Struggling with multiple end of lives / passings

Hi Little Ones, I knew we couldn't be the only ones but I'm shocked to hear everyone's stories of how they lost several piggies in close succession. It's so hard and I hope everyone on here or in a similar situation in the future can find moments of peace.

Totally agree with you on the videos. It makes me feel much closer to her than photos. Unfortunately most of the videos of them are of them eating hahaha. While filming them eating, your arms start to ache and you think.. I've been recording you eat for 2 minutes now. Surely that's enough but when you watch them back after they're gone, just watching a video of them eat is worth it and you're sad you didn't just keep recording them for ages.
Definitely agree! My phone is low in storage and sometimes I go through and consider deleting long videos of my living piggies eating. But I stop myself and think about how I would never delete the long videos of my deceased piggies eating. You really think these things are insignificant and unimportant until you lose them and suddenly then those videos are so worth it.
The best ones I have though are floor time videos, it’s especially cute when you hold the phone by them and they come over all curious and sniff the phone. They look so precious all close up but also their little sniffing sounds are so precious too! These little creatures are just so lovely, going into guinea pig ownership I never expected the love and the bonds that they’ve given me.
 
You have given all your piggies lives full of love and care.
This is why grief is so painful- we grieve the loss of that we love.
All along you have done everything possible for Leia and now for Ginger and Oreo.
These dark times will pass even though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment.
Grief takes its own time to work through.
Yes - we do understand what a huge hole in our hearts these little furry lives leave and so can support you and your boyfriend as you grieve.
Be gentle and patient with yourselves.
Holding you in my heart
 
BIG HUGS

I call it 'grieving indigestion' when you have so much loss in a short time that you cannot keep up with processing it. It takes all of us hard as each bond is unique and the loss hurts - and you are feeling very much like a walking raw wound.

I have several times lost three or four piggies in very close succession, sometimes in a matter of just days or a month. Even when your head knows that any of your piggies can develop a problem out of the blue and that problems come in batches and never nicely spaced out, it is still horrible to bear when you are in the thick of it. You can cherish any piggy that lives a long life span as a wonderful boon; but you can never bank on it. I have certainly lost about the same number of young piggies to all sorts of sometimes freak issues.

What counts is that you make the time with them a happy one for them; guinea pigs don't have a concept for a set life span. They measure their life in happy todays and being loved and well looked after. You and your partner are certainly doing that in spades! Your piggies couldn't have been luckier to have found you.

Give yourself time and be easy on yourself. You have to grieve as much as you love; it is so much harder when it is all so unexpectedly ripped away from you much earlier than you expected. There will be a time - once you are past the immediate hurt - when you realise just how much your pets are still with you in your memories and your heart because they are an integral part of your life and will always remain that way. The river of your life may move on and touch other lives, but those that have shaped its flow will always remain part of it and will be carried on with you in the current.
If you find that it helps you to look at old pictures and videos to remind yourself just how happy a life you have given them and how funny they were, please do so. If it hurts too much to even look at a picture for the next weeks or even months, then don't- it can go either way, and either way is perfectly fine and normal. I've experienced both, depending on my bond. There will be a time when it all comes together again either way.

Please take the time to talk and to write about your feelings or - if your inclinations lie in other areas - use whatever medium helps you best to express your grief; this is the best way you can help yourself and help with processing your overload.
I would strongly recommend to contact the free Blue Cross pet bereavement phone line or make use of their email service. All the members struggling with coping with their own loss that have come back to us have done so with a positive experience and found that it helped them.
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You can find more practical tips and contact links in our grieving guide: Human Bereavement: Grieving, Coping and Support Links for Guinea Pig Owners and Their Children

My thoughts are with you in this very difficult time. You couldn't have done more for any of them, and that is what really counts. The rest is out of your control.
Wiebke, what can I say? You always put so much time and thought into your replies on these forums and it means a lot to everyone I'm sure as well as us. Your stories of owning so many piggies over the years is inspiration and hope that we will be able to have those loving relationships with new piggies in the future.

I planned to write more but I'm very tired from all the emotion today. I'll get back on here again xx
 
Wiebke, what can I say? You always put so much time and thought into your replies on these forums and it means a lot to everyone I'm sure as well as us. Your stories of owning so many piggies over the years is inspiration and hope that we will be able to have those loving relationships with new piggies in the future.

I planned to write more but I'm very tired from all the emotion today. I'll get back on here again xx

Rest up and look after yourself, too. :(
 
Can’t add much more to what others have said. But I wanted to send you love and kind thoughts. It does, some how, get easier. I always feel as though the pain of the loss is worth all the joy and love you get from our animals. To have not had them at all is to miss out on so so so much.
Take care of yourself x
 
So so sorry to hear you are having a tough time. We can all relate on here and I'm so glad that you have reached out for support.

Last year I had a horrendous year. My beloved Odin was poorly for most of the year and I spent more or less the full year at home nursing him (I would have probably lost my job if it wasn't for lockdown and me being at home anyway). He had a huge range of complex issues. I wasn't eating or sleeping and I was even feeding him and nursing him every hour throughout the night (for months). It was during this time that two of my others also fell ill. I had Loki with ongoing respiratory issues (then lost him in September to what the vet thought was something more sinister underlying) and then we had Rocket with ongoing UTIs, though the vets could find no evidence of stones, he suddenly rapidly deteriorated within days (the fact that he developed symptoms of a stone this quickly suggests he had some sort of metabolic problem going on), and we lost him in November. All the while still worrying myself to death about Odin and trying to get him better. He picked up, gained weight and had the best time of his life for a few months before I lost him in December (which destroyed me, as he was and still is my soulmate). It's almost like he gave us a nice few months of seeing him gain weight, pop corn and have a great time, before he decided to lay down and go to his forever sleep.

So I totally understand your grief, worry and anxiety when it comes to the piggies. I can't always offer the best advice, but I can say that I wouldn't have made it through last year, and made it through losing Odin without this forum. The support I received here and the friends I have made help me through all aspects of life!

Just message if you ever want to talk. My fur babies and I are sending you lots of love 💗
 
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