Struggling With Bereavement

Ellievod

Ellievod

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Hi

My names Ellie. I've lost one of my girls unexpectedly - most probably due to age. I got home from work on Friday and found her passed away. I haven't stopped crying since and I miss her so much. Was hoping for some support and advice.

My other girl seems to be getting on ok. I will be getting her a baby companion in the next week as I don't want her lonely or depressed. They were both 3.

Thank you in advance
 
Hi Ellie,
I know how hard it is when you lose a piggy, having recently lost one myself I know how hard it hits you,
Were you able to have a small service for you lost girl?
Sometimes that can help bring closure and give you somewhere to honour the memory of them in the future.

Your by no means the only owner to feel devistated when losing a pig,
It might take a while for you to be able to feel okay enough to look back at photos and memories but that's okay
You'll get there and the memories will make you very happy, I promise :)
 
Really sorry for your loss. It is so difficult when you lose a piggy. All but one of my loses have been cremated through the vets and then added to plants. My initial two Bumble and Bea are with a japonica rubella plant which flowers in January which is when Bea (my first loss) passed. My next lot Peter, Jemima, and Isobel all passed closed together while it was too cold to be planting outdoors. I had a rose brought me in memory of my later father who also passed last year that needed repotting so in the spring I put my 3 in when I repotted that. I have one other who is buried rather than cremated and he is buried at my old house which I feel awful about as I had to leave him there. It helps for me to be able to see the flowers and think of them all
 
Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss,
Sleep Tight Little one
I think we all handle grief, differently. The one common factor we all have is we are all wrecks.
Even people that have been keeping guinea pigs forever, we cry buckets. I think you will find out, that once your cried out, you can think about the funny things she used to do, maybe put a photo of her on the wall, stuck to the fridge or in a album.
We have a thread called the rainbow bridge, maybe put a few words in their, when your ready.
Most of all you are not alone, anyone here with talk you through things.
It is great you are thinking about the lone piggy & getting a companion for here. x
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's devastating when we loose one of our little ones. We are all here if you need to chat and completely understand how you are feeling. *huge hugs* xx
 
TheLottiediarys said:
Hi Ellie,
I know how hard it is when you lose a piggy, having recently lost one myself I know how hard it hits you,
Were you able to have a small service for you lost girl?
Sometimes that can help bring closure and give you somewhere to honour the memory of them in the future.

Your by no means the only owner to feel devistated when losing a pig,
It might take a while for you to be able to feel okay enough to look back at photos and memories but that's okay
You'll get there and the memories will make you very happy, I promise :)
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Hi

Thanks so much for your reply. Yes my boyfriend has been amazing and he came straight home when I rang him and told him on Friday when I found her. We made her a nice box and put her in her favourite blanket and buried her in the garden and covered it with a slab. We left lots of hay for her.

Half of me wants to accept that she isn't in pain and is in no danger and was never ill, and she had an amazing life and it was just her time. But the other half of me feels guilty for accepting - I don't want to accept because I don't want to ever forget her. She was so special. She used to kiss me every time we had cuddle time. Our bond was incredible.
Thank you for your reply it has really helped x
She is the blonde one in the picture

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Flutterby said:
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's devastating when we loose one of our little ones. We are all here if you need to chat and completely understand how you are feeling. *huge hugs* xx
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Thank you. Just knowing I have people that understand gives me so much comfort. I am dreading going to work tomorrow because I feel people won't understand. I'm just going to keep myself to myself.
Our other baby is watching a film with us now x
 
The grief we feel on losing one of our beloved pets is no less real than the grief and pain we feel on losing any family member. Your loss was also completely unexpected and you had no time to prepare for the shock of finding that she’d trotted off to the Bridge. Having said that, I don’t think it’s easier even if you could have seen it coming or had time to prepare.

Be kind to yourself. Let the tears out. I weep buckets when I lose any of mine. I think it’s healthier not to keep it in. There’s no right or wrong way to how to grieve and we all grieve differently. I would find it a comfort that she’d gone peacefully and with her companion close by. But we are all different.

