Struggling to bond..

Emmamarie123

Emmamarie123

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Hi,
As you know I lost my popcorn this week. Alaska was very sad and I made the decision to get him another friend. He’s a beautiful boy called Liquorice.
However I am really struggling to bond with him as I am missing Popcorn so much.
Hoping I will be able to bond with him in the upcoming weeks.
Alaska is happier though and is laying with liquorice in their hay tray.
 
As long as Alaska is happy with Liquorice that is all you need to worry about at the mo. Alaska is happy with his new friend and is getting to know him. It takes a while after the loss of a much loved piggy to bond with the new one and to get to know his ways. Don't worry it'll come. What you have done is lovely putting your feelings aside while you are still grieving for Popcorn and put Alaska's needs before your own. Grieve for Popcorn. You will never forget him and he will be forever in your heart. You will learn to love Liquorice in your own time. You only said goodbye to Popcorn last week. It takes longer than that to grieve for a much loved pet.
 
You are doing a wonderful job and like @Betsy said it is hard putting your piggies needs before your own.
I am in a similar situation right now - I haven't lost a pig, but i have taken on one I didn't really want as a companion for Lucy after she was left alone when her bond with Ruby broke down.
Our new boy is great, I just don't love him yet.
But it was the right thing to do, and I know in time I will adore him as much as the others.
Give it some time and you will find space in your heart to love Liquorice, but in the meantime give yourself space and time to grieve for Popcorn too.
 
I’m so sorry.I went through the same thing when I lost Sam.I noticed Georgie just wasn’t himself and was just sitting in one spot in his cage so when someone posted on here about rehoming her bereaved boar I made the decision to take Georgie to meet him.Luckily they got on great and I brought him home with me that same day.It was only about a week after sams passing that this happened so I felt guilty as if I was replacing him and was missing him terribly but I knew deep down I was doing this for Georgie.It really helped to see the difference in him.It took me a while to bond to Guiseppe like I did with Sam and now(although I shouldn’t admit it) he’s come to be my favourite.

Big hugs xx
 
I can’t add to what has been said already.
They are all perfectly correct.
Hearts heal with time and a week is nothing for a human in terms of grieving.
We have a great capacity for love and given what you have done for Alaska I know that Liquorice will soon find his own place in your heart.
 
Like everyone has said finding it hard to love a new piggy after a much loved one has gone is very normal. I knew I didn't feel the same about Rusty as I did about the others but I didn't realise how indifferent I was to him until I took on Caspian and then Red who have both found a place in my heart straight away. Rusty took the place of Willow who died very young and very unexpectedly last year, it took me about 3 months to take to him at all. Bracken loved Rusty straight away and they are great together. Bracken has been ill the last two weeks and Rusty has looked after him, even taking him food to his bed. Rusty is now a full grown adult piggy and I feel bad I didn't bond with him all those wasted months but I'm getting to love him now.
 
You won't be able to love a new piggie straight away. It takes time to know them and learn their quirks and personality. Its the same when you meet someone new for the first time. Will you like them? Do you want to spend time with them? Do you want to know them for who they are not who you'd like them to be? The same goes for a piggy too.
 
This is little liquorice. Whose favourite floor time activity is running at full speed down the hall!
 

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What a gorgeous black abby! :love::love: You will fall in love with him when you have finished grieving. Just give yourself time and don't feel guilty that the love hasn't come immediately. Alaska is happy with Liquorice, Liquorice is happy with Alaska and that's all you need to worry about at the mo. You have made 2 lonely piggies happy.:)
 
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