Still So Very Sad For Hover
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worried val of york
Adult Guinea Pig
It is natural to feel a loss after losing a beloved pet. I lost my Max recently and I still feel sad. Just try and remember the good times you had with Hover. You will never forget him but hopefully you will be able to cope and concentrate on looking after his two sows and their husboar because they need you as much as Hover did.
Galaxy&nibbles
Adult Guinea Pig
I'm sorry you still miss him so much. I hope soon you feel a little more at ease xx
It's all part of the human grief process I'm afraid. I lost our old girl Mrs Fudge in May and can still barely talk about it without filling up, so believe me I know how you feel. Piggies are pragmatic so will settle with their new partner, but it just takes us longer. And as I get older it takes me longer each time to get over a loss. My hubby still fills up too when we mention Mrs Fudge. Hugs x
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I'm so sorry you are feeling so sad. Take one day at a time x
I am ever so sad! You have lost so many of your long time furry companions in such a short space of time; they were all cherished babies of yours. The grieving process takes time; there are sadly no shortcuts. You have been through a lot in the last year; it makes it even harder for you to come to terms with losing a very special boy. As you know all too well yourself, you never stop missing them, but some are a bit easier to let go than others. Hover didn't have a good time of it at the end when you so desperately struggled to find an experienced vet that would see him asap; that is likely to stick longer in your mind and soul - and the raw pain of the loss never gets any less, irrespective of how many piggies you have or have had!
However, if you find that you are struggling to sleep and to cope with your daily life, you may find it helpful to talk to somebody who is there to listen to you on a free line specifically for pet bereavement, especially in the dark hours of the night.
SupportLine - Problems: Pet Bereavement: Advice, support and information
However, if you find that you are struggling to sleep and to cope with your daily life, you may find it helpful to talk to somebody who is there to listen to you on a free line specifically for pet bereavement, especially in the dark hours of the night.
SupportLine - Problems: Pet Bereavement: Advice, support and information
Huey Ling Tan
Junior Guinea Pig
I am sorry to hear about your lost and understand your grief. I sometimes do cry when I think of Digger. What he is up to and if he is thinking of me. They are such small animals and yet leave such a huge mark in our lives. I am sure Hover misses you too.
anniedabannie
Junior Guinea Pig
It's so easy to feel guilty, but you have to remember it wasn't your fault. Wherever he is now, he is happy and warm and there's endless treats for him to eat 
Be kind to yourself, and let yourself grieve. It's totally ok to feel sad for losing a best friend, whether they're human or not. I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you feel better soon 
Wiebke also makes a good point by providing you with a support line, they're really good and often it's helpful to talk to someone who doesn't know you and won't judge you x
Be kind to yourself, and let yourself grieve. It's totally ok to feel sad for losing a best friend, whether they're human or not. I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you feel better soon Wiebke also makes a good point by providing you with a support line, they're really good and often it's helpful to talk to someone who doesn't know you and won't judge you x
Moo
Teenage Guinea Pig
I don't believe some of us ever get over losing a loved furry family member, it just gets a little more Bearable at times, I think about my Moo every single day without fail, my wife still cries whenever she sees his Pigture or I mention him, but I now smile whenever I picture him sitting on my lap watching a movie, and how he enriched our lives and gave us the very best company we could ever wish for. I hope in time you can smile whenever you think of your Hover and the good times you shared.
piggieminder
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You care so much for your animals and give them a fantastic life, and they obviously bring you much joy, I hope you can find some comfort in that. It's so very sad when they leave us and grieving for them is natural, as Wiebke says if you need help when it gets too much don't hesitate to contact a support line. I hope you have a kind understanding friend you can talk to too and of course we are all here sending you our very best wishes and support. Huge hugs from me.
gizzy
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I still canot beleve it,
It would have been easer to undersand if there was a common reason , but they all died of bifferent causes.
Dotti , you could have knocked me down with a fether, Hoover had died and l thouhgt things couldent get any worse.
