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Lil-Ninnibig

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Me and my OH arent doing so well, and are on the verge of breaking up, which is devastating enough but on speaking to my parent about moving back home because i cant afford to keep our flat on my wages my dad has asked me not to bring Ditto, ditto is my pet and my OH doesnt really bother with him so i wouldnt want to leave Ditto with him, I'm devastated i dont know whats going to happen if me and the OH seperate... I may have to rehome my baby boy :( devastated... And angry at my dad as when i took ditto on i looked into all potential future issues and he said hed be fine with me moving back home with ditto in tow, now its come down to it hes said no way! I'm trying to make it work with my OH as i love him but we seemed to have fizzled out and i dint think its repairable now, we are more like friends, so with great sadness and I'm crying typing this out i wondered if anyone on here would be willing to take ditto on? Hes coming up to 4 perfectly healthy and housed in a ferplast 120 cage.... This is not for definate but I'm trying to work out all my options if it were to come to the worst.... I'm so stressed and upset ..sorry for rambling x
 
Oh my god how awful for you! Is there no way you can talk to your dad about how much you love Ditto and mention he is four now? I know how much you love him like your baby.

I am really sorry you and your partner are splitting up. That is very painful for you. Break ups are just awful. :(
 
Hi,

That is a really awful thing to go through. Can you not just have him in your room, your Dad won't know he is there though surely. Can't you explain how much the little fellow means to you?

Sillyx
 
This must be so awful for you :)

I agree with silly though, surely if you kept him in your room your dad wouldn't really know Ditto is in the house?

What are your dads reasons for not letting you keep him?
Explain to him how heartbroken you will be if you can't keep him with you.

I hope it works out for you.
 
aww how awful a time for you, what about trying to find a place where you could flat share that way it might be cheaper on you and still be able to keep Ditto
 
Where are you based, love? Might help just in case it does come down to someone offering a new home or fostering place.

I'm so sorry you're having trouble. Essentially the exact same thing happened between myself and my husband -- I love him to pieces and we were best friends, but it got to a point where we were basically flat mates and I just had to move on. It's hard but I'm sure whatever happens, you'll come out the other side in a better position.
 
Thankyou everyone your posts mean alot , the room my parents have spare is a box room and dittos cage wouldnt fit in along side the bed and wardrobe there is no floor space left at all it such a pathetic situation at 23 to be in .... I'm not keen on a flat share as i dont want to live with strangers i wouldnt feel safe and all my friends have babys or live with parents so cant put on them,, I'm going to discuss things with my dad but want to make sure whatever happens ditto has a good home wether it be with me or ...someone else... It really is hard to even think it,,, I'm from sheffield the only rescue i know is the lady who i got the abby baby off that didnt like ditto, but shes overrun as it is and so id rather he go to a home not a rescue but it has to be a pig friendly experienced owner... This is devatating
 
This is not your fault. You did not know things would not work out with your partner. It is very upsetting for you. I cannot understand why your father would mind having Ditto live with you though. He is part of you and you love him so surely he would understand? Maybe somebody on here would be able to take him as a last resort. I know they may not live local but with cars it is possible.
 
aww hope it works out for the best and you get to keep your buddy xx
 
What a terrible situation for you, if the worst comes to it someone on here is bound to be able to help you out even if it involves a piggy train xxxxxxxxx
 
I'm so sorry to hear that. Even five years later, thinking about my breakup with my last boyfriend hurts, so I understand how painful this is for you, and especially about Ditto. :(

I live in Canada so unfortunately, I'm unable to take him and I don't really have the space or money for another piggy, anyway (I'm assuming Ditto is a piggy?). Parents can be so awful about certain things, sometimes. I live on my own, but I occasionally make long, four hour trips to visit my family over holidays and whatnot and my parents will not hear of me bringing my boys with me, not even just for visits so I have to find piggysitters whenever I go away. It can be stressful and I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be thinking of you and hoping things end up working out for you.
 
Thanku again everyone ive been speaking to my mums whos happy to allow me to bring ditto with me and shes going to have a word with my dad, his reasons are that when they had ditto for a weekend while i was away few month back the dogs kept fussin around cage and wouldnt settle and barked and got excited as basically drove my parents mad because they wouldnt settle , my argument is because ditto was new to them! Hes the first piggy theyve ever seen given time they would learn to live alogside him and would probably ignore him and his cage its only because they were curious?! Fingers crossed i can make my relationship work if not I'm praying ditto can stay with me and my oh like he should be. It might sound soppy to some but we should be together we are a little family in our little flat and i dont want to lose either of my boys :(
 
Aww I really do feel for you. I hope your relationship does work out but please make sure it is for the right reasons. It is often tempting to try for a relationship as you do not want to make the change of not living together and you can think all sorts of things like you will never find anybody and do not want to be alone. I have done that myself.

Your mum sounds supportive which is great.
 
I am so sorry to hear this and I really do hope that things work out for you and Ditto whichever path you take.

I noticed you said earlier that it is a sorry state to be in at the age of 23. Trust me, it isn't.

A good friend of mine lived in London with his girlfriend for 5 years. Their relationship ended and at the age of 28, he had to move back to Nottingham and in with his parents. Two years later, he has just moved in with a friend and starting a new chapter in his life.

There's no shame in a relationship breakdown and/or moving in with parents.
 
I have no words to make you feel better but very much hope it all works out ok for you all.

I'm pretty close to you (Leeds/Bradford). I'm sure my boyfriend would drive me to Sheffield so... I don't know that I would want another piggie forever and ever right now, but if it comes to it and you want a temporary foster place for Ditto while you get settled, find a new place, blah blah etc. I'd be happy to help you. I have plenty of room upstairs where he could be kept away from my boars and get attention all to himself as I know from your previous posts that he likes to be on his own. Nickel's piggie spa, free veggie buffet twice a day. :)
 
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Oh god, how awful for you! Bless you and lil' Ditto! :( Try and persuade your dad, tell him how much Ditto means to you, and how devastated you'll be without him! If it comes to refusal, then perhaps an option could be to sell Ditto to a close friend, then once you have a different/cheaper flat of your own, buy him back? I don't know, I'm sorry :(
 
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So sorry for your situation, unfortunately i can't help you but i really do hope you get everything sorted. x
 
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