when you lose a pet

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Might be a weird post this, but every time i lose one of my beloved pets, i have to take a picture of them before i bury them in their little lovespot in my garden.

I just wondered if anyone else does this?

I dont know why i feel the need to do this, maybe its because i cant let go? Maybe i just need to see them as they were when they left me? I think it comforts me that i can keep looking at them as they were the second they passed.

I know I'm craaaaaazzzzzzyyyyyyyyy. :red
 
Well everyone is different so I wouldn't say you're crazy.

Personally I wouldn't do that as I wouldn't like to see it, it would upset me too much.

I'd prefer photos of them happy and full of life, to remember them as they were.

But everyone's different.
 
I know its just bizarre, i cant even explain it, just for the few days after they pass i kind of need to look at them. :{
 
I can totally understand that. Maybe it's that if you can look at it for a few days, it helps you accept it? Afterall, when people that we love die, we can go to see them at the funeral home, and people say it helps us to come to terms with their death.
 
I didn't take piccies but I find I bring the picture up in my head when they passed just to help me remember they are gone and 'make sure' i still miss them almost the bit of sadness i feel when i see it reminds me that i still love them and haven't forgotten them. i probably sound strange! inbreeding
 
It takes time for the fact to sink in, and it can help having a picture.

I took one when Minx took leave of Mischief, and it helped me looking at it and coming to terms with what had happened.
 
It's not crazy at all. It's how you deal with it and how you learn to come to terms with it.
I never can come to terms with it...I can't even look at them once they've passed. I've always gotten someone else to put them in a box for me.
I just...Leave them where they are, go out and find a box, a plain - smart looking one and I will fill the inside with bedding and something warm and snuggly...And then give the box to someone else to put my pet in.

I could never handle seeing them...After they've passed.
My only real experience with loss is with Hamsters but it doesn't hurt any less and I certainly never loved them any less than any other pet.
I've lost one Guin...That was my precious Louie, my first love of the piggy world. I couldn't even look at him, I got the vet to put him in a box for me. It wasn't through lack of love...I just couldn't imagine him not being full of life. I didn't want to see him that way.

So you see, I think you are far braver than I am. Being able to look at them and deal with it in such a way, I think you're very strong and not at all crazy.

And now I'm crying...
 
lol me too!

When i get back from the vets i sit and hold my beloveds for hours, my boyfriend thinks its really weird, but i dont care, i hold them until i want to.

I have done it with all my pigs, but the real tough one was when i lost my best friend Nancy dog in May last year, she was heavy and hard to handle but i just couldnt let her go....................

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It's not wierd at all, everyone has their own coping mechanisms.

When Bailey was pts the vet wrapped him in the towel I had in his carrier and I left him like that. I want to remember him as the cheeky munchkin and I would have found it too hard to see him like that8...
 
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We all deal with loss in different ways and its important that we go through the process that helps us. I hold them too, just one last cuddle.They are a very impotant part of our lives.

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I can understand wanting to have a picture of them. I took a picture of Charlie an hour before I took him to be PTS, all you could see was his nose peeking over a cuddlecup, but I had to know what his last photo was. I didn't want a pic of him looking so ill and not himself, although even just his nose didn't look like his. :(

I too bring the image up in my mind every once in a while. I'm not sure why. I can handle seeing them when they have gone, I struggle to stroke them though and I can't handle lifting them at the moment, especially when they're cold and been gone a while. I've not yet held a pig as they pass, nor saw them as they passed...I don't look forward to the day.

Sad topic but an important one I think. Death is as natural a part of life as everything else we discuss, desensitising to the idea is usually helpful in the long run.
 
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