know exactly how you're feeling and I also know that in spite of what you feel about " replacing" your lost piggie it is fact sometimes a blessing that you have to think of someone else ( Emmeline )other than yourself because basically the decision is taken away from you.
We had to get Wally Whiskers a new friend when our wonderful Mr M passed away, I didn't want to but Wally was taking it very badly, had stopped eating, moving, basically everything. He needed help a.s.a.p no matter how we felt about it.
I'm so glad we took him on a boardate and he found Rocket, he perked up immediately. This helped us to carry on greiving for Mr M but it also gave us a very welcome distraction which we dearly needed after crying our eyes out non stop for nearly two weeks straight.
We didn't forget Mr M but could start to remember him with a smile. Rocket has never replaced Mr M, he is his own little personality as was MR M ( and I'll never forget my darling ).
The same is true or Moonpig and Yoshi 8... who passed away 3 weeks ago, I miss him so much but couldn't stand by and see Moonpig withdraw into herself and sink into depression. I know she still misses him but she has someone to keep her busy now ( and that someone, Olivia has also recently lost a friend ) and I know that's helping her to live rather than just give up. I honestly believe that if we hadn't got Rocket Wally Whiskers wouldn't be with us now. (((((hugs)))))
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You poor thing, I can understand exactly how you feel, the same thing happened to me when I lost my very first piggy, but after a week or so, I went up to her picked her up and talked to her about how i was feeling, I told her I was sorry and I ended up crying buckets over her, I realised that she too was unhappy she had lost her buddy and she couldnt display any emotions or tell anyone how she felt. I spent a couple of days giving her extra special TLC and then got her a new cage mate, she perked up and so did I...... Its not easy losing a pet......... I lost my latest piggy Brownie last week, and the help, advice and support I received off this forum was fantastic........ Go and pick up your lonely baby girl and give her lots of cuddles and love.....she needs you more than anything at the moment.she is totally alone.......thinking of you sendinglots of piggy hugs xxxxx
 
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