When is the right time?

Runningfree · Jun 20, 2011

Me again, i know you all must be fed up seeing posts from me. But i wont banter away.
As you know my beautiful little piggie Stig died this morning. I am doing better than i thought i would be, i knew it was coming. He wasn't well for a long time. And in a way i am glad he is at peace.
My boyfriend wants to get me a new piggie. I'm not really thinking of me right now. But i do want Winston to have a buddy he has been living along for over 2 weeks and he is such a sociable piggie, if not a little bossy. My OH called a rehoming centre and apparently they have a young male ready for adoption but i don't know if it is too soon to be getting another piggie when i have jut lost Stig, is it disrespectful?

I want to add this isn't myself and my OH just wanting a new piggie for the novelty. We want Winston to he happy as he is so much fun right now. But again i feel weird thinking about this. I know how much we love Stig and i wont ever ever forget him. It almost feels cruel to not have a buddy for Winston...thoughts please! x

Mother Hubbard · Jun 20, 2011

Sorry for your loss, I think your OH has the idea right, whilst it may feel weird for you, your winston needs a friend, it might also help you too. Good luck

Abi_nurse · Jun 20, 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. I certainly dont think its disrespectful at all. I can understand your OH. You need to be happy too though. But of course Winston too. I cant tell you whats best to do, but i know you will come to the right decision. Let us know how you get on. And take care of yourself. It really takes it out of you when you loose a pet, especailly when you've been fighting illness with them for long. Hugs and piggie kisses sent your way from me and my gang. Take care.

x.

Rilenceny · Jun 20, 2011

Awh, we understand! Your lone pig need a new friend, and certainly Stig'd love to know that you're keeping him in your memories forever and would be glad to see you moving on with newer pigs! *Hugs*

William&Keith · Jun 21, 2011

I felt exactly the same when Keithy died - but adopting my Alan & Clive - William is doing better than I could have expected.

Stig will always be remembered and this is just the next chapter.

Glynis · Jun 21, 2011

The right time is when you are ready, but also when you can cope with giving your piggie (Winston) his new friend and able to go thru the bonding process............ it's not easy and so many on here have struggled thru this.......... i too had some issues but was not able to do what i wanted (family refused grr)

Don't be pushed you be ready and let Winston be ready xx>>>xx>>>xx>>>

and no it's not disrespectful.................Stig was well loved and you and he knew how much x)x)x)

it's personal only you will know XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

p.s. oh yeah................ no not fed up with seeing your posts.............. HUGS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

gogoguineas · Jun 21, 2011

I agree, when you feel ready is fine and I'm sure given some time you will find the perfect buddy for winston, remember they are so socialable, its all in his interests.

I'm in a similar situation ( see my thread Mr Fuzz needs a friend! in rehoming and rescues) and I'm having a bit of trouble just due to where i live i think but i've put the feelers out ans hopefully my fuzz will be going on a date sometime soon!
His pal, Peanut died back in feb and i've spent a lot of time wondeeing about replacing Peanut so I understand how you feel, big hugs!x

miss_piggy · Jun 21, 2011

So sorry to hear about Stig.

After my first pig died I was absolutely devastated. It happened very suddenly and it was the first time 'I' ever had to make the decision to have a pet PTS. My little boar Spike loved his girlie and it was painful to see him by himself.

I'd always had an arrangement with my mum to take on her 2 if anything happened to Buffy and whilst I knew it was right to get him a friend straightaway I actually sent him to my mum's to do the bonding because I just wasn't in the right frame of mind.

Sounds stupid but it's took me a while to bond with Daisy and Baby because I just wasn't ready to be involved in the process. You'll know when your ready because you'll want to part of it. Personally I wish I'd just waited a little while to grieve Buffy and then been able to get 'excited' about introducing a newbie.

Hope it helps and best of luck x