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Sunshine114

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I'm sorry, I don't post much on here - well haven't since we got our beautiful boys almost three years ago now, but we lost one today He was taken ill over the weekend and spent three days in animal hospital where they tried everything they could, but in the end it was kindest to let him go, I got to see him and cuddle him ao I will remember that forever.
I can hardly think straight at the moment, let alone plan, but I'm worried about his twin brother. They have never been apart, and he is definitely craving more attention - he wants to be on my lap constantly. He's eating fine and is playing with some new toys but he's also going to sit in the spot his brother used to sit in. What can I do? Hubby isn't sure about getting more, but he is still not even three years old - that's a long time on his own... but how do I even begin to introduce a new friend? any help gratefully received x
 
I'm sorry, I don't post much on here - well haven't since we got our beautiful boys almost three years ago now, but we lost one today He was taken ill over the weekend and spent three days in animal hospital where they tried everything they could, but in the end it was kindest to let him go, I got to see him and cuddle him ao I will remember that forever.
I can hardly think straight at the moment, let alone plan, but I'm worried about his twin brother. They have never been apart, and he is definitely craving more attention - he wants to be on my lap constantly. He's eating fine and is playing with some new toys but he's also going to sit in the spot his brother used to sit in. What can I do? Hubby isn't sure about getting more, but he is still not even three years old - that's a long time on his own... but how do I even begin to introduce a new friend? any help gratefully received x

Hi! I am ever so sorry for your loss. We have got a Rainbow Bridge section where you are welcome to post a tribute ir or whenever it feels right for you. We all grieve differently; it is there for those who want to make use of it whether that is immediately or months later.

Please show your hub these two links here; may also find them helpful. You have rescues that offer boar dating at the rescue within your reach, so you'd only come home with a new boar where acceptance has happened and have the rescue to fall back on if things went suddenly wrong at some point. When done right, boars of all ages can bond. The key is less age, but mutual liking and character compatibility. it usually take 1-3 candidates at a rescue to find "Mr Right", but that goes for every boar bonding whether it is an adult boar or a baby. No piggy is ever too old to not need any company of its kind.
Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig
Companionship
 
Thank you for your reply, how would I go about finding a rescue that can help with bomding? We are in the Bath area if that helps.
 
I'm so sorry you lost your boy. You have to get another piggy or else he will start pining, if he's laying where his brother used to lay, he's desperately unhappy. Really you need to get him a friend or surrender him to a rescue where he can have friends. Sending hugs to you.
Go to the green bar & then on to the rescue locator,just choose what's closest.
 
Thank you for your reply, how would I go about finding a rescue that can help with bomding? We are in the Bath area if that helps.

We have got a recommended good standard rescue locator on the top bar the link is also in our guide about what you can do for bereaved piggy immediately and in the longer term.
Please be aware that the Blue Cross in Burford does not offer rescue dating. But there is at least one guinea pig rescue in Bristol as far as I know: Guinea Pig Rescue Centre Locator
 
Thank you - giving him up isn't an option, it would break all our hearts - and his! He's playing at the moment with a new willow ball, and is having lots of cuddles, but I know that doesn't make up for another piggy company.
I'll look at the links - I'm guessing another boat would be best? He's not neutered.
 
Thank you - giving him up isn't an option, it would break all our hearts - and his! He's playing at the moment with a new willow ball, and is having lots of cuddles, but I know that doesn't make up for another piggy company.
I'll look at the links - I'm guessing another boat would be best? He's not neutered.

Yes, bonding with another boar would be the best option. Failing that and with access to an excellent piggy savvy vet in the Bristol area, neutering and bonding with a sow or two would be a valid alternative. However, you have to factor in a 6 weeks post-op wait until your boy is 100% safe to live with any sows of any age - provided that they like other when they meet.
 
Thanks, I just want to do what is right for him. How quickly should we be looking at getting a companion? Is it something we can take a couple of weeks over?
 
Thanks, I just want to do what is right for him. How quickly should we be looking at getting a companion? Is it something we can take a couple of weeks over?

