Struggling with grief

Claire W

Claire W

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This is going to sound silly and I’m not even sure why I’m writing this thread to be honest but I’m really struggling with the loss of 5 year old Ellen who we had to help over the bridge one and a half weeks ago now :(

I just miss her so much and it hits hard every morning when I wake up and remember she’s no longer here :(

Edward and Elizabeth seem to have worked through their grief and are acting as normal. They have been out on the grass over the Easter weekend and I so wish that Ellen was still here to enjoy the grass with her friends.

When will the pain end :(
 
It is hard to lose someone you love,be it human or animal, by coming on here you are sharing your grief which can help you in your healing. It will take time, you will start to remember the good times with joy and not sadness, it will take time,we are here for you, be kind to your self. Big hugs .angiexx
 
I completely agree with @teddymouse. Over time you will start to smile more over what you had, rather than cry over what you've lost. But it does take time. My girl passed 4 weeks ago, and I'm getting there. It's good to be able to tell people that you are still upset about it, and to be honest about it. The forum allows that, because many of us have been there. Pretending you are OK because other people think you should be OK by now, is denying yourself. However you feel when you are grieving is fine, normal.

Please don't judge yourself harshly x
 
A week and a half is no time at all to grieve when we have loved as much as you loved Ellen.
She will always live on in your heart.
@teddymouse is quite right in saying that sharing here can help with the healing.
We understand how devastating it can be to lose a beloved piggy.
Holding you in my heart
 
Oh bless you @Claire W. Grief isn’t a single event. It’s an ongoing process that we all take our time to work through in different ways and at different speed. Ellen’s passing is so recent and raw, that I am not at all surprised that you feel it so keenly. And it isn’t silly to say how you are feeling. I still have a good, regular, sniffle about Felix who I lost earlier this year. But I think it’s completely natural if you’ve truly loved a piggy that they leave their mark on you as they are family members. Talking about how you feel really helps. We all understand this on here and are here to support you.
 
Hang in there sweetheart x

The world is a different place right now. Being away from friends and family and not being able to do the things we'd normally do affects us more than we realise. Grief is hard enough at the best of times, and we aren't in the best of times right now.

I wish i could come a give you a big hug x

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It’s completely normal, I remember after losing Smudge I cried every time I so much as thought about him for ages, then eventually the tears turned to smiles, even now I can’t bring myself to watch the videos I have with him in and I don’t even know why at this point! It will all get better soon I promise.
I have had many pets over the years and have lost many also and the pain is always the same, nothing changes, but it becomes more and more bearable until it is barely noticeable, then it turns to smiles and laughter when you remember all the good times you had together
What I usually do to commemorate a lost pet is paint a rock, and place it in the garden where they were buried, you might like to do that too
Everybody processes grief in a different way, and at different paces, but it will pass and it will get better. Ellen was a very special piggy and she loves you very much, just as much as you love her, she had a brilliant life and she was very lucky to have found her way to you

Remember that we are all standing by you right now and you can reach out whenever you like, don’t feel like you’re alone x
 
Please Claire give yourself time to work through your grief, try accept that this is a very sad time for you. You have lost your beautiful girl and soulmate, please don’t try to put on a brave face for other people. Your tears now will eventually turn into precious memories that will warm your heart every time you think of her, it will happen I assure you, but it will take a little and sadness first x
 
I fully understand. I massively struggle with the grief as well.
When Spike died last year, I just couldn’t come to terms with it I cried myself to sleep for weeks, the pain was unbearable and I hated myself through guilt and sadness. But slowly, somehow I came to terms with it and soldiered on. He’ll always be in my heart. And Ellen always in yours. It’s natural to grieve and some people struggle more than others. It’s hard to accept when a loved animal is no with us, it’s so upsetting to no longer see them. It’s a lot to process. But you’ll get there. You’ll be okay. You will heal, and one day you’ll smile at the though of Ellen instead of cry :hug:
sending massive hugs, always here to chat if you need x
 
I’m sorry Claire, it’s so hard when it’s so fresh and you miss you them so much :( Ellen was so special xx
I still cry about Rupert and Pedro sometimes and I lost Poopy Bear in May! Time’s definitely a healer though. We’re all here for you whenever you need us xx
 
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