I whent to Robbins cage and he was tring to mount Dotti but when l had a closser look she was dead.
At first l though it Robbin hat had damaged her , but on closser inspection this was not the case.
She was peacfull there wasent even the open mouth as they try to cling to life.
I am not sure how old she realy was , but she was turned 5 so mabe it was just old age
It would have been easer to undersand if there was a common reason , but they all died of bifferent causes.
Dotti , you could have knocked me down with a fether, Hoover had died and l thouhgt things couldent get any worse.
I whent to Robbins cage and he was tring to mount Dotti but when l had a closser look she was dead.
At first l though it Robbin hat had damaged her , but on closser inspection this was not the case.
She was peacfull there wasent even the open mouth as they try to cling to life.
I am not sure how old she realy was , but she was turned 5 so mabe it was just old age
piggieminder
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You really have been through it lately with your guineas, please don't loose heart or blame yourself, you really are a wonderful caring owner. It does sound like it was old age with Dotti. It's understandable you feel sad, but look after yourself, your other guineas need you to be fit and well.
I lost Shadow after over a year of being in and out of the vets, and afterwards I realised that there were other things the vet could have tried, and I felt gutted, as if I had let her down for not knowing.
It was only a few months later when I lost Cloud. She was only 18 months old and had a heart attack (I believe). I thought it was out of the blue, and in a way it was, but looking back I think there were warning signs that something wasn't right, even though she had always bee so spritely and full of mischief. It's all too easy to blame yourself for things retrospectively. Almost immediately afterwards Sunrise developed mites, and at this point I was wondering what on Earth I was doing wrong, although she did recover from the mites. But it all seemed to be going wrong for them.
Guilt plus loss is a horrible combination to cope with. I find if I can acknowledge the fact that I did my best at the time, even though now I would do something else, I can let go of the guilt, and the grief, though still strong, is not so bad as grief + guilt.
There is nothing that you have done wrong, you really cannot predict these things and you haven't let any of them down in any way. Quite the opposite, they've had really good lives all thanks to your love and care.
Dotti was at an age where old age can take them, and it sounds like she drifted away in her sleep, seamlessly, the best way there can be. It doesn't stop you missing her, but she never suffered, and it's a relief in that.
Hover was special to your heart. They all are, but some hit you harder.
It will get easier, really it will. The memory doesn't fade, but it does get easier. It really is a horrible process to be going through.
It was only a few months later when I lost Cloud. She was only 18 months old and had a heart attack (I believe). I thought it was out of the blue, and in a way it was, but looking back I think there were warning signs that something wasn't right, even though she had always bee so spritely and full of mischief. It's all too easy to blame yourself for things retrospectively. Almost immediately afterwards Sunrise developed mites, and at this point I was wondering what on Earth I was doing wrong, although she did recover from the mites. But it all seemed to be going wrong for them.
Guilt plus loss is a horrible combination to cope with. I find if I can acknowledge the fact that I did my best at the time, even though now I would do something else, I can let go of the guilt, and the grief, though still strong, is not so bad as grief + guilt.
There is nothing that you have done wrong, you really cannot predict these things and you haven't let any of them down in any way. Quite the opposite, they've had really good lives all thanks to your love and care.
Dotti was at an age where old age can take them, and it sounds like she drifted away in her sleep, seamlessly, the best way there can be. It doesn't stop you missing her, but she never suffered, and it's a relief in that.
Hover was special to your heart. They all are, but some hit you harder.
It will get easier, really it will. The memory doesn't fade, but it does get easier. It really is a horrible process to be going through.
Goth Mummy
Adult Guinea Pig
I am still crying most days over my horse who I had to have PTS due to cancer in March, and get very tearful when I think about Ripple and Toffee, gorgeous guinea pigs who I lost last December. I think it's normal to be sad if you love them. Time will lessen the grief, but it did not go away completely.
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