Why Do I Feel So Guilty

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rachael

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I lost my beautiful girly called mizzie, who was 9 years old, nearly 2 years ago. She lost the use of her back legs and I had to make the decision to put her down. I was sat in the waiting room and she was eating cucumber. I picked her up to carry her to the back room and she was shaking as she was in so much pain. I felt so guilty as she seemed to be fighting so hard to get better. I felt like I was betraying her. She had tried so hard for me and for her to get better. I stayed with her to the end. I feel so guilty about this. I miss her so much. Did I do the right thing?
 
Guilt is a natural part of grief and I still feel guilty over the times we have had some of our piggies PTS.

The fact she was in so much pain shows you made the right decision. You never would not do because you love her. Often PTS is the final act of love we can do for our little ones and we choose their quality of life and welfare above the hurt we will put ourselves through by helping them on their way across the bridge.

I am sorry you are hurting, grief is a rollercoaster and the emotions come and go like waves. One day you will look back and smile and remember the good times above all else.

You didn't betray her, you were there when she needed you the most. Huge hugs
 
Making the decision to help our beloved pets on their way to the Bridge is one of the worst things we piggy slaves have to face. But you did the kindest thing for your little one. It's natural to feel guilt and grief even years later and you aren't alone in feeling this way. Big hugs x
 
sport_billy said:
Guilt is a natural part of grief and I still feel guilty over the times we have had some of our piggies PTS.

The fact she was in so much pain shows you made the right decision. You never would not do because you love her. Often PTS is the final act of love we can do for our little ones and we choose their quality of life and welfare above the hurt we will put ourselves through by helping them on their way across the bridge.

I am sorry you are hurting, grief is a rollercoaster and the emotions come and go like waves. One day you will look back and smile and remember the good times above all else.

You didn't betray her, you were there when she needed you the most. Huge hugs
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Grief truly is a hard thing to go through. I think it's because in the past my other piggies have been so ill that I have had no choice but with mizzie it was different. It's funny how you can be fine one moment and then in tears the next. Thank you for your response it has helped. I just keep thinking to myself could I have done anything different.
 
VickiA said:
Making the decision to help our beloved pets on their way to the Bridge is one of the worst things we piggy slaves have to face. But you did the kindest thing for your little one. It's natural to feel guilt and grief even years later and you aren't alone in feeling this way. Big hugs x
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I am glad it is natural. I was sat here in tears telling myself that I need to deal with it but it is so hard when you have lost a piggie who was part of the family. I just hope she's happy now. I miss her so much.
 
I think you did the right thing. The fact that your piggy was nine years old really shows how well you took care of her and what a long, happy life she had. It sounds like you are an amazing pig mama.
 
rachael said:
I am glad it is natural. I was sat here in tears telling myself that I need to deal with it but it is so hard when you have lost a piggie who was part of the family. I just hope she's happy now. I miss her so much.
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Bless you, there are many of us who feel,exactly the same. I still fill up thinking of the piggy in my avatar and I had her PTS Over 2 years ago. Some piggies touch us more than others and leave a very big hole in your heart when they go. At least here on the forum we are among others who understand. Big hugs x
 
lexi468 said:
I think you did the right thing. The fact that your piggy was nine years old really shows how well you took care of her and what a long, happy life she had. It sounds like you are an amazing pig mama.
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Thank you lexi. I think the secret was lots of TLC. I used to cuddle her every night and I miss it so much. Every time I felt down she was there to make me happy again. It's so hard when you lose them. Why is it doing the right thing hurts so much.
 
I haven't been through this.....yet but I hope that when that time comes I have the love and courage to do the right thing just as you did. I bet she's popcorning happily, pain free and knowing how much she was and still is loved.
 
VickiA said:
Bless you, there are many of us who feel,exactly the same. I still fill up thinking of the piggy in my avatar and I had her PTS Over 2 years ago. Some piggies touch us more than others and leave a very big hole in your heart when they go. At least here on the forum we are among others who understand. Big hugs x
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Yeah this place is amazing for that. Thanks. Big hugs to you too. I have had previous piggies and don't get me wrong I miss them loads but I think mizzie was different as I had had her so long if that makes sense
 
irene said:
I haven't been through this.....yet but I hope that when that time comes I have the love and courage to do the right thing just as you did. I bet she's popcorning happily, pain free and knowing how much she was and still is loved.
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Irene thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you dont experience this for a while. forums like this really do help. I will never forget her.
 
You 100% did the right thing, especially as she was in so much pain. It is the kindest thing we can do for them.
 
Mizzie gave you 9 wonderfull years , all she asked was that you provide love and
care for her, and thats exacly what you did,
you were there when she needed you the most and you let her have a dignified end to those
wonderfull years

you are a wonderfull keeper, but l can truly understand how you are feeling
x
 
as others have said, guilt is unfortunately a horrible part of grief. but you did such a kind thing for your little girl - letting her go because it was best thing for her, even though it was awful for you. i am sure it was a massive comfort to have you with her until the very end. it sounds like you had a lovely bond and loved each other very much. i'm very sorry for your loss x
 
I know its a bit corny, but if you remember when the queen mom died way back in
2002,
the queen said at her funeral ,(quote)
the price we pay for love is greef
 
:( The fact that you still feel so guilty after 2 years just shows how much you loved her. If you didn't love her so much, you would not give it a second thought. Nine years is a fantastic age for a piggie, given that 5-6 is the average. As has been said in previous posts, you must have given her the very best care and tons of love to enable her to reach that great age. And you continued to do so at the very end, by putting an end to her pain. The pain of losing her will lessen over time, but she will remain in your heart forever. :hug:
 
Oh @rachael :hug: That's brought a tear or two to my eyes. You certainly did the right thing. You knew she couldn't get better, even if she didn't. She only had pain ahead of her, but the fact that she was a fighter shows just how much she had enjoyed her life, and wasn't depressed even up until the end. It seems inevitable though that she would have eventually deteriorated emotionally as well as physically, and you spared her that pain. She only knew love, and the joys of being alive, for nine long years, long for a piggy. You saved her from the depression that would have come to her through her pain. Her passing was gentle, and you were with her to help her on her journey.
You seriously have nothing to feel guilty about. Not a single thing
 
Hugs to you @ Rachael, I know how you feel and how hard that guilt is, I agree with all the others have said and can add no more.
 
piggieminder said:
Hugs to you @ Rachael, I know how you feel and how hard that guilt is, I agree with all the others have said and can add no more.
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You loved Mizzie so much that you had to put her first , and make that hard decision on her behalf. Guilt is a natural emotion but you need to cherish the 9 years you had together and to remember that you took her pain away . You have been blessed to have had her for so long and with time , your tears will be replace with a smile on your face when you will think of her, which I'm sure us everyday . Tears are part of the greving process and they will fade away , but your love and memories of Mizzie will always stay forever in your heart .
So please don't feel guilty as you fud what was best for Mizzie.
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