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JaseChase

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My lovely boy Tofu crossed the bridge yesterday evening at the vets 💔

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Tofu had three friends in his life. The first was his twin pig Noodle, they came to me in 2021 when I had just got out of a bad relationship and was living on my own for the first time. They brought me so much joy with their antics 😍 Tofu was quite a timid pig at first. Took him over a year to really feel comfortable with hand feeding and health checks. Then he mellowed out into a little gentleman who loved a cuddle

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Noodle & Tofu saw me through three house moves and meeting my now-husband before we lost Noodle almost exactly a year ago 🌈

Tofu’s second friend was Patches, a rescue who brought out his relaxed side. Those two didn’t have a single brain cell between them (seriously, the number of times I had to remind them how chewing works 😂) but they loved each other enough to work as a team. Tofu taught Patches the joy of coriander and showed him what a good piggie life is before Patches was called over the bridge far too soon

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Then Tofu became an uncle boar to little baby Edamame 🥰 he was so gentle with this new tiny ball of chaos we brought into his life. I have never smiled more than those first few weeks watching Ed follow Tofu everywhere around the cage. Tofu started popcorning again (impressive with his arthritis!) and got back all his joy and enthusiasm

He taught Ed how to clamber on top of hideys to squash them, how to climb the bars to demand food, how to headbut the syringe away at *exactly* the right time to avoid evil medication, and most importantly how to be a happy guinea pig

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The end wasn’t a surprise. Tofu has had arthritis since he was two, problems with his eyes & sight loss for years, and a bladder stone that ultimately took his life. He let me know when he’d had enough and I had to listen

Goodbye, my sweet boy. Nothing will ever feel the same without you

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BIG HUGS

I am so very sorry that Tofu needed to join his mates at the Bridge but you have given him such a happy and fulfilled boar life despite his health issues and growing frailty.

It is always harder when you lose one of your initial piggies and one that has such biographical significance because your bond ties very deep in your heart.

Be gentle with yourself while you grieve for a steady companion through so much personal upheaval from the deepest of lows to the highest of joys; Tofu has been there with you and for you for all this time.
His passing is also bringing back your previous losses at the end of an important era because you have lost your direct connection to them. That is normal. Just give yourself the space and time to work through it all as you cannot hurry things on. It is not about which species but how deep your bond is, and how many other heart-ribbons are tied onto Tofu's that matters. We can love our pets unreservedly in a way that we rarely can with humans, which is why their loss is so hard to bear, no matter how hard you try to brace for it if you know that the end is coming closer.

Edamame will have known that Tofu has not been well and will be grieving but he should not be pining. Just leave your cage as it is (apart from poo patrol) to allow Tofu's scent to fade naturally for up to a week - or at least Tofu's favourite place and cosy to give Eddie the right to do his own grieving in his own way. You'll know when he is coming out of it (sooner than you) as his survival instincts/needs are more immediate and he is ready to face life again. This can differ enormously.
 
Tofu was a wonderful piggy who had a wonderful life with you. Popcorn high over the bridge with your old friends. ❤️
 
Sorry for your loss. That was a lovely tribute to Tofu. He’ll be in your hearts forever. Now reunited with Noodle and Patches 🌈
 
My heart sank when I saw sweet Tofu's name in this thread. I am so sorry you had to make the decision to say goodbye, it's never an easy one but one made with love. Tofu will live on forever in your heart.
Sleep tight Tofu.
 
Oh @JaseChase I'm so sorry for your loss 💜 Tofu really was a handsome and sweet chap. I will miss his sweet face on the forum. Now he's reunited with his crew at the bridge 🌈 sleep tight, Tofu
 
I am sorry to read your sad news. The bridge has been very busy this week :( He had an amazing life with you and would know just how much you love him. His imprint will always be with you on your heart. Grief is hard and I send hugs as you grieve.
Popcorn with your old friends beautiful boy 🌈
 
Oh no! I thought as soon as I saw Tofu's name on this thread😢 I know you'd been expecting this sometime soonish @JaseChase but I hadn't realised this soon. I've been following your boys avidly since Edamame came on the scene. I'm very sorry for your loss, especially since I now see you've had so many piggie losses in a short time. Be gentle with yourself as you grieve. ❤️‍🩹

Tofu had a wonderful life with you. Just think, just a couple of days ago he had a carrot cottage to share with Eddie and not so long ago pea flakes all to himself.

Over the years, I had a number of guinea girls with Tofu's colouring and fur (smooth, short-haired). I always thought of them when I saw pics of him.

Popcorn over at 🌈 bridge, Tofu, you sweet boy!
 
I have been reading these responses all day and I cannot thank you all enough. This forum is a godsend ❤️

I’m missing my lil guy every minute - all piggies are special, but he was extra special - and it’s just nice to know there’s a community of people who get it. Piggies are small but they leave big footprints in our lives

Tofu had been poorly for some time. I had hoped we’d get a few more months with him, but he was just done and I couldn’t keep him here when he was suffering. I saw his x ray at the vet, his poor knees and hips were all riddled with arthritis, never mind the 1cm bladder stone & damage it had done. He was down to 950g when he was 1300g at his prime weight

Even the vet said she was surprised to see how severe the arthritis was, in all four joints (both hips and knees). He’d been hiding his pain incredibly well. He was literally climbing a carrot cottage two days ago 🥰 I know he had the best final weeks he could have with Eddie, and now he’s reunited with the crew over the bridge (sadly with lots of company this week, it seems)
 
So sorry you lost Tofu he was a lovely boy and good Uncle piggy to Eddie. Sleep well Tofu. Reunited with Noodle and Patches.
 
I've just seen this news about Tofu. I'm so sorry, I've been following his and Edamame's story and am so sad to read that you've lost him 🩷
 
He was a handsome boy. Sorry for your loss 💔 Can't imagine what you're going through.
 
What a lovely tribute to handsome Tofu.
He had a wonderful life with you and will leave a big hole in your heart.
Be gentle with yourself as you grieve.
Holding you in my heart ♥️
 
Really sad news. Tofu sounds like an absolute legend, and a really important part of your life and of his various little friends. A beautiful tribute. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Well done for giving him the best life, what a wonderful time he had in your care. Take care of yourself as you grieve.
 
All the bits for Tofu’s memorial have arrived so now he’s on the shelf with the others ❤️ I do miss his cuddles, as much as Ed & Meg are keeping me busy

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You never stop missing them, especially the special bits, because your love never stops.
Sometimes the yearning can be rather physical and not just emotional. It eases with time but we are not talking about weeks or even months. :(

Tofu will always live in your heart. You can always recall those cuddles in your mind in your dark moments once the wound has healed but left a scar.
 
I still think about Tofu, even when you are writing about Edamame and Nutmeg. Because I wrote to Edamame a number of times, referring to his uncle Tofu, they are somewhat entwined in my mind. Recently I was wondering how you were doing @JaseChase because I was sure you'd still be grieving sometimes.

That's a lovely memorial you have for all three.
 
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