Hugs to you. You are among friends here. We understand.
 
Hello Ellie. My name is David and I'm newish to this forum. Your heart and feelings are so hurting cos you cared and loved her so much. It does lass and I can only say in time it does get better. lots of time. On this forum you will hopefully get some advise off people better than I on dealing with your loss for you and your remaining piggie. Pls look at the threads and use what helps Ellie. what are the names of your loved piggie. was she ill or was it sudden. I'm not takin away you grief as I was their about 3 months ago. my piggie PEDRO died and oh my I was lost. hurt. couldn't stop cryin. I was as you now struggling. I never even heard of this forum. But I needed to ask for help and on here I found other wonderful people who heard my cry for help and I got it big time. So you keep strong and brave for piggie. I was told about Rainbow World and phew:bye: it took me a while to accept my loss. Ellie remember the love and times together and you and piggie made them. She's at Rainbow World popcorn away piggie be free until we all meet again.
 
Don't feel guilty Ellie, guilt is part of the grieving process. You did nothing wrong, accepting is what you do,
& accepting is not going to mean you won't grieve.
A lot of us believe that our pets are over the Rainbow Bridge, & when we go, we will meet them again. Also they are having a wonderful time with thousands of guinea pigs up there. No dominance or fighting they are all best of friends & happy. xx
 
Thank you all for your beautiful comments. They have helped so much. Our baby was ok when we got home from work. We are thinking of getting a companion or two. Two baby girls. Will this be ok for her?

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We posted together! Glad she was alright when you got home. A friend or two would do your remaining piggy the world of good. If you look at the rescue locator in the green bar at the top of the page you will hopefully find a rescue close to you who could help your girl find her friends.
 
Ellievod said:
Thank you. Just knowing I have people that understand gives me so much comfort. I am dreading going to work tomorrow because I feel people won't understand. I'm just going to keep myself to myself.
Our other baby is watching a film with us now x
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Everything you're feeling is completely normal. Almost 2 months have passed since I lost my girl, Toast after she was very ill. I had to have 2 weeks off work after because I just couldn't even get out of bed in the morning never mind anything else, she was my best friend.

I know how hard it is when you know people in your life aren't going to understand because "It's just a guinea pig". That's why I also dreaded going back to work because I knew I'd have to pretend everything was fine.

People keep saying to me it gets easier, I'm still waiting on that happening but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone feeling the way you do. I found this forum to be such a big help because people here understand how close we can be to our pigs. I also found comfort from spending extra time with my remaining piggy. X
 
Beans&Toast said:
Everything you're feeling is completely normal. Almost 2 months have passed since I lost my girl, Toast after she was very ill. I had to have 2 weeks off work after because I just couldn't even get out of bed in the morning never mind anything else, she was my best friend.

I know how hard it is when you know people in your life aren't going to understand because "It's just a guinea pig". That's why I also dreaded going back to work because I knew I'd have to pretend everything was fine.

People keep saying to me it gets easier, I'm still waiting on that happening but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone feeling the way you do. I found this forum to be such a big help because people here understand how close we can be to our pigs. I also found comfort from spending extra time with my remaining piggy. X
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Thank you for this.
Did you get your piggy a companion?
Hope you are ok today. Lots of hugs
 
Ellievod said:
Thank you for this.
Did you get your piggy a companion?
Hope you are ok today. Lots of hugs
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Yeah I'm getting her a friend, I'm just waiting to hear back from a rescue. I thought about leaving her by herself but I just don't like the idea, I know she'd love the company. Do you know what you're going to do? X
 
I'm sorry for your loss. :( They are such unique little individuals and honestly, though it gets easier, I remember and miss every pig that I've lost. They were all special to me and still hold a special place in my heart. I'm actually looking at pictures of pigs I've lost as I speak- my daughter has a row of pictures of absent pigs on top of the computer desk. I promise you, you will never forget her. ((HUGS.))
 
It's seems like they are getting along very well. Sorry for your loss, you are coping very well given how sudden it was xx
 
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