Unless your boy is not eating and has lost his will to live, you can wait two weeks.
Take the time to read this guide here, and it is all explained in detail in there: Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig
 
He's definitely eating - hay, veggies, a hay cookie and a willow ball. I don't think guinea babies are an option!
I can't imagine having a replacement - well there can never be a replacement - I just want my piggie back
 
I am so sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking to lose a beloved piggy. Many of us have been where you are - distraught at losing a piggy, and then having to plan for a new companion for the survivor at a time when you feel that you just want the one you've lost. Take a little time to adjust. If your piggy is eating and drinking and isn't acutely pining you can take a little time to look around and try to take him boar dating to find a new cage mate. big hugs x
 
Thank you, I've had a look at a couple of local rescues - thank you for pointing me in the right direction. I'm sure I can explain to hubby how important it is - I think he is more attached to the pigs than he lets on actually!
 
He's definitely eating - hay, veggies, a hay cookie and a willow ball. I don't think guinea babies are an option!
I can't imagine having a replacement - well there can never be a replacement - I just want my piggie back

No new piggy is ever going to be a replacement; each bond is unique. But it is good that your surviving boar is not acutely pining, in which case immediate company is literally a life saving undertaking. In your case, it has helped that they have already been separated.

The problem is that guinea pigs and humans do not grieve any less than the other, but they grieve very differently. Guinea pigs need to get on with life much more quickly, and therefore need company much sooner than we humans are ready for.
Please regard a new companion strictly as something you do for your surviving boar, not for yourself. You are not required to love the new companion unless and until you yourself are ready for it. And you can be reassured that any new bond will be completely different to the one you have shared. Over time, it may not become less deep, but that is up to you and the new companion.
You may however find that seeing your surviving boy happy again will help you to concentrate on your own human grieving and actually help to alleviate it, knowing that despite your own needs, you have not failed any pet in your charge. ;)

When my most special piggy died after a long and desparate battle for her help, I was literally not able to feel anything towards her companion's new mate for several weeks and I was rather angry that she should fall in love on first sniff with a piggy with similar colouring to my Minx (although not the same breed or gender).
But seeing Dizzy happily in love with her neutered "husboar" did allow me to get over Minx's death in my own good time. And in my own time have come to love Llewelyn very much indeed. In fact, he became the founder piggy of my big group adventure after his beloved Dizzy died, aged 5 years old two years later.
But my relationship with any of the many piggies that have followed since Minx has been different. Indeed, I have a unique bond with all my piggies. None has ever replaced her in my heart and none has ever replaced any of the others. The good thing about love is that as every bond is unique, there is no limit on how many or how often you can love. Love is a river that flows, it is not a well that dries up. You are currently going through a rough patch. Do what is right for a piggy in your care, and you will find that the river of love is going to find its own new way. It is never flowing backwards, so it can never take away from you the love that you have shared.

I feel for you, having been there myself more than once. it is never easy to see a way forward when your heart is bursting with pain. Give yourself a few days to settle down a bit more and to do your research. You will find that doing something constructive will help you to cope better in some ways even if it is not taking away the pain of the loss.
 
Thank you, I've had a look at a couple of local rescues - thank you for pointing me in the right direction. I'm sure I can explain to hubby how important it is - I think he is more attached to the pigs than he lets on actually!

Men usually do. My dad used to called our childhood piggies "tail-less rats", yet I caught him crying badly over the first one we lost, so I realised it was just a front he put up.
Even my current husband stays aloof in my presence, but he is often more upset than me when we bury one of ours. I can usually hear him talking to my piggies when I'm not around... :D
 
I am really sorry for your loss. I can't add more to the excellent advice above from others but wanted to send you a hug. Losing our pets is a tough time made worse by the worry of having a single pig left behind. He does sound like he is coping though so that is good news. You'll draw strength from each other until you can hopefully find your little one a new buddy.
 
Thank you everyone for your replies and kind thoughts. Hubby should be home soon so we can have a first chat about how we feel about what to do next
 
You have to set the scene. darling sit down & I'll get your dinner would you like a beer or two. Why don't you go up the pub with your mates tomorrow. By the way honey I'm going to get a new piggy tomorrow. Tough.
 
I know a new one won't replace the one you lost, but your just getting a friend for your bereaved piggie. If you fall in love with him to it's a bonus.
 
Sorry lass to hear about you losin a piggie. going from 2 to 1 is a shock and saw raw at the moment. what was your piggie called pls. It really is great that your other piggie is eatin and playin plus gettin more tlc. We sent you our sorrow at this sad time. You gave your piggie a great life and thats all the best we can do. love Dave + Kath. xx
 
I've spoken to hubby and as soon as I said the best thing for him is to have a companion he said yes straightaway and he's already been looking at local rescues.
Hopefully in time we will adapt to having a different piggie family as part of our own.
Thanks all for your support, good to know there's such a great community.
 
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